Gifts for women in your life late 40 to late 50

[lifewithme]

What is everyone thinking of getting there women in there life. Have a couple of people to buy for in mid 50s. Around £75.

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That is awesome...

...but I usually just stick to vehicles or cities.

I do get the use of these threads in terms of the odd idea that is perfect but you just wouldn't have thought of but mostly I think you shouldn't be spending that much money on someone to just guess. I think the same about the threads about what to buy men, as if they're all the same and want hip flasks, wallet ninjas etc.

There are some (in my opinion) lovely large coffee/tea cups at Wisley Gardens online shop … also accompanying accessories.

Spa day for me

@christmaspudding43 yes I am always amazed at reading about the high levels of money spent on 'hope they like it' gifts. I see it here all the time - "I need a gift for my cousins step kid who I have never met and I think is age 9 but might be 12.... budget of £50" 😂

Thing is, part of the pleasure of gift giving is the thinking - the giving yourself permission (and the power!) to discern what might please the other person.

Of course one can get it wrong. And that sometimes depends on the character of the recipient; some people are just not terribly gifted with graciousness, however hard you’ve tried.

And of course a bad gift is a bad gift; whether it’s the wrong Chanel bag or a BOGOF from Boots. But it’s always best to think of the recipient as a unique individual rather than a genre of human.

I wouldn't want any old lady shit, pampering stuff, alcohol, chocolates or "gorgeous" anything whether it's oils or gloves.

I'm nearly 57 and would be really offended by that too: Unless the gloves were for running: A decent pair of running socks would be very appreciated: It really depends on the person's interests and hobbies:

I'm in my 50 's and with that budget I'd like a good perfume or a v expensive foot spa 😅

A Pandora bracelet is always lovely for any age I think

I'd hate a pandora bracelet.

Im much younger but find Pandora a symbol of more money than sense, if people like that STYLE of jewellery fine but Pandora is notoriously over priced and not great quality - its a case of buying the name rather than a good item.

It really isn’t …

One of the nicest gifts I received for my 60th was a cream tea at a Kitty Cafe. Amazing, cats and kittens. 🤩. They sell them on Woutzer.

Another gift I liked was a new deluxe camping chair to take to watch the cricket.

It looks like it's impossible to give somebody something they like if you don't know anything about them.

I didn't know there are gloves for running and would take it as if person was implying I need to go and exercise.

No… Absolutely not. For teens perhaps. But so naff.

A safe shade of blue made me chuckle. How old are you out of interest? I wonder if we all think anyone 20 years older is automatically in old lady territory or peep has you are 20 years older and think it’s something for younger age group? I know my MIL is much older than her years than my mother and have preconceptions about what different age groups ‘should’ be interested in.

I love these threads though. No, not ever response is going to be suitable for OPs recipients but it give everyone some ideas of what might be right for their recipients! I would never have though about buying someone an olive tree but it’s something I have been looking at for myself so why not!

Perhaps. Honestly the autocorrect on mumsnet is BAD and still no edit button.

They are very marmite and seem to be mainly hated on mumsnet. Personally I'd never wear one, they're not my style at all for many reasons, and if someone bought me one it would languish in a drawer. Definitely not a "safe" present.

I agree with all this. I like it especially when people recommend presents which are really specifically well suited to a particular person- obviously may not be helpful for OP but may well be helpful for someone. I’ve bought all sorts of great presents for people that I didn’t know existed before seeing them on a thread like this.

Also agree about the age thing. My favourite example was a thread on the Property board a few months ago, where OP was about 50 and wanted to buy a flat in central London, and people were recommending places based on their proximity to London hospitals 😭 I suppose it’s a mercy they weren’t suggesting places close to the crematorium 😭

to be fair a house close (but not too close your woken by sirens) to hospitals is good if you can get one.

I grew up a 10 minute walk (1 minute drive) from hospital... honestly it came in handy more than once for quick response in life of death situations like when my grandad had a stroke at our house, when my brother got his head stuck in a bike chain (still cant figure out how) and when we nearly suffered a cot death (managed to be revived quickly).

In a time before mobile phones we could go to the park, half way between the house and hospital and if someone got injured (happened a few times with head injuries, knocked out teeth, broken bones, glass cuts... ah old school concrete and rusty metal playgrounds) we could go straight to the hospital.

Being close to something like that was amazing, I now live nowhere near any hospitals and it is a worry that in an emergancy it takes 10-15 minutes for the nearest ambulance to arrive normally and still then a 30+ minute drive to the hospital - in a life or death situation that time could mean death.

the giving yourself permission (and the power!) to discern what might please the other person.

Which is of course lovely when it works.

The trouble is that I genuinely have everything I could possibly want and more, in spite of ruthless decluttering.

If something were invented, I'd most likely hear about it, too. The chances of someone finding something that I didnt know I wanted, not just once but at Christmas and Birthday every year are vanishingly small.

Someone giving themselves the trouble of trying to do so, makes me a little sad. Of course I say thank you and look pleased but... That they estimate their chances of success high enough that they think it's worth their time and effort trying to do so, veers into delusion.

Genuine acts of charity, not buying a goat but donating in my name to a local charity which is sympathetic is appreciated, though I expect my friends and family already support such causes anyway

My preferred treat is to spending time with the people I like and love, over a meal or just a cup of something. Ideally spread out over the year rather than crammed into particular seasons.

We are indeed all different.

I'm going to suggest a Stackers jewellery box. I received one for Christmas last year as the lid fell off my previous jewellery box! Although I did specifically request it.
I'm not a huge jewellery fan, nor do I have a large collection, but I really like the Box.
You can choose the best configuration for your needs.
I also bought myself a Stackers travel case. Again, very useful.
I think they sometimes have offers around Black Friday.