Is it a cheesy idea to announce a pregnancy in Christmas cards

[FrannyandZooey]

It would be quite handy

yes, jealous of strangers or people you half-know, but plumbing new depths of self-loathing with friends and family. while being happy for them at the same time. it's amazing our heads don't just explode, tbh.

PS not me at the moment as am not ttc (strictly speaking), but i have been there.

All responses very helpful, thank you

Aitch that was a very kind thing to say and I wish I thought it was justified

as I was falling asleep last night I thought of someone else who I should be careful how I tell, and now I have forgotten who it was arrrgh

i did originally have 'sensitive and kind and nauseous' but the latter is just a temporary setting.

congrats francoise, i didnt know. fwiw, i dont see whats cheesy about sending a scan or whatever... if people are not interested they can just toss it to one side for a time before shoving it in thebin with the rest of the cards, its not like youre going to force them to coo over it. APART of course from people who may be sensitive to the news...

aitch, im so sorry to read your posts which so eloquently describe the heartache of ttc for a long time, something i have had the immense good fortune not to have experienced and so have no knowledge of... is poignant for me too because i now have at least one friend who is prob going to have to try ivf, and a couple of others who have told me they are ttc, but have yet to announce any news... and i dont know what to say as ive been in insensitive bitch and blithely gone on about conceiving at the drop of a hat etc etc... sigh. i want to send a heartfelt apology to anyone my insensitivity has hurt. dunno what i am saying here really, except thank you for helping me to understand a little better, and hopefully in time for me to be supportive to my friends.

but of course you don't see what's cheesy about sending a can pic, you old strictly come dancer, you... (i thought your outfit was LOVELY and you are gorgeous and fresh-faced).

that's great that you'll be able to be a bit more helpful to your pals from now on, thanks for passing that on.

Franny, many congrats!

You have to announce sooner or later. I appreciate that some couples who have been trying might be sensitive (I have had an mc so I understand), but I think that they would be even more hurt if everyone else knew except them because the assumption is that you could not summon up the courage to tell them because it would hurt etc.

Fine to announce once and for all in the card in a matter-of-fact way, without being too twee about it.

As another poster has said, it gives them time to absorb the information on their own terms.