MIL calls at stroke of midnight on new years eve every year

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yes thats right! If we are at home the phone goes. No idea if she calls the years we are out.

so last year I unplugged phone and will replug 10 mins after midnight.
(she does not call mobiles for some reason)

DH seems oblivious and picks up phone to her.

I have not mentioned it to him, I am sure he would tell her to phone later, if I say something, he seems not to mind, but I do. I would rather unplug her, as it seems so bizarre that she expects to pick up just as most people are raising their glasses. I think she has always done it. She has other kids, but she calls DH at midnight, no idea if or when she calls the others. she is not controlling in other ways

last year when plugged back in, the call came through 10 mins after and she seemed very flustered that she did not come through. BTW she is with her own husband and sometimes other people/neighbours when she does the call, so she is disrupting x2 stroke of midnight glass clinks - bizarre

@limitedperiodonly
A good husband should put his own family first, not his mum. Why shouldn't he wish his own wife a happy new year?

"A good husband should put his own family first"

Is his mum not a member of his family?

It’s very odd if it’s on the bells. And rude to the people you are actually with. I thought midnight was always for snogging someone, if you had the opportunity. Then obviously I would always text anyone I thought would be up.

If it’s so umportant that we all spend NYE speaking to our mothers at the bells, why does anyone ever go out to parties or celebrate at home or watch the fireworks? And what happens when you have multiple siblings? When my sons are grown I certainly hope they’ll wish me a happy new year, but I’ll also hope they have a good night and spend the first minutes celebrating with whoever they are with.

I thought midnight was always for snogging someone, if you had the opportunity.

This very practical but I now can't work out who is spoofing me.

Haven't RTFT but she is definitely very weird wanting to one of her offspring at New year's Eve.

Have you thought about calling the police?

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I'd log it with 101. It's safer

Lol you need to Check yourself love. That's his Mum he'll pick her over you every time. Tread carefully

As a terminally ill mother of three sons I’m almost glad I won’t be around to have the worry of my son/sons living with someone that controls who they can speak to and when. Who knows I will ring so deliberately and secretly unplugs the phone.

You’re being incredibly childish. He’s her son! You spend far more time with him than she does and more than likely have many more NYEs to look forward to spending with him than she does.

It’s their little tradition and you went behind their backs to spoil it. Sneaky, mean, petty and childish. Did you feel very clever when the phone didn’t ring as usual?

I hope your husband ignores your meanminded pettiness, and continues to take his mum's calls. I bet if she didn't phone to wish you a Happy New Year as her first thought, you'd moan about that too.

Unplugging the phone so she just gets an endless ringtone? Spiteful. Woman up and tell her not to phone as you don't like it then, instead of playing silly, churlish games.

I suppose there will now be a massive drip feed to show that she's some kind of monster so you can have a nice thread full of justification

I ring my dad on new year at 12am, my hubby is here and doesn’t mind. I do it because of a tradition I had with my mum who is no longer with us. You maybe need to understand why this is so important to her and respect it, it does no harm to you, however he may miss it when she’s gone and resent you for preventing his last occasions

It seems strange to me! Many years from now when children are living elsewhere I expect dh & I to be chinking glasses at midnight and messaging children after that. I certainly don’t intend on speaking to each dc as they each celebrate or don’t celebrate New Years.

Either there is a large drip feed to be had, or your juts spiteful. Heaven forbid you actually talk and ask for something difference- you'd rather be childish and passive aggressive whilst gleefully patting yourself anonymously online. Well done on acting like a bitchy child?