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Ilovechoc12 · 2022-12-23T17:45:53+00:00

Oh my god it was the dog last yr - which ended up - my dad being in the travel lodge. This yr it's my brothers girl friends cat travelling from Scotland! Why don't they use a cattery ?!?!? It better not turn up in a cage at my house. I'm not in for surprises as that's the way they think they can trick me by turning up randomly. 😂😂😂😂😂 We have no animals - I don't want animals. I do love them but equally don't want them I've got enough to deal with 4 children. Therefore please don't think you can bring your animals to stay at my houses over Xmas. I have enough stuff to deal with hosting 20 people without any animals. I think I might drink too much tonight so I'm not stressed - as I've just learnt about the cat one hr ago. What's your family dramas .....?????

Redebs · 26/12/2022 11:39

@5YearsLeft massive hug to you x

fswaps · 01/01/2023 22:38

@5YearsLeft sending you love and strength. You deserve much much more. I hope you can find some peace xxx

HopefulRose · 01/01/2023 23:35

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Mamanyt · 02/01/2023 00:47

Well, it isn't exactly a drama. The closest I come is, at 70, my closest relatives live over 500 miles away, cannot get more than the actual day of the holiday off, so I spend every holiday at home with my cat. I wouldn't mind an occasional drama.

Katekeeprunning · 02/01/2023 01:33

Ilovechoc12 · 23/12/2022 18:44

Also, I have weird thought of snail trails on bedding 😬😬😬😬 will they be in a cage? Oh gosh I'm not sure I could deal with snails in my house 😂😂😂

Did they arrive with the cat/cats?

Bleachmycloths · 02/01/2023 09:37

Madsciencecovid2020 · 23/12/2022 20:23

So not so much a drama as a family avoidance plan required and support for send child. I have spent 4 weeks recovering from covid and various complications and so made a choice to avoid family. We have had 4 years of non stop family medical emergencies and battles with local authority for send support for youngest child .Our daughter has been having tests and today we got the bombshell- stage 4 cancer! Fuck me that's a Christmas fun sponge right there. Husband is now saying I need to manage expectations of youngest child with complex needs as Christmas won't be like normal. Husband is in pieces about daughters diagnosis and I face another year of supporting and managing daughter and her treatment whilst also supporting him whilst he doesn't cope!! I have had to cope for 4 years and do everything with no one supporting me and I am damned if I am ruining all of Christmas for my youngest. We plan to avoid most of extended family so that we don't fun sponge their Christmas- also a win as its always stressful!! Fuck me life needs to stop with the lemons as Iam drowning in lemonade

When I read posts like this I feel so ashamed of the things I complain about. So sorry for your troubles 🌺

Workinghardeveryday · 02/01/2023 09:50

Madsciencecovid2020 · 23/12/2022 20:23

So not so much a drama as a family avoidance plan required and support for send child. I have spent 4 weeks recovering from covid and various complications and so made a choice to avoid family. We have had 4 years of non stop family medical emergencies and battles with local authority for send support for youngest child .Our daughter has been having tests and today we got the bombshell- stage 4 cancer! Fuck me that's a Christmas fun sponge right there. Husband is now saying I need to manage expectations of youngest child with complex needs as Christmas won't be like normal. Husband is in pieces about daughters diagnosis and I face another year of supporting and managing daughter and her treatment whilst also supporting him whilst he doesn't cope!! I have had to cope for 4 years and do everything with no one supporting me and I am damned if I am ruining all of Christmas for my youngest. We plan to avoid most of extended family so that we don't fun sponge their Christmas- also a win as its always stressful!! Fuck me life needs to stop with the lemons as Iam drowning in lemonade

That is awful!! Xxx

HoppingPavlova · 02/01/2023 10:04

When I read posts like this I feel so ashamed of the things I complain about.

So very true for all of us.

@Madsciencecovid2020 Sending strength, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other. Life is definitely not fair unfortunately, and in this case absolutely sucks dogs balls.

Rainbow1901 · 02/01/2023 12:20

5YearsLeft@ Are you in the UK? If so see your GP or your treatment team and ask about hospice care. The Hospice team would give you far more love and caring in your remaining time than you are getting from your ex-husband and family. Hospices in the UK are generally free which is why I asked your location.
On another note I hope that you have written a will that ensures that your final wishes and bequeaths everything you own to charity or the Hospice if you manage to find one.
I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with all this when you should be enjoying life in whatever way makes you content.

TheOrigRights · 02/01/2023 13:16

Well I have been dreading today's visitor, but having read some of the posts on here, I've given myself a talking to, counted my blessings and do my best to be a nice person.

Sending love to @5YearsLeft & @Madsciencecovid2020

Whatafielddayfortheheat · 02/01/2023 17:37

@tinofbeans the mind boggles. Wouldn't you just get a heated tank?? Why heat the whole house just for 2 snails?

OnemoresliceofChristmascake · 02/01/2023 20:55

@Madsciencecovid2020 Sorry to hear that. (Re the lemons - When life gives you lemons, find yourself a gin and tonic and pop a slice in).

PutinSmellsPassItOn · 02/01/2023 21:01

If I listed and sent our family dramas over Christmas into Eastenders it would be sent back with a note saying it was.too dramatic......and I'd definitely be accused of trolling on here. So I'm not going to bother, buy safe to.say it's been am entertaining one. 😬

Canthave2manycats · 03/01/2023 00:34

5YearsLeft · 23/12/2022 19:17

I don’t even know if they’re family but they’re all I have. My Christmases just keep getting more and more awful. I’m dying, and my husband decided to divorce me and get remarried before I ACTUALLY died so that his second wife, who was one of my best friends, could get a visa for the country where we live. I live with them because I’m too sick to live anywhere else, and too young and poor to live in a cradle-to-death home.

She invited his mother, who still acts like my MIL, for all of Christmas. MIL has early-onset Alzheimer’s and has called saying that her plane ticket demands she do all kinds of things and she can’t make heads or tails of it (she’s just flying EasyJet which she’s done 100s of times before so it’s heartbreaking). This is all being communicated to second wife, who she likes much more than me. I heard second wife telling MIL that they’ve scheduled a Christmas video call with my former DH’s family back in America - a group of people who used to really like me, but have apparently decided that I’ve one foot in the grave and it’s time to focus on the second wife.

I’m going to try to sleep through Christmas so I don’t have to deal with any of it. I miss Scotland (homesick), I miss my grandparents who used to make Christmas special (both dead), I’m stuck with:

a man who claims he still loves me (pull the other one; it’s got bells on it),
his new wife who hasn’t been speaking to me for over a year because she claims that me being depressed and bordering on suicidal over my illness and all I’d lost traumatized her, and normally I’d feel quite guilty for exposing that to someone, even unintentionally, except part of my depression was her treating me with such a huge amount of contempt for a year solid while she was choosing to live in our flat, completely funded by us, and trying to get together with my husband, while my condition was worsening and I was vomiting blood. It’s been months since she’s spoken a single word to me, and two years of monosyllabic treatment before that. (Oh, and I know, I have an enormous “D”H problem, but she was also one of my best friends, so I didn’t expect sudden daily hatred and contempt).
And my MIL, who won’t remember all the hurtful things she’s said to me in the past 15 years. And will become unruly if someone gives her any plonk, which the new wife probably will.

Fingers crossed my “sleep through it all” plan works, which should be easy because I feel like shite. I wish more than anything in the world I could have hopped on a plane to absolutely anywhere and not been here, but I’m just too sick. Hopping on a plane might kill me, and I’ll never qualify for travel insurance as I haven’t for years, but it would be worth it. And maybe if I sleep through everything, I can dream of winning the lottery, buying a cottage in Scotland, and spending Christmas there with my grandparents back with me. Or even just one person who loved me. What a Christmastide clusterfuck.

This is one of the saddest things I've ever read.

I don't even begin to know where to start with all of those arseholes who should care about you...

I've no idea how, but you need to find a way to be somewhere away from them all xx

5YearsLeft · 03/01/2023 05:10

@Canthave2manycats You know, a lot of people seem to say I should write a book, but then I remember… it’s really fucking sad, ha. People like these memoirs like “Wild,” where someone’s life is a hot fucking mess at the beginning and then they go hike for a bit and see a couple wise hobos and a bear and at the end it’s better, not worse. At the end, I’m still going to die, and I’ll have been treated shittily for a few years first. With that said, I’m not sorry I posted. I tried to go to Scotland last year, the first time I’ve flown since I got sick because it’s so hard on my body and they were afraid it would fuck up my breathing and circulation (and it did), because I grew up there and I miss it and I wanted I get away back then, too. It was a disaster. I was so sick, I had to come back early, with my tail between my legs, and I stayed exhausted-sick for the next month. And I’d given up on trying again. But then someone in this thread said, roughly, “But even if trying the flight again killed you… wouldn’t you rather die free?” And they’re right; I would. My GP gets back from his winter break on 8 January and I’m going to talk to him about getting permission to take my medications with me for three months (it’s a BIG commitment) to go back to Scotland in hopes that if I tried going for a much longer period, I could take a week at the beginning to get over the exhaustion from travelling to get there. And also, I’d be away from here for three months. We’ll see. For right now, it’s a dream that’s keeping me alive.

CuteOrangeElephant · 03/01/2023 10:45

My sister threw a party at my father's house, were most of the rest of us siblings (I have a lot) won't go because of we don't get on with my dad.

In retaliation there's a "secret" party that my sister is not invited to. Has led to multiple rounds of crying. I was also not invited to the "secret" party. These are all people in their twenties.

goshdoyoumeantobsorude · 03/01/2023 11:05

My heart goes out to you. Cause as much mayhem as you can muster.
I hope you have done your will and given everything to the cats home!
They are bastards.

purpleme12 · 13/02/2024 02:33

@5yearsleft it's good to see you.
I'm so sorry your Christmas was so shit ☹️ x

DuchessDandelion · 13/02/2024 10:03

@5YearsLeft I've thought of you often and wondered how you were getting on. Have you had any luck with your gp?

5YearsLeft · 13/02/2024 14:32

DuchessDandelion · 13/02/2024 10:03

@5YearsLeft I've thought of you often and wondered how you were getting on. Have you had any luck with your gp?

@DuchessDandelion Thanks for thinking of me. I actually ended up taking Mumsnet’s advice (if you die doing what you want, that’s better than not trying) and I actually did made it to Scotland last summer. It went really well, although the Swiss law said that I could only take a month’s worth of some of my medications (the GP thought this was ridiculous) so my ex-husband actually brought them out to Scotland for me twice, which was really decent of him. (I stayed at my best friend’s place in Edinburgh, and it was just a really, really perfectly comfortable summer and I escaped all the illness I would have had from the heat in Geneva, where they were just routinely have temps over 30).

I went back to Edinburgh this Christmas but it went not so well and I had to come back very early. I’m getting worse, the headaches are getting worse, I have to sleep a lot more, and we think I’ve had more brain bleeds (I have an MRI on the 28th - I’ve had to reschedule it twice due to headaches. Oh, and my big joints are corroding or disintegrating or something; it was my back and my left hip; now it’s both hips and I have to get an ultrasound and X-ray on my right elbow because I’m losing that whole right arm). I have no idea if I’ll be able to make it to Edinburgh this summer - if so, it’d probably just be a lot of sleeping in a more comfortable place, which I doubt my best friend would mind, but… yeah. It’s really really nice just not to be here for a while, with the ex and the new wife who still doesn’t speak to me. However, now I sleep so much, it’s not really an issue, ha. Half the time, I fall asleep in the early evening before they get home from work, suddenly wake up after they’ve gone to bed, take my last pills with some tea, get “ready” for bed, and then I’m still so tired, I go back to sleep.

Anyway, I really hope you’re well. I try not to share my personal life on here too much anymore (I just share my point of view sometimes on grief or life limiting threads) but I did start an Instagram with the help of some MN users that I’m trying to keep updated until the end. It’s ‘fiveyearslefthere’ (I know I should really be changing my screen names to 4 or 3yearsleft, but I’m too damn tired).