Do you do your own stocking or does your dh do it?

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We’ve never done adult stockings and my parents stopped when we grew up. I love the idea of doing them now and will do one for my dh this year. Question is - do I ask him to do one for me or shall I do my own? 😉

He actually did one for me many years ago but stopped as it was always with my family who didn’t do adult stockings, so I know he wouldn’t be obtuse to it.

What would you want in yours?

I was used to doing everyone's (exH never bothered with any of it) Years later, remarried, and pleasantly surprised that DH buys bits for everyone in secret, wraps them, and adds them in.

I love Christmas stockings - often the best bit.

DH does mine, he’s pretty good at it, it tends two or three expensive things and then some more run of the mill stuff.

I didn’t have a stocking as an adult, same as dh, they’re for our children.
but the last couple of years, since the the eldest 2 have been earning they make me one too! Dh gives them some extra money on top and they go all out. It’s lovely of them and Dh is generally quite shit at choosing things, he wouldn’t think about all the little things I buy and use throughout the year probably because he doesn’t know about any of it 😂
I wouldn’t be buying my own because I just buy what I like or want or need as and when I see or think about it and then just use it straight away.
dh doesn’t have one, he’s not really into presents!

I've never heard of adults getting stockings! Is this one of those things people don't mention and then you find out your family is odd for not doing it?

😆

Always sad on Boxing Day how many people on here receive nothing from awful OHs who can’t be arsed at all. Please buy yourself something lovely if that’s the case.

Does it actually make it better that you buy something yourself though?

Yes definitely. I love Laneige lip mask and Diptique hand cream. These things make me happy 😂 DH wouldn’t think to buy them. He will buy me something like a Dyson Airwrap, which is nice, but I don’t particularly desire one or need one.

Hopefully everyone can treat themselves 😊

So what indeed! Never not odd though.

@ChristmasCwtch If I didn’t receive anything from my DH I would be very upset & disappointed. for me buying something for myself wouldn’t make those feelings go away.

I was also disappointed in Laneige lip masks though!

Well, I do my own and don't find it odd. We have one DC so put up a stocking for him, plus one for DH and one for me so DS's doesn't look lonely on its own. That's the only reason, tbh.

I only put small things inside - a bit of chocolate, a book and a pair of socks, usually.

I buy the bits for mine early, wrap them and then have usually forgotten what they are by Xmas Day! DH gets me a present under the tree but I do the 3 stockings.

Not sure why people have to question the point - what's the point of anything?! People like different things.

We don't do adult stockings, but 2 points

Buying your own gifts is weird. PiL used to do this or give each other cash from the joint account!

The things on the lists are proper gifts, not stocking fillers! Perfume, earrings, underwear, nice makeup, etc, are all quite expensive. What are you getting for your actual Christmas present? A car?

I do it... honestly I think the thought never even crossed him mind although to be fair neither of us grew up with stockings really. It just means I get to buy little bits of crap I want for myself lol.

I started doing them for the kids, I don't think he really thought much about it and then one year I mentioned that I always have to do my own and I think he sort of took note but still doesn't get it. Now when we are unwrapping presents under the tree he will hand me one and say 'this is your stocking' (like yeah thats not how stockings work lol).

People saying they are for kids.

Actually traditionally Christmas stocking where only for unmarried women (the real saint Nicholas would leave money hidden in the stockings of poor single women while they dried on the line which is why money or now chocolate coins is the main tradition) so they where entirely for adult women not children originally.

I initially thought this but what if he gets the wrong stuff 🤣 I might find lots of little bits to treat myself with I never get.

Haha this is the thing, we do each other big gifts. For me stockings are cute little bits.

Stocking aren't really 'gifts'.

And do you never buy anything for yourself ever, if so thats quite sad. Buy yourself your favorite chocolates or sweets, that random gadget/niknak/ornament you love but dont 'need', that nail varnish and file in the new colour you want, that book by your favorite author etc... its not sad/bad its just basic self care.

Its fine to buy yourself a cake on your birthday, its fine to drink in a pub or go to a spa alone, its fine to buy yourself things you like/want that aren't day to day necessaries... you don't have to wait and rely on other to do it. We are all strong independent women with the ability to be happy by ourselves instead of martyring ourselves waiting for others too. Some don't have anyone else to rely on.

We don't do stockings here, not sure if it's an Irish thing but stockings for children are mainly used as decoration or a selection box in it, there is if course people who fill them, we definitely don't do them for adults, reading the fillings they all sound like actual Christmas gifts that we'd wrap and put under the tree, how big are your Christmas stockings to fit so much in

I didn't get one from age 12 - 43 when DD did one for me. It was AMAZING!

Of course, but I think it's weird to buy yourself a stocking for Christmas day when you have a husband/ partner/ family member/ friend who would do it for you. Just seems to emphasise the materialism of it all to sit there unwrapping your own present to yourself, from yourself.

DH used to buy mine but for the past few years my children aged 15&13 buy for us. I give them the money and take them into the city and they have great fun buying for us (whilst I enjoy a coffee and read my book)
on Xmas morning we all pile into our bed and it’s lovely opening our stockings and watching the excitement on their faces.

Dh always does mine, really basic but I always love opening it, chocolate coins, tangerine always and then just a book, pjs, maybe some pens/stationary.

But its not a 'present' its a tradition.

What about it makes you think the people doing it have other people to do it... if they did they clearly wouldn't have to do it themselves.

Lets be honest even with married couples Christmas majoritively falls to the women to organize and this is just part of it.

It hurts no one so there is no need to shit on the little things that make someone feel happy... why can't the person that does all the work also be involved in the rewards.

Its like baking a cake, not out of necessary just a treat but then watching everyone eat it and not having any yourself because then you would be greedy sitting around eating a cake you baked yourself... sounds stupid doesn't it.

Omg we love stockings! As a kid, we used to get our main presents in the morning and then after lunch, a stocking with little things in it like a balloon car each so we’d have a family race, some smellies, sweets etc. We do the same now we have DS. Last year my sister, mum and nephew came and I did them all, they loved it! My husband does most of mine but I may get for example 4 of something and 1 will be for each stocking. It’s not main gifts, just little, thoughtful things with a bit of fun too. I try to fill them with useful things, and edibles rather than rubbish. They’re a big and lovely part of our Christmas

So many smug marrieds on this thread .
Reasons to do your own stocking .
You don't currently have a partner
You have a partner who is a rubbish present chooser or just doesn't want to do a stocking
You don't want him wasting money on things you don't like , need or will use .
Maybe you've just worked damn hard all year and need some self care and indulgence.
Maybe you never spend on yourself cos your kids come first .

Use your imagination people and you'll see there are many reasons why people would do their own stocking .

I can’t believe this is even a question or that it’s common for people to do their own stocking.
Buying your own gifts for your husband to wrap and ‘surprise’ you with is so depressing.

Nope, not new; my family always did stockings for everybody from the late '50s (when my oldest brother was born) though the '80s when I was a teen, and as far as I know my friends' families did too. Adults typically did not get a huge gift or set of gifts from Father Christmas (or Santa Claus, if that's your tradition) but everybody got a stocking.

My mum does it!