Grrrr so pissed at Husband!

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He forgot the Elf’s last night. He remembered this morning after his alarm went off so grabbed the Elf’s from DDs beds and quickly set them up. But, my oldest was awake and saw him. She came home from school upset, I didn’t see her this morning. Anyway she now no longer believes in the Elf’s or Santa 😢 She’s 10 and I knew I’d have to tell her before high school, but I was hoping she’d have this year. She’s my real magical believer, I honestly don’t think my others will care but this DD is so naturally innocent, she’s been sobbing away in my arms for ages 😭

Oh fgs.

Seriously?

😬

I think I'd be having a chat with my daughter about it and how Christmas can still be magical. She can help with elf now.
My older ones love doing it for the little ones.

Sobbing away for ages? She's 10, and all children are "naturally innocent", whatever that means.

I think I'd be more concerned about a NT 10 YO who did believe in elves and Santa tbh.

She will be fine.

10 years old and still believes fgs!!!!

I don’t think op was looking for comments regarding about her child believing, more looking for an outlet in which to vent her frustrations regarding her husband forgetting the elves, op im so sorry your dd found out like this, this is actually a fear of mine (also a 10 year old ds that YES still believes ) as another person said, maybe get her to help with the elves now that she knows? Sending virtual coffee/ wine 🍷 xx

Sobbing in your arms? Ffs.

These threads are becoming more tedious by the day. Sobbing? I do not believe it

This is a massive overreaction

Why is everyone so mean on these threads? OPs upset. Allow her to vent. It's lovely that she still believed at 10 years old and youve clearly done a fab job at keeping Christmas magical for her. I'd be pretty hacked off too if my DH forgot and my DD found out like this. Explain it and involve her in making it special for the other DC. And a nice large wine tonight 🍷

My nine year old cried when he found out about Santa! He was really upset!

Get a grip fgs

Because
a) this is the age almost all children find out if they haven't already. Most work it out for themselves by 10, so nobody should be upset that their 10 year old finds out
b) being angry with the husband is way out of proportion and out of line
c) indulging a child sobbing over Father Christmas and blaming the father for giving it away is generally pretty poor parenting.

My personal opinion is that they have pretty crappy lives, so try to make themselves feel better by going out of their way to make other people feel like shit. Or they are just horrible people?

I get you OP. Just typical mumsnetters living up to their dickish reputation.

we do a different elf, just a tiny one and move him around (if we remember, sometimes done during the school day)

Oh bugger. Sorry OP. That's a really rubbish way for her to find out, poor thing. My DD is similar...she's 10 and just loves to believe all the magical Christmas stuff! We have FC, the elf and an advent calendar fairy too, because I'm an f*ing idiot and thought it would be fun to introduce that when she was little too 😂 She writes tiny notes to her and leaves them in her pocket calendar and I have to write tiny fairy notes back! I think deep down she doesn't believe anymore but she just loves the magical pretence of it all, and really bigs it up for her little sister too. She'd be gutted it we blew it like that. So I hear you and I hope she's ok.

Seriously...... Don't tell me, you're one of those parents who doesn't lie to your children therefor doesn't do santa.

I'm 42 and still believe in the magic of Christmas.... And santa is real!!

Elf on the shelf is a horrible, damaging concept

OP have you ever seen the 'explanation' doing the rounds on FB about Santa really being all the people who make magic for younger children and how once you know about Santa you become a 'Santa'?
It's a really nice and gentle way to explain how he isn't a single person but more an experience created by loved ones.

She already knew sweetie, she is just playing along to humour you . She’s ten, she isn’t going to school and talking about magical elves and Santa being really, if she was she’d be getting bullied mercilessly

time to let her grow up and not do this charade to please you

Was she really sobbing? I’d be really concerned about that to be honest. It’s a massive over reaction.

If she is She’s sobbing as she thinks she’s supposed to be gutted and that’s the expected reaction. She’s trying to please her mother, who for some reason thinks kids ar school don’t talk about this shit.

as said you need to let her grow up now. This isn’t ok op.