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MIL has announced she's staying for lunch

67 replies

PolkaDotMankini · 26/12/2022 11:32

And I want to cry. We have three child-free days this year and she's been here for two of them. She's lovely and an easy house guest but please go away now so DH and I can have some time on our own!

I will of course host her nicely.

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iwantahippopotamus · 26/12/2022 11:51

Bit cheeky that she just invited herself to lunch. Say you have plans and ask her to come back a bit later. My sister's MIL is the same way, she'll just invite herself and insert herself into plans

Soontobe60 · 26/12/2022 11:54

Where are your children???

Soontobe60 · 26/12/2022 11:55

Also, have lunch very early then tell her you’re both going back to bed for a bit of a nap and she can let herself out after she’s done the pots 😂

JackieDaws · 26/12/2022 11:59

Soontobe60 · 26/12/2022 11:54

Where are your children???

What's it got to do with you?

DiddyHeck · 26/12/2022 12:02

Soontobe60 · 26/12/2022 11:54

Where are your children???

Such a nosey question lol.

But the obvious guess would be at their dad's maybe?

Mariposa26 · 26/12/2022 12:03

Soontobe60 · 26/12/2022 11:54

Where are your children???

Why is this anything to do with you?

Gensola · 26/12/2022 12:04

Tell her to go away!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/12/2022 12:05

JackieDaws · 26/12/2022 11:59

What's it got to do with you?

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This is a chat forum - and posters are chatting? How boring if the point is strictly kept to. Very short threads in that case.

BHRK · 26/12/2022 12:05

Am I the only one feeling sorry for her?

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 26/12/2022 12:06

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HowDoYouOwnDisorder · 26/12/2022 12:08

Why are you hosting her and not your DP?

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 26/12/2022 12:08

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3peassuit · 26/12/2022 12:09

Can’t you tell her you and your partner are looking forward to a bit of time on your own. I’m a mil and if my daughters said it to me I’d understand.

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PolkaDotMankini · 26/12/2022 12:12

MIL's been staying with us since early on Christmas Eve. She got here before the DC woke up! The DC are indeed at their dad's. They don't usually stay overnight.

I could tell her that DH and I are looking forward to some alone time (she'd think it was quite funny) but DH is here and it would kill the mood somewhat. We're all doing a jigsaw at the moment. I'd really just like to go to bed and eat the remains of the cheeseboard instead of wondering what I can rustle up for lunch.

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Deckthehallswithbenandhollly · 26/12/2022 12:13

@DiddyHeck

But how can there only have three child free days a year if the kids have a dad they visit?

It's perplexing

Also tell MIL you're ill OP

Original poster
PolkaDotMankini · 26/12/2022 12:13

MIL knows very well that I'm not ill.

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ImAvingOops · 26/12/2022 12:15

Some people are so tactless. Can you tell her you have plans with friends this afternoon

Leavesaregood · 26/12/2022 12:17

Can't you just say your plans for the day are to not cook proper meals and go back to bed shortly. Recover from Christmas/enjoy not having anyone to look after before kids come back?

Cuppasoupmonster · 26/12/2022 12:18

Feign a migraine and go to bed with a book and hot chocolate

Prinnny · 26/12/2022 12:21

Just say what you’ve said here…oh sorry I’m not making lunch, we’ll just finish off the cheeseboard later when peckish.

lottiegarbanzo · 26/12/2022 12:31

Just tell her no-one's making lunch. It's help-yourself to leftovers day for you and DH, as you hadn't expected any guests today.

FelineTomato · 26/12/2022 12:31

BHRK · 26/12/2022 12:05

Am I the only one feeling sorry for her?

No. Especially if she lives alone.
To the OP’s three child-free days a year she may have 362 days a year of living alone.

WeAreTheHeroes · 26/12/2022 12:32

Has she actually announced this without you checking when she's staying until? She may have thought she was welcome to stay longer?

But I'd have said you were going somewhere/doing something that meant she had to go.

Shooshan · 26/12/2022 12:33

What's wrong with you?

" sorry, we're planning on spending the rest of the day in bed. Have a safe journey home"

DiddyHeck · 26/12/2022 12:33

Is your DH as bothered as you are OP?

It seems strange he hasn't pulled her aside and gently explained the situation.

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