Mad at DH over present he’s bought!

[mrsdaz]

Our ds is 9 and has been begging for an Xbox. DH and I agreed he was too young despite his class friends having computers etc.

We set a budget and I have been really careful to buy useful presents that will be used all year (animation studio kit and the like).

DH turns up with an Xbox one stating he thinks ds9 should have it so has got it for him and his siblings to share.

Am I being unreasonable to be slightly fuming! I feel like I can’t give all the gifts I’ve already bought as they will fade into insignificance against the mighty Xbox!!

Family new year gift, and ds can share or not play!

Am sure he will use it all year round 😂

My DF and DS play mine craft together and honestly it's so cute, they really love it and means I get to sneak away for a bubble bath :)

Ok, I would strongly resent the time and effort gone into it then. I’d take a night off this week, have a bath and read my book and tell dh I was reclaiming my time! And I stand by next year he’s doing the kids presents.

My Ds is having an x box but also carefully thought out presents.

I think you are overthinking this .

I would say now great you have learnt to shop so now you will be doing your family mine and half the kids.

Your description of how you've chosen what to buy ds just sounds like you're sucking the fun and frivolity out of Xmas presents. I'm sure your son will still enjoy them, but can you imagine his face when they open the one present they truly wanted and 9 isn't too young at all!!!

Last year my son was 6 and dreamed of getting a Nintendo switch, which we did, as a family present and he was so happy and shock horror he still loved all his other gifts as well.

Tbh, I think you're more annoyed that your DH will be getting all the glory for choosing a better gift, you sound like a bit of a buzz kill tbh

OK, this is starting to sound like it might be about something else. Your H was the one who initially objected to the XBox, but now he's bought one? Is it a brand new one, or has he got it off Some Bloke In The Pub or something? Does he have a history of undermining you to make himself look like Best Parent? Also, are all the DC his?

Actually, this is making more sense now.

OP and her DH discuss getting their 9yo son an Xbox for Christmas. OP is fine with it, but DH decides DS is too young to have such an expensive item to himself. OP goes along with this.

Later, DH decides that it would be fine for all the kids to have an Xbox to share. He figures, based on their previous conversation, that OP will be OK with this, and goes ahead with the purchase. He definitely should have discussed this with OP first, but I don’t think his intentions are as sinister as some PPs think.

OP, it’s normal in a lot of families for the kids to get one big gift and several smaller ones on Christmas morning. Don’t overthink it. Your kids will love everything.