MIL has announced she's staying for lunch

[PolkaDotMankini]

And I want to cry. We have three child-free days this year and she's been here for two of them. She's lovely and an easy house guest but please go away now so DH and I can have some time on our own!

I will of course host her nicely.

Bit cheeky that she just invited herself to lunch. Say you have plans and ask her to come back a bit later. My sister's MIL is the same way, she'll just invite herself and insert herself into plans

Where are your children???

Also, have lunch very early then tell her you’re both going back to bed for a bit of a nap and she can let herself out after she’s done the pots 😂

What's it got to do with you?

Such a nosey question lol.

But the obvious guess would be at their dad's maybe?

Why is this anything to do with you?

Tell her to go away!

This is a chat forum - and posters are chatting? How boring if the point is strictly kept to. Very short threads in that case.

Am I the only one feeling sorry for her?

Why are you hosting her and not your DP?

Sorry, total reading failure, have asked for it to be removed.

Can’t you tell her you and your partner are looking forward to a bit of time on your own. I’m a mil and if my daughters said it to me I’d understand.

MIL's been staying with us since early on Christmas Eve. She got here before the DC woke up! The DC are indeed at their dad's. They don't usually stay overnight.

I could tell her that DH and I are looking forward to some alone time (she'd think it was quite funny) but DH is here and it would kill the mood somewhat. We're all doing a jigsaw at the moment. I'd really just like to go to bed and eat the remains of the cheeseboard instead of wondering what I can rustle up for lunch.

@DiddyHeck

But how can there only have three child free days a year if the kids have a dad they visit?

It's perplexing

Also tell MIL you're ill OP

MIL knows very well that I'm not ill.

Some people are so tactless. Can you tell her you have plans with friends this afternoon

Can't you just say your plans for the day are to not cook proper meals and go back to bed shortly. Recover from Christmas/enjoy not having anyone to look after before kids come back?

Feign a migraine and go to bed with a book and hot chocolate

Just say what you’ve said here…oh sorry I’m not making lunch, we’ll just finish off the cheeseboard later when peckish.

Just tell her no-one's making lunch. It's help-yourself to leftovers day for you and DH, as you hadn't expected any guests today.

No. Especially if she lives alone.
To the OP’s three child-free days a year she may have 362 days a year of living alone.

Has she actually announced this without you checking when she's staying until? She may have thought she was welcome to stay longer?

But I'd have said you were going somewhere/doing something that meant she had to go.

What's wrong with you?

" sorry, we're planning on spending the rest of the day in bed. Have a safe journey home"

Is your DH as bothered as you are OP?

It seems strange he hasn't pulled her aside and gently explained the situation.