Grrrr so pissed at Husband!

[ITSSSSCHRISTMASSS]

He forgot the Elf’s last night. He remembered this morning after his alarm went off so grabbed the Elf’s from DDs beds and quickly set them up. But, my oldest was awake and saw him. She came home from school upset, I didn’t see her this morning. Anyway she now no longer believes in the Elf’s or Santa 😢 She’s 10 and I knew I’d have to tell her before high school, but I was hoping she’d have this year. She’s my real magical believer, I honestly don’t think my others will care but this DD is so naturally innocent, she’s been sobbing away in my arms for ages 😭

DS burst into tears when he found out about the tooth fairy.

It does happen.

I forget how old he was.

Sometimes it’s nice to pretend to believe in stuff and being faced with the reality is tough. I like to pretend gnomes exist. Sometimes it just lovely to believe in mad shit.

Found it!

Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough to know now. Is there a Santa Claus?"

Dad: "OK, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the truth is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you will never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"
Brief pause. Son: "Yes. I want to know."
Dad: "OK, I'll tell you: Yes, there IS a Santa Claus."
Son: "Really?"

Dad: "Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. I actually bought those myself. I watched you open them. And did it bother me that you didn't thank me? Of course not! In fact it gave me great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.

When I saw that woman collapse on the subway last week and called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me who summoned the ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."

Son: "Oh."

Dad: "So now that you know, you're part of it. You have to be Santa Claus too now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, and you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help people. Got it?"

Op how old are the other kids? If they are not that bothered I suspect they all know. That’s age dependent obvs . Normally you can stretch it out till about 6 or 7.then they work it out or other kids tell them.

@Underanothersky

I'm of the same opinion.

Also agree with @Cheeseandhoney

Make your DD a cup of cocoa and get her to swear she won't tell her younger siblings. It can be her big girl moment.

What's unnaturally innocent?

My DD found out at 10 and she had a little cry when I talked to her because she really did genuinely love the elf and all the Christmas magic. I made her my helper for her little brother and she absolutely loves doing it, it takes the pressure of me having to do it each night so it's a win win for us

Make it into something, pass on the flame and get her to help for younger siblings.

So many arseholes in one thread!!!!

I have a dd in year 5 and the year group generally very much do still believe.so don't make such assumptions about 10year olds people.
I would be annoyed with dh too, but probably it would have been me that forgot.

@gamerchick good call.
Also OP seems like you married a human.

This is a blessing in disguise. I had an eleven year old who still believed. There's no good way to find out. That 'now it's your turn to share the magic' doesn't cut it. But very hard!!

Bollocks. Don't invalidate emotions you don't understand.

Elf on the shelf is ridiculous IMO. Your DH forgot as do 99% of most parents so did it last minute. Unfortunate you DD saw him but I think you are over reacting

This!

"Indulging a child" for fuck sake, children are allowed to show raw emotions, I bet you 've sobbed over a shitty relationship! Your emotions are no more valued than a child's emotions!! You sound positively vile

Lots of Scrooges on this thread.

My guess is this poster doesn't have children. Hope they don't.

I bet you 've sobbed over a shitty relationship!

Not with someone who doesn't exist, I haven't.

It's unfortunate but I cant say I have never forgotten the elf, easily done. At least the younger ones don't know. And dd will be fine once she realises it is still fun.

Tbh I’d be more surprised that you have a 10 year old who still believes in Santa to the degree she was that upset. I don’t know any children that make it to that age without having either heard from their peers at school or figured it out for themselves. You’ve no reason to be pissed at your husband unless you’re also pissed at yourself because you both let her down badly to not have taught her any kind of emotional resilience.

What a load of old cobblers.

OP, I am 50 and still believe in Father Christmas despite having seen my dad fill our stockings when I was about 10. However, I know it was just part of an elaborate trick and he was just trying to make me think FC wasn't real. Perhaps suggest this to your DD?

FC is still very generous to me definitely not my dad

Can't stand the whole elf on the shelf thing. Consumerist nonsense.
Your DD will be fine. It's a rite of passage realising that Santa isn't real.
P.S. it's 'elves' not 'elf's'

Show her the news about kids in Ukrainian she might feel better bless her

I like the explanation about Santa @Tempnamechange5 , I think it is a sweet message.