With a whizz and a bang, here comes Bonfire Night to herald your 50 day warning! Countdown to Christmas, thread 8

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Here goes!

Thread 8 already; wonder how many we will get to before Christmas?!

The old wives' tale is that girl babies steal your beauty. Apparently the male partner puts more weight on during the pregnancy with girls too (nope, I've no idea either!).

I'm not sure about tiredness. I was working full time with a 90 minute commute each way when pregnant with her. I do remember that staying awake past about 9pm was a miracle though! 😂😂

I only worked between 19-32 weeks with DS as I got pregnant during mat leave with DD. I possibly wasn't as bad, however.

I’d be happy with whatever we have, but I have a very strong feeling it’s a girl!

Evening everyone 😀
Have sorted the parents out today well and truly. Been through their paperwork and filed everything 😇, sorted out selling Dad's Santandar shares, his driving license , not that he will ever be able to drive again bless him but you can't take all hope away from them can you? Sorted charity bags for cat protection league and ty hafan and delivered them . A pile of pics sent to a friend of mums , she was supposed to share them in August 🙄, done their washing hung it out bought the dry in and airing it , have hoovered upstairs because they had talc , toilet paper , sweetie wrappers, crumbs and crisps all over the place 🙄🙄 . Have just spoken to mum's NDN daughter , she called in to see them yesterday and she was very upset at how they are deteriorating. I said to her l know and l don't know what to do about it, l try everything to help them and keep them happy and well but Dad is just going downhill in front of my eyes. It's very hard to watch and l feel hopeless. 😪😪😪
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest, l feel better telling you about it 🤗🤗

Oh mrs it sounds very hard they are so lucky to have you 💐

Hello again everyone. I've been lurking but not posting lately. My DM is very poorly and I've spent the week with her. I've done a bit of Christmas shopping this weekend and I'm very nearly done. Heading back home tomorrow.

Hope all are well.

Sorry MrsMad we cross posted with similar stories. It's hard isn't it? Much love to you.

Thank you so much Wreck you are too kind
Woolly l am so sorry my dear it is just so hard watching them fading away, it tears me apart and l can only think it is doing the same to you , it is such a difficult time for everyone
You are doing the very best you can for her and for you . Woolly there is nothing finer that you can do for your Darling Mum however hard it is to witness l know that when you walk in that door your Mum feels so much love and so safe with you there. I see my Dad and he is like a child when l get there and he says to me every time l go there and start to leave 'when am l seeing you again?', l am crying now because this is so sad to write and to say to you but l know it is the truth so keep doing what you are doing and l will too, it is the only thing left we can do for them. Hugs galore my dear Woolly

Hugs and and lots of to the both of you

MrsMad I am extremely lucky that I have many, many siblings and the emotional load is very well spread. It doesn't really make it any easier but I know that my sisters and brothers take very good care of DM. My DM is the glue that holds us all together.

I am sorry l hijacked the thread l feel better for a cry, just needed to let it out a bit Normal service will resume l promise

Woolly l am so thankful you have your Siblings to support you and for you to support , it really really helps to share. I have not got that relationship with my sibs unfortunately . My feeling is the same as yours the parents are the glue that hold us all together . Hugs my dear Woolly.

Ahh thank you Frange that is so kind of you

Anyway let's get back to business and has anyone got an idea what to call the next thread ?

Oh Woolly and Mrs, the love you both have for your parents shines through what you write. ❤️and to both of you.

New thread title? I'll think and come back!

How about: Dust off your decs and bring out your baubles; this is your 5 week warning! Countdown to Christmas thread 9.

Evening!
I’m sat eating tomatoes and clementines like they are going out of fashion Addie loves all fruit and veg at the moment, can’t get enough!

So, my grandad spoke to my family and they aren’t coming to ny dads funeral because ‘it’s too much stress’ I know I’m being unreasonable and they are hurting, but I’m just so disgusted with them right now! It’s all been put on me and they just jet off on holiday without a care in the world, arghhh! It’s upset me, but now Addie has just started kicking me and suddenly nothing else matters but her.

Mrs - I know how you feel and whilst it is the hardest thing in the world to watch them deteriorate in front of you, as you say it’s the last thing we can do for them really. If you ever need to chat you can PM me; I may not always know what to say, but I’m a good listener :)

After losing my dad so suddenly, and feeling so alone because of the way my whole family are acting minus my grandad and one of my brothers, if I can listen / help / be there for anyone who’s hurting or going through a tough time etc then I will be :)

Wooly - so sorry to hear about your mum my lovely

Fluffy thank you my dear you are too kind and
that is fabulous as a thread title think it is just the job!

Woolly, Mrs and Acey

I kind of know what you are going through. My grandad has dementia and Parkinson's and is deteriorating quite fast. It's really taking the toll on my granny as she's trying to be strong for him and also care for her daughter, my aunt who is disabled. We have a big enough family to try to help though.

Acey that is so kind of you and of course you know how it feels and it must be very raw for you at this time. As for your family l think they have a very skewed thinking l mean who does that , just goes on holiday to avoid the stress of the funeral of their Dad? My mind boggles it really does but you are more than making up for them my dear
You and Addie will be your own little family and it will be wonderful for you both

Nero thank you for being so understanding , your poor Grandparents and you all , it must be so hard for your Gran especially, she sounds an amazing women hugs my dear

I’m so sorry to hear about your Grandad Nero’s, and also your Grandma too I’m glad you have a big family pulling you through :)

Mrs - it’s the least I can do :) I’m dreading the funeral on Wednesday, but seeing him looking so peaceful and healthy at the funeral parlour gives me so much comfort. As does knowing his dying wish was granted as he wanted me there, and I was the last person he saw before he passed I feel at peace knowing he is no longer suffering, and knowing I did everything I could for him. My life was richer and better for knowing him my family are just being so weird, it’s my other brothers, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandma etc. It makes no sense how they’ve all shut down and gone on holiday at the same time! They will be in for one helluva shock and rude awakening if they think everything is going to be normal when they come back. Enough about them anyway you are so right; Addie and I will be our own little family and I just want to give her the most incredible life. I have never loved anything or anyone the way I love her, it’s like my heart could explode with pride and love and she’s not even here yet 😍

Love the thread title fluffy!

My grandad said he’s so excited for Christmas this year as he gets so spend quality time with me and then next year Addie too! I’m very lucky to have him

Given how fast these threads go Fluffy I reckon we have got one more full thread and one part thread before the big day! Better get thinking about the next title too.

Hugs to everyone worrying about family at the moment.

Had corn and cauliflower quinotto for supper, DS2 was in bed by 8, DD will go at 10.15. 😋😴

PSB thank you my dear , l know you must have this stress and worry in your mind every time your DS1 is poorly too it is such a worry for us all .
Acey, you are and have been so wonderful over you Dad's passing , l just know that he is so proud of you and your Grandad being with you on the day and your Addie will give you so much strength to see it through , we will all be here to give you support too my dear