DSD wants nothing but to be healthy! Clueless!

[ReginaaPhalange]

Based on other Christmas threads on here, I said to DSD in passing this morning to maybe start having a look online and give me and her dad some ideas for Christmas. She said "I have everything I want and need here - I just want to be healthy". She is a healthy girl so no issues there, but I'm truly stumped what to get her. She's 13. She's not girlie at all so not into make up, perfumes etc but did say she likes bath bombs so we will get her a couple of the gift hampers from lush etc nearer the time.

Anyone have any ideas??? Both Dh and I are sat here totally clueless and don't want to just give her money (we will already give her £50 in a card)

Aww, she sounds lovely! What about any sports equipment she might enjoy (tennis racket, weighted hula hoop, skipping rope), sports clothes or a cook book with an ingredient hamper or something? Is she into art or any other hobbies?

@CanofCant she's a lovely girl :) honestly, the only thing she wanted to learn to do is snowboard, but the huge indoor snowboarding/ski centre near to us hasn't reopened after covid :( otherwise she would have gotten a block of lessons!

She has one of those IKEA kallax units in her room with the canvas drawers (3 drawer) full to the brim with art supplies lol. To be fair she enjoys her iPad which she got last Christmas and DH has every bloomin gaming console going so she has games across all that. When she's here she's just happy lounging on the iPad, watching films or away on her (new for recent birthday) bike.

It's nice she said she has everything she wants here and doesn't need anything, but I want to get her a few things to open, especially as it's our last Christmas as a Three as we have a baby due in December, so I want to make this one extra special for her.

Seen posts about a Starbucks gift card! She loves Starbucks so that'll work!

January, not December!

Gym membership or pt sessions?

I'd say wait a bit. She may well have more ideas nearer the time. Don't go overboard on the Lush products, I suspect she mentioned the bath bombs because she had to say something..I'm not sure that hampers of the stuff is quite what she meant. One or 2 in a stocking might be nice.

Sports equipment sounds a nice idea if she is sporty, or some tickets for an event? Nice trainers?

Oh, if she's got a bike, some cycling gloves?

What about an experience? A mini break for you both or an activity booked - go ape or something like that?

A voucher for an activity? My dd is the same age and we have bought theatre tickets for the last few years. Then we have a girly day, dd, myself and her grandmother, going to the theatre, lunch and some shopping with Christmas money. We also have an outdoor activity centre not too far away where they do all kinds of fun stuff, or maybe she'd like an escape room, indoor skiing, a treetops rope course? My dd has asked about a spa day.
On the day she has some stationery, stickers etc for her scrapbooking, books, maybe some nice clothes or something for her room. I bought her a Friends Lego Central Perk set for her birthday and I've got her a lovely keepsake necklace this year.

A FitBit? Headphones for using when you're swimming?

Nutribullet?
Personal trainer?
Bike, roller skates?
Ski/snowboard trip (Scotland rather than abroad; I realise this can be hit n miss)
Sailing/horse riding/ice skating/tennis/archery etc lessons?

Tickers for a show or musical - they all seem to love Mamma Mia at that age for example - went down v well in similar situation with us

You can get a balance board that is good practice for snowboarding, and can do it at home really easy. Il see if I can find a link....

Something along those lines!

A Fitbit or Apple Watch to connect to her iPad would be great, maybe some air pods to if she's out keeping fit?
Also they electric scooters are a big thing now (I think their lethal IMO)

Well if she likes snowboarding perhaps she’d be interested in stand up paddle boarding lessons or skateboarding ? Our local climbing centre is open and offering lessons again. I wonder if she’s getting into a less consumerist more environmentally aware place? There is a slow movement which values quite analogue activities like journaling ( bullet journals, art journals etc ). If not then perhaps tickets for a day festival or gig since they’ve since started.

Is she not healthy already?

Electric scooters aren’t legal in most places and look hellish unsafe.

Ah she is “healthy”

Is she overweight?

Do you think this means anything as that is an unusual response in a healthy 13 year old

Is there an outdoor pursuits/water sports centre nearby that you could buy her vouchers for. Maybe now snowboarding but she might enjoy climbing, kayaking and that type of stuff.

If forget about the present and try to carve out some time with her to have a chat about why she wants nothing but to be healthy when she is already healthy. No books, clothes, crafts, hobby related stuff etc

Write in a card what she has said and tell her how proud that made you. That kind of awareness is really hard to keep hold of as you get older and if she can be content in being a healthy person then she will be a happy person.
As for a present - what about a fit-bit?

Did she mean that "all I want is to be healthy, and I already am, so I'm perfectly happy and don't need anything"? Or "all I want is to be healthy but I'm not, so nothing you can but me will help"?

If it's the first one, then I agree about getting her some of the things listed above, but if she's genuinely happy then I wouldn't necessarily go mad buying "things". There's a bit of a movement among teens these days for "simplicity" and anti-materialism, and if she's into that then she probably genuinely wouldn't appreciate lots of random "stuff". Maybe a magazine subscription, some "usable" stuff like nice toiletries and stationery, and then something like the balance board above or a FitBit if she doesn't already have one.

If it's the second one, then I'd go for maybe more experiences/days out with her so you have time together.

Also agree with whoever said not to go nuts on the bath bombs. I remember racking my brains to think of something I'd like, and vaguely saying "bath stuff" and then getting tons of the stuff!

For all those asking, she's happy and healthy and not overweight - she just wants to stay healthy (she's paranoid about covid).

She has an Apple Watch and has a hover board and a electric razor scooter which she doesn't use anymore.

She may well change her mind nearer the time so will hold off for any bigger items.

Ahh that's lovely and it's far too early to think about Christmas anyway

Never too early when you have a baby on the way and lots of upcoming expense 🤣🤣