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How can I convince dp to allow this twitch?

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ArriettyMatilda · 15/12/2016 00:08

I've finished buying presents for 3yo dd. Her stocking will be full and there will be a handful of other presents from me and dp. She will also get lots from family and friends. This week I was asking her what she thought Father Christmas might bring her and she told me he was bringing her a scooter. I need to twitch! Dp thinks this is unnecessary as she got a balance bike last year for Christmas but she's not that confident on it yet. I think she is mainly coveting a nursery friends scooter, and dp thinks this isn't good enough as she already has something similar. I can just imagine how happy she would be on Christmas day if she were to get one. Dp said he will feel bitter if I go ahead. FYI I think she'll be too busy on Christmas today with other presents to realise, but I'm worried about letting her down I know there will be times in life where she is disappointed, but I'm not sure Christmas day is a day for teaching lessons.

How do other people manage these kind of expectations from children?

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FallenSky · 15/12/2016 07:52

I wouldn't encourage you to go behind your DH's back. Although I do think he's being ridiculous. You can pick up scooters really cheaply and both my DC use theirs all the time. It's a practical gift, something which will not only give your DD enjoyment but will also help with exercise, motor skills and once she's got the hang of it, will probably get you places faster.

Could that be the way to go with your DH, convincing him via the pros of it? A balance bike is nothing like a scooter.

glenthebattleostrich · 15/12/2016 07:53

Scooters are the most used toy in my house and I look after children between 6 months and 9 years old at the minute.

They are incredibly cheap and its Christmas, make a little magic.

Manumission · 15/12/2016 07:59

No, don't go behind his back. Show him this thread full of 'G'wan's

WellErrr · 15/12/2016 08:01

She's 3 - she won't even remember she mentioned it. You cannot buy every single thing she talks about

This.
Easier said than done though...!

ClarkL · 15/12/2016 08:02

Offer to keep another present back for her birthday to buy the scooter - then it's a compromise.
Or even see if a relative hasn't bought yet and would like an idea

YesThisIsMe · 15/12/2016 08:03

Micro scooters in particular are brilliant. When's her birthday?

atticusclaw2 · 15/12/2016 08:03

When this has happened to us in the past I have taken a different present from the pile (that hasn't been specifically requested) and put that away for the next birthday. That way I haven't gone massively over budget.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 15/12/2016 08:11

Oh God I'm the same with DS. Bought him a £400 camera that he wants (he's taken up.photography for A Level and as a hobby) and can't stop seeing little things he has mentioned in passing and compulsively buying. I have been instructed not to buy anything else now!

katienana · 15/12/2016 08:38

My ds kept saying he wanted a fire engine that came apart that he could get inside last Christmas aged 3. I got him a fire engine tent. 100% worth it. How many opportunities will you have to make her dreams come true? Life is full of disappointment she will soon find that out, the joy is actually quite rare! What does your dh want for Christmas is it too late to return one of his gifts? Just so he doesn't get spoiled?

BertrandRussell · 15/12/2016 08:41

I would want to explore the "he'll be bitter" if I were you.........

WeedlesHatOfDisappointment · 15/12/2016 08:55

My 4 yr old ds keeps saying 'I hope Santa brings me that ' at every toy advert that comes on! We did his letter to santa at the start of December, and I tell him if it wasn't on the list, he probably won't get it.

pklme · 15/12/2016 09:26

No! Don't do it!
See if any relatives are looking for ideas.
As a compromise, agree with DH to keep back a different present until her birthday.

Don't just add it, it's a dangerous path...
Tomorrow she might ask for a doll house, will you twitch again?
My DSis has four children. Each time she twitched for one, she had to find a present for each of the others to keep it fair.

Stay strong!

doctorweenie · 15/12/2016 09:32

Do it! It's been the best present for my 4 year old! He got a scooter at 2 and it's used every day.
Make sure it's a 2 wheel at the front ones though, they are much better

Bobsmum02 · 15/12/2016 09:35

My DS has a balance bike that he can't ride but has a micro scooter that he loves and is a little whizz on it so they are completely different!

I'd buy the scooter but then my DH is used to my twitching so probably wouldn't bat an eye. I do think it's odd that your DP says he'd be bitter!

ShesAStar · 15/12/2016 09:37

I think I'd tell DH that I'd rather he was 'bitter' than the 3 year old was disappointed on Christmas Day.

PerryHatter · 15/12/2016 09:38

Massive difference between a pony and a scooter.

ParadiseCity · 15/12/2016 09:42

I really wouldn't buy a cheap twitch scooter that'll end up in landfill. Either get a decent one, maybe second hand off gumtree/ebay or just don't do it at all. Your DH sounds mean - wtf does he mean about being bitter??

Pengweng · 15/12/2016 09:49

Oh tell him to stop being a grinch!

if it won't break the bank then get her one. You can get them for about £15.

DT2 is getting a 2 wheeled scooter this christmas but she has used her three wheeled one for the past 18 months and not even touched her balance bike which we paid three times as much for.

Pengweng · 15/12/2016 09:50

If you live near South Manchester I will give you her old Paw Patrol one if you would like it.

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ArriettyMatilda · 15/12/2016 09:51

Wow I didn't expect such mixed responses and so many. I will try to answer everyone.

Dd has mentioned it several times spontaneously and she loves watching all the children scoot on theirs outside nursery. Her birthday is a week after Christmas and I've already bought her a dolls house for that plus some play food for her kitchen and books.

The handful of presents include a Duplo set, a dressing up costume and some extra track for her train set. They are only small things so I don't feel like we need to hold one back for her birthday. Dp says it's not about only having her a few things and I do agree as I know family will be generous and we already have a houseful of toys. His dm is the only one left to buy for her as far as I know and she bought the bike last year so I don't feel we can ask her for a scooter.

It's family money so I don't want to go behind his back. I don't know what he means by bitter and how he will behave as he's normally quite docile. I think he feels she has the bike and if she has the scooter will use the bike less and a lot of money was spent on the bike. He thinks we'd use the scooter in place of the bike and he's probably right! He wants her to get used to the bike but that won't happen if she has the option of the scooter.

When I asked dd what she wanted for Christmas this morning she told me she didn't need anything as Father Christmas had already given her a present when we went to see him but I know she'd be so pleased if she had her own scooter.

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ParadiseCity · 15/12/2016 10:03

Stop asking her what she wants- she'll say a fecking pony next time and then you will be buggered!!!

She will scoot rather than walk. Not scoot rather than cycle, imo. So getting a scooter won't 'waste' the bike.

whimsical1975 · 15/12/2016 10:07

Is the scooter going to be a financial burden? If so, don't get it, if not then buy it for her!!! I certainly don't pass everything by DH unless it will impact us financially.

Bobsmum02 · 15/12/2016 10:10

After the update do you think it's possible that your DP feels bad that the bike which his DM bought is not being used and is worried about pissing her off if you get a scooter which DD will like more than the bike? (Does that make sense?)

FrancesHaHa · 15/12/2016 10:11

Normally I wouldn't agree with twitching just because a child has asked for something, especially not when she's 3.

But, scooters are really handy things to have at that age - you get places quicker, less moaning about tired legs, more excuses to get out in the fresh air. Plus if their friends have them they could scoot together.

Could one of your family buy a cheap ish one?

KatherinaMinola · 15/12/2016 10:14

I think a scooter at 3 is the perfect present . Also a fantastic investment - YEARS of fun and transport! And very different from a balance bike.

Is it possible to hold back some of the other presents for her birthday?

If you can, I would get a Mini Micro scooter - they are expensive but absolutely worth it, will last years and can potentially be handed down to a sibling.

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