If you do stockings and have a partner...

[crymeout]

Do they do you a stocking?

It's just occurred to me that I do my own stocking! I have never even questioned it before, did the same in my past relationship and the women in my family did/do their own as well. I was looking at some really thoughtful, small stocking fillers for DP and realised that he doesn't do one for me- he's never done them for anyone and thinks of them as more decorative, whereas I always had a filled one so it falls on me to fill them. Does your DP fill your one, or do you do your own? If it makes any difference, our stockings are mainly filled with edibles, a pair of socks and a few small gifts (all under £10 each- a card game, a key ring, bookmark etc). They don't have big or more expensive gifts in.

DD started doing one for me last year as a thank you for making Christmas special for her and DS when they were younger. DC still have stockings although they are in their 20s but DH and I have never made them for each other.

Yes we have for everyone staying here Christmas Eve.
I do dh one, dh does mine. Ds gets one.

If we have family stay we make them a basic one with stuff like chocolate Santa, chocolate coins and some odds bits we think they would like. Ie our friend stayed a few years ago, avid gardener, got unusual seeds and fancy gardening gloves.

dh Does well. They aren’t tack in our stockings, but things we would use or need. Ie I have just got dh a go pro accessory for his camera he uses a lot, Some thicker mittens he has been looking for, some locally made super spicy hot sauce he likes. I will probably add chocolate of some sort.

I do my own, OH did mine once I think but the rest of the time I do, I just like having an excuse to treat myself to things I wouldn't usually buy.
My dad always did my mum's stocking (still does, I assume) which I thought was sweet (and always went overboard on her presents, we'd all be long finished opening our presents, taking turns, and she'd still be going!)

Children only here. I'll keep doing them for my offspring as long as they live here probably, not sure.

A lot of people say they liked continuing to receive a stocking from their parent/s as an adult but I actually found it vaguely uncomfortable, partly because of the sentimental attachment my mother had to the stocking itself and the associated frequent contact about it's arrival and return, and partly because of the non food novelty or ornamental items which were always in it which I never knew quite what to do with.

If your partner sees stockings as Christmas decorations then surely don't do him one, he probably doesn't care either way or doesn't want one - just do them for your offspring/ any step or grand children not getting one from anyone else.

We set a budget overall and some of that goes on stocking presents. So a piece of jewellery for example might be in your stocking but it’s the main present. There’s usually some sweets etc in there but they are proper presents not tat. We do one for each other.

Stockings are for children, surely? Me and dh give each other a gift. My parents didn't even do that.

Why is Christmas only for children? Why can't I have a lovely, silly surprise as well if my DH is up for it? My mum still did me a stocking until she died when I was 34 whereupon my DH took over (we all combined to make one for my mum too).

We do each others and have a £40 to £50 limit but its our main present to each other. If we want a new flat screen tv then we buy it together or if I want a new coat then I'll get it in the sales. However, my DH had come up with some cracking fun things as well as the obligatory new socks that I probably would not have thought about but have made my life more enjoyable.

It's part of our fun and it shows my daughter that adults are also entitled to some fun.

I haven't had a stocking since I was a child and nor has DP. Personally I'd find it odd to do a stocking for him and vice versa but it's not a tradition we have.

No, stockings are for children.

I don’t usually tell all and sundry about my pain and restricted mobility. I made it clear this time because I believed a clearer picture of how I managed DD’s needs with these restrictions would allow you to see that her opening her stocking with mum and dad whilst mummy’s joints woke up was not neglectful.
Parents with chronic health conditions and disabilities have little choice but to make adaptions but this hardly equates to neglect.
Your attitude smacks of ableism and the only way to deal with you is to a try and educate you or b ignore you and I think b is the only realistic choice.
Reply if you like I won’t be reading it but I am sure that won’t stop you.

That's an opinion. When I was a child I loved that Father Christmas filled stockings for my parents - i was the sort of child that loved that they were included. Of course now I know it was just how my parents chose to gift each other of small, useful gifts. More adults I know do it than don't.