So what are you buying your mother?

[BitOutOfPractice]

I'm stuck completely for ideas for my lovely 80yo mom

Please inspire me!

[cashmerecardigans]

I’ve bought my 85yo Mum a beautiful silk scarf from Liberty’s

[OCSockOrphanage]

Mine is getting a very neat mini food processor (keen cook), a book well, or several and a portrait of our family, framed.

[RaeSkywalker]

Mine’s getting a voucher for her favourite beautician, and a bauble painted by DS.

[Trumpton]

Cashmere cardigan, it's for MIL who is tiny ( I am not ! ) and feels the cold .
Other years ...
Subscription to The Lady .
Reading light
Leather gloves.
Warm throw.
Crossword solver
Bird bath
Solar fountain
Hot water dispenser
Cashmere bed socks
Silk nightdress from Patra
Silk pillow cases
Kindle
Ipad

[WeatherDependent]

My mum is having some flowers delivered just before Christmas and I’ve also got her and my Dad theatre tickets.

[HollyBollyBooBoo]

Perfume
Books
Food hamper
Hand cream
Socks
Nice shower gel
Chocolate
Spa Day
Geox trainers

[Graphista]

Got a few small ideas from this thread but struggling for a "main" present.

She's not a demanding person as such BUT he and dad are not at all materialistic and are comfortably enough off now that if they do want something they just get it! So that rules out books/DVDs and the like as they buy them as soon as they're out.

Also for health reasons she doesn't wear jewellery, make up or perfume and can only use a (very cheap basic) brand of toiletries. She IS fussy with clothes plus her weight fluctuates a fair bit. The house is already COVERED in family photos and that's not a great gift as that was her job and nobody takes as good pics as she does. So...I'm fairly stumped.

I'm debating theatre tokens IF they can be used on the day as she is dads carer and so doesn't book things in advance as it depends how he's doing AND on her own health. She doesn't go to the cinema.

Worse can't even ask as she just says "oh a nice card is all I need" she's just being awkward really

[Taffeta]

Graphista - how close do you live? Would it be possible to take her out for a really nice lunch somewhere? Give her a “voucher” that you’ve made yourself and then you can pick a date nearer the time.

[RhiannonOHara]

'Subscription to The Lady .
Reading light
Leather gloves.
Warm throw.
Crossword solver
Bird bath
Solar fountain
Hot water dispenser
Cashmere bed socks
Silk nightdress from Patra
Silk pillow cases
Kindle
Ipad'

God, I'm 42 and I'd love any of these presents. Almost certainly more than my mum (70s) would

[DoAsYouWouldBeMumBy]

A volume of poetry about Mary Magdalen. She's quite religious and she loves poetry, so hoping I'm onto a winner. I heard about the book on a podcast about the poet, so am going to get DH to download the podcast onto a CD to give to her with it.

[LesLavandes]

I don't know what to buy my mum. She's 89, vascular dementia but she still recognises me and understands a present. She also has very poor eyesight. What do you buy someone like this who needs nothing.

[calzone]

LesLavandes

Could you buy her a lovely hand cream and give her a hand massage when you visit her? She might appreciate the closeness, the touch and the scent......

[RhiannonOHara]

Lavandes, something audio-based? Music? A soundscape of some kind? Spoken word (poetry, drama... sorry if that's totally not useful but I don't know what her comprehension/ability to follow speech/narrative is).

[Trumpton]

RhiannonOHara so would I ...and I buy them for her !

[Trumpton]

And she is 94 !

[ColonelJackONeil]

Leslavandes sorry to hear about your mum. I find my FiL who has dementia really enjoys some sweets, his favourite is Turkish Delight.

[joangray38]

Hedgehog house, butterfly and bee hotel and bird feeder & trip to Disneyland Paris, her demand, for her 80 th birthday.

[LesLavandes]

Thank you Calzone and Rhiannon. The problem is that I don't live in same country and so a hand massage would be really infrequent. I have bought her all sorts of toiletries before and they are unused. I would buy her music as she was a musician. It is a great idea but she is taken out of her room for most of day and only there for sleeping

[Sagethyme]

leslavandes how about giving/ sending her some lavender bags to freshen up her wardrobe/ draws? Depending on her dementia, you can get specially made dementia blankets, which can help with anxiety.
Or a warm scarf? I know some older people can really feel the cold even in super heated homes. Last year I gave my dad a merino wool padded chair cushion (has padded back rest too) as my poor old dad is very underweight feels the cold terribly and because he's so bony found sitting in many chairs really uncomfortable, the cushion keeps his bony bum warm, and comfy! Could she listen to audio books at night? Not sure if any of these are helpful, but I'll keep thinking!

[gamerchick]

Groot

[RhiannonOHara]

Lavandes, could she use an iPod or similar then, with earphones?

[CakesRUs]

A wall clock, which she asked for.

[elephantoverthehill]

My DM is 84, I have bought her silk pillow cases for her main present, I am starting on her stocking and have so far bought her a light dressing gown for when she travels and a handbag sized hair brush. I will fill the rest of the stocking with expensive honey, hand cream, manicuring bits and...............

[farfallarocks]

Vouchers from Paul Edmonds

[VivienneWestwoodsKnickers]

Poncho from TK Maxx, heated seat to plug into her car, tickets to a concert in April. She's always cold.