How can I convince dp to allow this twitch?

[ArriettyMatilda]

I've finished buying presents for 3yo dd. Her stocking will be full and there will be a handful of other presents from me and dp. She will also get lots from family and friends. This week I was asking her what she thought Father Christmas might bring her and she told me he was bringing her a scooter. I need to twitch! Dp thinks this is unnecessary as she got a balance bike last year for Christmas but she's not that confident on it yet. I think she is mainly coveting a nursery friends scooter, and dp thinks this isn't good enough as she already has something similar. I can just imagine how happy she would be on Christmas day if she were to get one. Dp said he will feel bitter if I go ahead. FYI I think she'll be too busy on Christmas today with other presents to realise, but I'm worried about letting her down I know there will be times in life where she is disappointed, but I'm not sure Christmas day is a day for teaching lessons.

How do other people manage these kind of expectations from children?

Most of you will be happy to hear I've ordered one! I said to dp this morning "What am I supposed to do, either you'll be bitter or our dd will be unhappy /disappointed" (I know she may not have noticed but how could I risk that on Christmas day). He said I'd have to make a decision that I was happy with. So I told him I'm ordering it and he can't complain because he essentially told me to. He accepted this logic I can't wait to see her face on Christmas day and I'm sure he'll see it's worth it when she opens it.

Well done. He was hopefully just blowing off hot air.

That's brilliant. I don't get the balance bike thing myself. You want to be able to zoom!!!!!!. Not go along on wheels slower than you would go if you ran..

Glad you twitched your dd will love the scooter. Dh and I agree a budget but I pretty much choose what I want for the dcs so on Christmas morning it's as much as a surprise to dh as it is them as I also wrap everything as well.

Ah I hope your dd enjoys her scooter! For what it's worth, we have a balance bike and a scooter and both get used. For ages, the scooter was preferred as my dd could manage it easier and if she got fed up with it, it was easy to carry/shove on the pram. It's also small to take in the car if we're visiting anywhere/staying with people. She then got really into her balance bike and hasn't used the scooter as much. We still take it away with us though and she does still use it. This year Santa is bringing a proper bike - dh is increasingly frustrated about the amount of "transportation devices" in our garage (we also have a smart trike thing which is now being used by the baby and a bloody enormous toy car which was a gift), although dh does agree that both the scooter and balance bike have been great and we've had loads of use of them. Sure your dh will come around when he sees how useful they are Santa may also be bring us a bloody ride on thing for the baby to use in the summer and I may have I open some sort of second hand wheeled toy shop

Believe me, my ds used to zoom on his balance bike. It's enjoyable in a different way and really helped his coordination.

Yep when your kids start wanting bikes and scooters it's time to get a bigger shed!!

My DH is another one who's 'wows' and looks of surprise on xmas morning are genuine too...he usually hasn't got a clue what I've bought and he's useless at wrapping so doesn't get involved in that either...takes himself off shopping usually day before Christmas Eve for my presents and he thinks that's hard work 😂