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Would you buy toys for a 9 yo?

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UndertheCedartree · 19/09/2021 19:05

I've been pondering this. DD (9 and a half) is my youngest DC. She is still very much into toys - particularly baby dolls, Designafriend style dolls and Barbie style dolls. Along with lots of clothes and accessories. I know for Christmas she will ask for more of these. But I kind of begrudge buying more toys when she has loads and I assume she won't be playing with them for much longer (meaning I assume only another year or 2). But then I feel mean not wanting to buy her toys while she is still really into them! I think it was around 9 my DS last asked for a toy for Christmas. But I knew all his toys would get played with by the youngest so it wasn't an issue!

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AgnesNaismith · 19/09/2021 19:09

YABU for agreeing to buy your 9yo ds a toy but not your dd at the same age. Sorry I know this isn’t AIBU Grin

What she wants for Christmas is what she wants 🤷‍♀️ Unless you get her what you want her to have…

TintinIsBack · 19/09/2021 19:10

In her eyes, a yea or two is huge!

I mean a lot of the toys you bought her. when she was 2yo were redundant by the time she was 4yo….

Let her enjoy those last years of childhood

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 19/09/2021 19:12

My DDs are 8&10. I'm not getting any more doll stuff for the 8yo. It would only duplicate what she has really. But she will happily get more lego, craft stuff, and science kits (she's asked for a robot).

Comedycook · 19/09/2021 19:14

I still buy toys for my dd...she is 11 but still wants a Barbie for Christmas. I think it's lovely

Legoisthebest · 19/09/2021 19:15

I am 46 and still play with toys.

Pinkchocolate · 19/09/2021 19:15

A year is a decent amount of play time for toys. Get her the toys! 😂

Cherryrainbow · 19/09/2021 19:55

Enjoy it, it won't be long before it's all makeup, gadgets etc. It's fun when they ask for toys. You don't have to buy loads, even if you just buy one or two toy items and the rest is all practical or whatever. I think she would be disappointed if she put toys on the list and didn't even get 1 item.

TeaAndToastx2 · 19/09/2021 20:02

Oh do it! A year or two is still ages. Enjoy it while you can before it’s all tech and make up or clothes. I’m going to be really sad when mine grow out of toys, luckily they are just 4 and 2 so I have time still 😀

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UndertheCedartree · 19/09/2021 20:08

@AgnesNaismith

YABU for agreeing to buy your 9yo ds a toy but not your dd at the same age. Sorry I know this isn’t AIBU Grin

What she wants for Christmas is what she wants 🤷‍♀️ Unless you get her what you want her to have…

Yes IABU! Grin I mean I wouldn't mind getting her what I want her to have (because does she really need another baby doll when she already has about 10!) but except it's not really in the spirit!
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UndertheCedartree · 19/09/2021 20:10

@TintinIsBack

In her eyes, a yea or two is huge!

I mean a lot of the toys you bought her. when she was 2yo were redundant by the time she was 4yo….

Let her enjoy those last years of childhood

Yes, I think that's why I am questioning myself! I want her to enjoy these years and not grow up too quickly! I think it's just because I'm on a tight budget that I think...I need to buy another doll, really?!
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UndertheCedartree · 19/09/2021 20:12

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

My DDs are 8&10. I'm not getting any more doll stuff for the 8yo. It would only duplicate what she has really. But she will happily get more lego, craft stuff, and science kits (she's asked for a robot).
I hear you! My DD has more than enough doll stuff! But she loves it all and plays with it all everyday! It's the main thing she's into aside from she loves art.
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DinosaurOfFire · 19/09/2021 20:15

My 9 year olds list is basically toys plus tech! I don't see her growing out of them any time soon- I think she is the type of child who will become a collector as she grows up, she is already starting to ask for a nice shelf to display her schleich figures on for example. If I were you, I would get your daughter the toys if they're what's on her list.

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UndertheCedartree · 19/09/2021 20:21

@Comedycook - that is lovely and tbh I can see my DD playing with her dolls when she is 11 as she really loves them!

@Legoisthebest - good for you! I take it you like Lego? Neither of mine have really got into Lego - it's usually me putting the kits together which I quite enjoy! This isn't about me thinking she is too old for toys - far from it! But I only have a small house and an even smaller budget which was why I was wondering how wise it would be to get more toys!

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elQuintoConyo · 19/09/2021 20:21

ahem.

Our 10yo is getting Lego, a thing that can magnetise/demagnetise, metal detector and that's about it toy-wise. He's leaning more towards a camera, electric keyboard, new bike (not that he's getting all of those!!).

I'm a bit sad he's grown out of toys, although I sometimes spy him getting some Playmobil out.

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UndertheCedartree · 19/09/2021 20:22

@Pinkchocolate

A year is a decent amount of play time for toys. Get her the toys! 😂
I will! Grin
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UndertheCedartree · 19/09/2021 20:24

@Cherryrainbow

Enjoy it, it won't be long before it's all makeup, gadgets etc. It's fun when they ask for toys. You don't have to buy loads, even if you just buy one or two toy items and the rest is all practical or whatever. I think she would be disappointed if she put toys on the list and didn't even get 1 item.
Yes, your right. I will definitely get her some toys! And yes, in comparison to the things they want when older they are relatively cheap, I suppose!
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UndertheCedartree · 19/09/2021 20:26

@TeaAndToastx2

Oh do it! A year or two is still ages. Enjoy it while you can before it’s all tech and make up or clothes. I’m going to be really sad when mine grow out of toys, luckily they are just 4 and 2 so I have time still 😀
I think I will be sad when it happens! But at the moment I think it just drives me up the wall that half of my living room is taken over by the babies' nursery! Grin
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lannistunut · 19/09/2021 20:28

If this is the last year she will ask for toys, don't you want to indulge that? Would be really sad to stop it early IMO.

TeaAndToastx2 · 19/09/2021 20:31

Oh I totally understand the toys taking over 😂 I may well think the same after 7 more years of dolls!!

CeeceeBloomingdale · 19/09/2021 20:32

My youngest was 9 last year and I bought toys. This year she probably won't get anything much to play with, some lego but the architecture stuff, art supplies etc but she is fast choosing things like her older sister so toys are no more. This is likely to be your last year, I'd buy ALL the toys!

SleepingStandingUp · 19/09/2021 20:33

I'm not sure of the logic op.

Money is tight so she's not going to get much of anything and whatever yo u get her you want her to enjoy.

So why not just buy the dolls instead of something she'll like less? Or are you thinking you can spend less on her than her sibling?

Nat6999 · 19/09/2021 20:35

Sindy dolls are coming back, there are 6 new ones coming out in the next few weeks which are going to be sold exclusively in Sainsbury's & Argos, ranging from £20-35. Look at sindyplay.com

Legoisthebest · 19/09/2021 21:00

Yes I like Lego Grin
I also like craft sets aimed at kids cos they are easier to do.
My daughter is 13. She is suddenly going through a My Little Pony phase and is interested in Bratz/Monster High/Rainbow High dolls and every so often gets excited about Sylvanian Families. She doesn't really 'play' with them but line the ponies etc up and display and change the clothes on the dolls.
Apparently this is a bit of a puberty thing. The 'caring' for cute things hormone is kicking in or something.

Legoisthebest · 19/09/2021 21:02

Nat6999 .....new Sindy dolls. I think my Christmas might be sorted Grin

user64325 · 19/09/2021 21:58

Yes I definitely would. As long as they want them. Think of all the other expensive items you buy that you know won't last more than a year? Baby toys, Moses baskets, baby slings, baby walkers, ride on toys, clothes, etc. You'd probably buy teenagers expensive trainers or designer perfume that would last less than a year, so I don't know why toys have to have a longer time length value on them for them to be worth it once they get to around 10. It's not just you, it's a common question every year. Let them enjoy it while it lasts. If they grow out of it very quickly then it will probably be in good enough condition to sell it to fund their next hobby.