Any family dramas ?!?!?

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Oh my god it was the dog last yr - which ended up - my dad being in the travel lodge.

This yr it's my brothers girl friends cat travelling from Scotland! Why don't they use a cattery ?!?!? It better not turn up in a cage at my house. I'm not in for surprises as that's the way they think they can trick me by turning up randomly.

😂😂😂😂😂

We have no animals - I don't want animals. I do love them but equally don't want them
I've got enough to deal with 4 children.

Therefore please don't think you can bring your animals to stay at my houses over Xmas. I have enough stuff to deal with hosting 20 people without any animals.

I think I might drink too much tonight so I'm not stressed - as I've just learnt about the cat one hr ago.

What's your family dramas .....?????

@marvellousmaple Thank you! And gosh, that sounds so sore! Though… perhaps a good reason that you absolutely MUST put your feet up instead of doing the planned clean…

@Madsciencecovid2020 I’m so, so sorry to hear this. I really do know how you feel (I got my diagnosis at the beginning of December last year - it just felt like a cloud over the whole month). I’m sorry it’s happening at all - that’s obviously shite and unfair - but I’m very sorry that no one is directly supporting you. They’re all expecting you to cope and be the caretaker. And you say, you’ll have to manage your husband too, because he won’t cope, when now is when you need to be a team the most. It’s dreadfully unfair, and I really hope that maybe some members of your family or close friends will step up and be that support for you. A child’s stage 4 cancer isn’t something you should have to face on your own. Sending you all the comforting thoughts I can think of.

My BIL’s GF is throwing a massive tantrum as he’s made clear to her they’re not coming for Christmas as she has a stinking cold (constantly coughing, having to take paracetamol regular to control her temp, nose streaming etc). She says because her covid test was negative it’s fine.

He’s pointed out that in our gathering there is my CEV DD, three 80+ year olds, one 75 year old just getting over heart surgery and, if she’s well enough to come out the care home on the day, his Granny who is 100. So she’s not bringing a cold in.

Apparently this is ridiculous and she’s been messaging everyone trying to get them to agree with her.

@Madsciencecovid2020 I'm
So sorry for your daughter's diagnosis and sending you all a huge hug

That is just gobsmackingly crazy! You need to write a book about it.

Your husband has behaved despicably. I'm so sorry you have to put up with all this crap.
I hope you have some nice friends who treat you well; you certainly deserve some!

@5YearsLeft we've spoken before but I've named changed since then and lost sight of you for a while. I think of you often. I'm furious on your behalf with the way things are for you and that was before your Christmas update.

Totally agree that if you can get to Scotland it must surely be better for you to spend your remaining time there. I don't know what, but if I can do anything to help - maybe with some research for you getting your medication back in or to the UK, I will happily do so.

Don't let the bastards grind you down. Your kindness and gentility of nature to everyone here marks you out as worth a billion of them, even if nothing else did.

Omg, I've just found out my mum (aged 80) has booked herself into a hotel 80 miles away for Christmas on her own, leaving her husband (my dad) at home. My brother is staying there atm, so he won't be alone.
I'm just not not sure what's going on tbh. I live in NZ, so can't just 'pop' round.
I'll phone her later and see how she is.

It saddens me to hear she's gone.
It's a tricky time of year for lots of people. Emotions run high and it kinda highlights what you have and haven't got.

I WFH and like to be organised in the run up to Christmas, husband has spent the week enjoying the Christmas festivities related to the client groups of his job and could wake up in a bin on Christmas Eve and hussle to make it happen. This year his son and wife were travelling to see family for a week until today. Their dog sitter flaked last minute. Obviously (we love animals) my husband said, "no problem, bring the dog to us". We have three cats, big breed, all bigger than the dog in question. I am demented. My cats are feisty. I did well to keep that dog alive.

My nephew used to arrive with his (working) collie, who lived in his car.

He had his dog bed, toys and blanket in the back of his estate car, water and food bowls to be filled and used in the garden. The dog got loads of walks and seemed perfectly happy to act as seasonal burglar alarm. He never came into the house.

The arrangement worked well for everyone.

@5YearsLeft Comedian Sarah Millican does an amazing Twitter push on Christmas Day for those who want to chat and feel isolated/alone/struggling with their Christmas. The hashtag is #joinin if you use Twitter. It's been huge the last few years.

Thats disgusting. Poor dog.

Thats disgusting. Poor dog.

Eh? 😕He was a working dog, not a pet. Used to a routine and far happier in his bed with his chewy toys and blanket, watching the world go by from the open hatch of the car, or going for runs on the downs, than being in an overly warm and noisy house with a couple of fractious toddlers.

5yearsleft Are you well enough to write a book? If you physically can, try it. Or maybe record into one of your devices. You deserve so much better. I’ll will be thinking of you, for sure. I’ll try to get back on here Christmas Day to see how you are managing. My heart goes out to you.

@Madsciencecovid2020 I couldn’t say it better than5yearsleft . Not that it makes any difference, but I will be thinking of you. Hopefully someone in your Family will step up and give you the support you need and take a little care of you too. It is dreadfully unfair..

Last year I was unknowingly about to begin a year filled with many huge and real life-changing dramas. Today, I am at work, dressed up ready to celebrate Christmas Eve with my brother and our parents. The drama: two straps on my fancy sandal have broken.

Last year we had a cat to stay which threw up in every room in the house. He was quite poorly and we couldn't work out why. Turned out the bloody thing had been nibbling a plant which was poisonous to animals. It nearly died and there was a horrendous vet's bill for the family member. A cattery would have been cheaper!

@Babasghost honestly I'd just go home. If they aren't interested enough to spend time with you or squeeze you into their plans then you might as well go home and be where you and your dog can be comfortable.

I suppose the drama in my Christmas is the rather large amount of chestnut stuff I’ve made! I eventually squeezed some into the freezer to have later in the new year with roast chicken.

By the way, Hi to @5YearsLeft ! I’ve posted on at least one of your threads. I’m sorry you’re still having such a bad time. Unmumsnetty hugs!

@Redebs Unfortunately during the uni and the 20’s “make lasting friends” era, I was in America, so almost all my good friends are still there, while I’m back in Europe. As for writing a book, people keep saying I should (I hope it’s not because I bore them to death about the situation!!! I really, really try not to), including, oddly enough, my therapist.

@Morestrangethings Maybe you’re right along with Redebs, and I should spend Christmas Day trying to start the book. It’s always hard trying to know what to cover and what not to cover. And I feel weird knowing there isn’t going to be a happy ending.

I'm really hoping there'll be no drama here tomorrow. I have dm and my brother coming for dinner. My brother who I only tolerate for my mum's sake as he's a complete arse who thinks the world owes him a favour and is prone to ruining occasions for everyone. He's been warned that if he touches alcohol or any substances before coming that he'll be out, he's just about bearable sober but no chance if he's drank anything.

Bringing a cat like that is cruel. They normally hate car journeys, they don't often cope well with change or strange environments. Being in a strange house with strange people is going to stress the poor thing out. Are they bringing a litter tray to wherever they are staying? Becausr it won't be able to go outside. And everyone is going to spend their Christmas being extremely careful not to accidentally let it outside. A cattery would be so much better.

No, you aren’t boring. Far from it. Just from reading your posts on this thread, I think you could write a book, you are very expressive. I could feel how you yearn for your old home. That’s 2 people you just ‘met’ today, and your therapist - who no doubt would know if you could write a book.

Start anywhere, yearning for home would be my choice….but it’s your book, your life. And it wouldn’t have to be lineal, you could go back and forward in time, if you choose.

I know there are other writers on this site.

I just went looking. You probably already know, but Under ‘Talk’, there’s ‘Books,’and then ‘Creative Writing’.

Whoops, the above message was for @5YearsLeft

"Poor cat, he must be bursting after that long journey... here kitty kitty, <opens door> off you go and explore the garden. Yes, it is a busy road, isn't it? "

Great thread. Ex has split up with his DP. Ruins Christmas for her, their kids, my kids, my plans. Sigh. He is one selfish, immature knob!

Not so much drama as much eye rolling. Dh's entire extended family are here at same time for first time in 20 years. Not staying with us but local. It's actually been lovely to see them and the dc are loving it. But...

1 amazing how even though they are here we have still selected purchased and wrapped all the dc's gifts from them.

2 SIL's ex, who FINALLY moved out a while ago, appears to be convinced he is still part of the family. We have sucked up him spending Christmas day with us because of course their dc want to see him, but his relentless attempts to weasel in are frustrating. He sent SIL a series of abusive text messages because he wasn't invited to a family dinner this week. He is hounding FiL for the two of them to have a meal together (so he can bitch about SIL). He has barely been out of sil's house this week.

DH and I are staying out of it but we expect Christmas morning to be a disaster. I also have a private bet with myself - I think he MIGHT buy a small gift for SIL from their dc. But doubt he will get his actual dc anything as it will all be done by sil. There's a good change however that SIL, who is almost numb to his ridiculousness, won't even notice. But I will mark it on my secret "dickhead BiL bingo card"

Separately, I am pretty sure my brother is pissed with me and trying to pretend I don't exist.