Really panicking that the Dc won’t have enough!

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Dh has taken it upon himself to do the Xmas shopping this year because “I go over the top”.

He’s gone for quality over quantity.

Dd11 has-

Holister jumper
Vans
2 x tshirts
Anne frank book
Reed defuiser
Starbucks mug
£10 Starbucks voucher
Another book
Wreck it journal
Cajigprahy set

Ds10 has-

Nintendo Ds which he wanted
Nintendo game
Youtuber merch
A book about space
Guinness world record book
Nasa top
£10 Greggs voucher 😂
Another Ds game

Dd3

Barbie set
Cinderella doll
Book
Pants
(Not finished her yet)

I’m in charge of stockings and no idea what to get?!

I want to get the exploding kitten game for ds.

I’m worried they will be disappointed 😩

It’s most of their stuff off their wish lists

Exactly so the comment I made asking why they could t be bought when needed was BEFORE the mention of cost. Because after that I agreed.

Bolding is for quotes isn't it? Not for posters to add various posts together and use them to make a point against something that was said previously

That looks like the perfect amount. I think your dh has done a fab job. I think clothes Re perfectly acceptable gifts. My two year old had asked for slippers, socks and fluffy PJ's!

Bolding is for quotes isn't it? Not for posters to add various posts together and use them to make a point against something that was said previously

Didn't realise there was a hard and fast rule, but apologies if it was confusing. Just trying to keep it brief.

GingleJangle the point is, you used bold to ‘quote’ something but completely misrepresented what was actually said. Your summary put words into pp’s mouths and was not what they’d said, and then others started quoting that too, from your post.
The point being made was, if a child needs a swimming costume / new underwear etc then some posters are saying that should be just given, not as a present. Others are saying, yes they could give a cheap / plain version, but spend more to get branded or better quality than they’d normally get, and justify it by giving as a present.
My Dd saw a hoodie she really liked recently. She doesn’t actually need it, she has plenty of other clothes, so I didn’t want to just buy it and allow her to think that she can have whatever she wants just by asking for it. So I’ve bought it as a present, because I know she really liked it, and she’ll appreciate it because it’s a luxury or extra to what she’d normally have.

It wasn't my intention to misrepresent what had been said/put words into people's mouths. Apologies if my misuse of bold made it seem that way.

Horrible thread

@norkins - Horrible thread

I could rate your post similarly.

Nobody is requiring you to read the thread.

Pants? As in underwear? I wouldn't class that as a present!

Pants? As in underwear? I wouldn't class that as a present!

It depends on what pants though. Some teenagers like to have branded underwear like Calvin Klein and they're pricey so I think if that's what they want then it's a good gift if they know parents wouldn't usually stretch to designer usually. I remember getting a pair of Calvin Kleins in my stocking when I was 18 (so 29 years ago) and I thought it was a great gift and used them as my special racing pants as I was an athlete. For me it was a good gift.

@GIngleJingleScarecrow quoted the PP who made the comment about buying them a £70 costume when they needed it.

@rhubarbcrumbles

No, jingle didn't.

Jingle quoted PART of my post which was made BEFORE any mention of cost. I simply asked why?

Jingle turned it into

Why don't you just get them a new £70 swimming costume if they need it

And then suggested posters lived in a bubble

NOBODY SAID..

Why don't you just get them a new £70 swimming costume if they need it

Except for jingle, who then answered it with a dig.

Jingle took my question and added it to a post about cost and made her own 'quote' to respond to

Gingle - sorry it goes from that tho tingle to jingle

@snowybaubles OK, I see. Thanks.

My dd has pants for Christmas but they will be in her stocking, not main gift and they are branded ones.

I watched that Growing up Poor programme. The children didn’t eat because the only thing in the house was ketchup. And there was no heating as they had £2 of gas. One of them spoke about wanting to kill herself.

I’m sure your children will be just fine. Maybe direct that guilt elsewhere and help be part of the solution not the problem

That is shit loads. Honestly.

Your dh is a gem. My kids’dad would go out on 23rd and spend twenty quid.

I'm shocked at how judgemental some people seem to be. We all have different circumstances and spend different amounts/give different amounts of presents!
Your list looks great OP and I'm sure your DC will be really happy with what they get. Having a 14DS I think clothes are more than fine. Whether it's an expensive designer item or a cheap t- shirt from Primark!

I honestly don’t understand the “clothes aren’t gifts because you have an obligation to clothe your child” mentality.

I’ve seen about 300 posts this week from people who claim to put fruit and toothbrushes in stockings. I’d rather have clothes.

Parents have an obligation to feed their children, yet lots give sweets and food items as presents.

Parents have an obligation to make sure their children can read and are educated, yet books and stationary are standard gifts.

According to a massive post in AIBU a few weeks ago, social services expect your kids have enough toys and games and puzzles to play with or else they will take your kids away yet toys and puzzles are standard gifts.

I give clothes as gifts. Some are a bit ‘extra’ and expensive brands that I wouldn’t otherwise buy, some are cheaper but it’s always nice to have new outfits for Christmas Day, regardless of how many clothes you already have.

@Stevienickssleeves

My 12yo put a Starbucks gift card on her Xmas list!

She goes with her friends at weekends sometimes I if they are a secondary age 11 I would think that's quite a common place to hang out!

She will LOVE the reed defuser and Starbucks. She loves candles and things (not allowed to light them 😂😂) and her and her friends go Starbucks which is practically next to her school after school twice a week.

Go and see "Sorry we missed you" and then have a think.

MarleneandBoycie

Miaow.

OP, that's a great set of presents for your kids and if you've bought from their lists then they will be thrilled.

It's hard to scale back if you usually go mad, I know the feeling!

Mine are younger than yours, all under 8 years.

I've just looked at my lists and if I remove the stocking items, Christmas Eve pyjamas and their silver presents (only given if they eat one of every vegetable on their plate on Christmas Day), they have 7-8 presents each. Which is still probably a bit too much if I'm honest.

We bought second hand toys this year, because it's eco friendly and because I'm not spending £60 on a piece of plastic which is likely to be played with twice (but is high on their wish lists). So money went much further and they ended up with more - I should have reined it in.

Clothes are always part of my Christmas shopping. My DD wants her club gymnastics kit, which she doesn't need as she has two leotards already. So it's a Christmas present as it's expensive and I would not buy it for just general gymnastics class, she's not squad and not competing/

Half of my wish list is clothes, nice ones I couldn't usually buy, so why can't the kids have the same? X

My DS 11 has asked for clothes as he doesnt want anything plastic. Hes got books and clothes. I have got him some stuff for his phone.I may get him a Gregg's card for his stocking though