MIL has announced she's staying for lunch

[PolkaDotMankini]

And I want to cry. We have three child-free days this year and she's been here for two of them. She's lovely and an easy house guest but please go away now so DH and I can have some time on our own!

I will of course host her nicely.

@HowDoYouOwnDisorder

why do you ask?

perhaphs her parents live overseas?
perhaphs they're NC
perhaps they're with. OP's siblings this year
perhaphs they're dead....

none of your bloody business,

It's not perplexing if you have some kind of imagination! But questioning the OP is rude.

she's said now anywsy, the children don't usually sleep over at their Dads

If she lives alone she probably doesn't want to be alone over Christmas.

But you have plenty of child free days and it's the daytime not the night.

Ha ha ha 🥱

This header topic are the words that strike the deepest fear in my sisters heart !

Her MIL isn't really bad as such but there is alot of , it's her way or the highway in her thinking. Every year my sister hosts her on Christmas day and boxing day (boxing day came about by default one year and stuck.) Her MIL used to leave shortly after lunch but she now stays longer. By the morning of the 27th every year I have to ring my sister and allow her 'venting' time to get her MIL frustrations out of her system. I just listen, nod and grunt but it seems to get her back on an even keel again.

Why has your DH not sorted this out?

Don't think OP is reading this at the moment 😁😉

Why should anyone be entitled to invite themselves to lunch. The OP has nothing to apologise for.

I think he's sorting the OP out right now 😆

@SkylightSkylight I think they were referring to OP's partner (husband) rather than OP's parents.

@CloseYourEyesAndSee
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Hope you’ve now had a good shag OP

These threads make me NEVER want to visit people's homes EVER!! I ofcourse don't like people arriving unannounced, but being booted out the door like this must be so humiliating.

She was already staying with the OP. She didn’t just turn up out of the blue suddenly expecting to be fed.
Poor woman. I hope she’s not going home upset, and alone, so that the poor OP can get over her own impending tears in anticipation of missing a daytime shag.

Couples need time together without other people. Mil should be sensitive enough to realise that if OPs kids are with their dad, that OP and her dh might not want someone else in the house for 3 days straight.
She has no right to feel upset - it's not about her personally and she's got to have a hide like a rhino to not think about this at all!

Ahem, I have returned.

MIL was welcome for Christmas and is welcome at any other time of the year. I just wanted one day just for me and DH and I don't feel the slightest bit guilty for that. She certainly didn't go home upset 🙄

FWIW, she doesn't sit at home alone. She has two sons, a big family of brothers, sisters and their kids and a better social life than me.

The DC's dad is more than a bit useless and turns up for daytime contact about 50% of the time. He's usually hours late. So we're not having a shag fest every other week 😂