delegating things for family members to do on the 25th,,,,am i too bossy if

[hermykne]

i ask bil to bring wine with his dw and child.
mil to do ham, glazed.
my mum to do red cabbage
other bil to bring wine
my sis to be my comme (sp) chef
uil to do nothing already gave us a generous monetary gift.
and respective spouses of the 2 mothers to do nothing.

why do the spouces get off?? Set them the task of keeping the kids entertained

spouses, mine will be busy cooking too and kids stuff and getting everyone out ofr a walk whilst i scream [frink]
mil s husband will be doing the ham with her.
my mothers will just be exhausted from his work..

sounds v reasonable

and a good idea

we all usually descend on my dads house on boxing day and its good to know what to do to share the load... not at all fair for any one or two people to do all the work. and, when people have done as asked, they can relax, guilt free.

ok great, thanks for help

v reasonable - every year we get delegated things to do. I offer more and will normally turn up with more but we are staying for several days so I also turn up with puds etc. I would have no problem being asked at all.