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Is it ok to get my godson a present but not his sibling

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Fabiantheking · 30/11/2016 20:25

I always get my godson a Christmas present. This year he now has a little brother. Is it ok to continue to get my godson a present but not get one for his brother?
The brother will be too young to notice for a few years, but the parents will notice and what I do this year will set the standard for future years.

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dementedpixie · 30/11/2016 20:26

I don't think I could buy a present for one and not the other. Seems a bit mean to me

DearMrDilkington · 30/11/2016 20:26

Tbh I'd get his sibling a small gift anyway. You don't have to spend as much but it's the thought that counts.

bakingaddict · 30/11/2016 20:27

I think it's a bit mean of you. Can't you get the other sibling a smaller present but to leave them out is churlish IMO

Somerville · 30/11/2016 20:27

Presumably the brother is also christened and has God parents? Ask his parents whether they'll just be buying for him. One of my kid's godparents buys just for him and another for all of them - it's actually quite awkward!

crunched · 30/11/2016 20:28

I only get my God daughter a present, not her two older brothers. I just assumed their God parents would do the same for them. Fabian you are worrying me now, but it's a bit late seeing as she is 9...

PossumInAPearTree · 30/11/2016 20:29

I think you should get him a present.

minipie · 30/11/2016 20:29

I think it's fair to assume they all have godparents and you only have to get a present for your own godchild.

SheldonCRules · 30/11/2016 20:29

I would only buy for your god son as presumably his brother has his own godparents who will buy for him. A token chocolate selection pack maybe.

IfartInYourGeneralDirection · 30/11/2016 20:30

If you are a God parent then surely you are very close to the family and would want to buy for them all?

VanillaSugarAndChristmasSpice · 30/11/2016 20:30

I have two children. Their godparents only buy presents for their god children and not for the other sibling.

I take your point exactly, but presents are numerous and expense. You have every right to feel a bit hurt, but don't take it personally!

VanillaSugarAndChristmasSpice · 30/11/2016 20:31

Sorry, I was typing as if you were the recipient!

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 30/11/2016 20:31

I only buy for godchildren. As pps have said the other siblings have their own godparents. My dc's godparents only buy for each of them.

PurpleDaisies · 30/11/2016 20:31

It's fine. My friend's four children have three godparents each. There would be an unmanageable number of presents if they all bought for all of them.

Your friend asked you to be a godparent to one child, not both.

WyfOfBathe · 30/11/2016 20:32

One of my kid's godparents buys just for him and another for all of them - it's actually quite awkward! This was me growing up. My godparents bought a small gift for each of us (chocolate or a giftcard normally), but my sister's godparents always got her a big present and nothing for me. I was always quite jealous Envy

OP I would get a little thing for the baby brother (even if it's less than a fiver, e.g. teething ring or rattle)

Soubriquet · 30/11/2016 20:32

No I think that's mean

It doesn't have to be a big present either. A little rattle or something would be ideal

andadietcoke · 30/11/2016 20:33

I'm so close to the parents of the children I'm a godparent to that I can't imagine not buying for all of their children.

MadJeffBarn · 30/11/2016 20:35

Isn't the point of a godparent meant to be that presumably you're close friends/family to the parents? I buy for my friends kids, godmother or not. Obviously correct me if I'm wrong on that! But you should buy for both, a token £5 present will stop any potential awkwardness

Jojay · 30/11/2016 20:35

Don't feel guilty, just get one for the god child.

I've got 4 kids and would never expect each godparent to buy for all four!

Backingvocals · 30/11/2016 20:36

No you just buy for your own god children and the others have god parents of their own. That's how I do it with my god children and my children's godparents do it with them. I think that's sort of the point - you are building a particular relationship with one child.

BubbleGumBubble · 30/11/2016 20:37

Why would you not buy a £5 gift?

Seems stupid and tight to me Hmm

JellyWitch · 30/11/2016 20:39

I think it's absolutely fine to just buy for Godchildren unless they are family too on which case you need to be fair (I wouldn't just buy for the niece who is my godchild!)

TheLobsterRollPlease · 30/11/2016 20:40

I don't understand why people have said it would be mean not to get the little brother a gift also.

OP your godsons brother isn't going to notice, so don't worry.

Sunshine59 · 30/11/2016 20:42

Surely you are good friends with the parents? I'd buy a little something it doesn't have to be much, it just seems a little odd not to get anything?

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Fabiantheking · 30/11/2016 20:44

Ahhhhhhh it seems split, I was hoping for a decisive answer from mumsnet.
I don't know the other godparents well enough to ask what they are planning to do and think it would be awkward to ask the parents.
I probably should have mentioned that I am good friends with the parents but they don't buy presents for my DCs - which I am totally fine with.

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PurpleDaisies · 30/11/2016 20:45

Surely you are good friends with the parents? I'd buy a little something it doesn't have to be much, it just seems a little odd not to get anything?
If I bought for all the children of the friends I'm very close to I'd add at least fifteen presents to the list. That makes it expensive and their children get plenty at Christmas.