Is it ok to get my godson a present but not his sibling

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Fabiantheking · 30/11/2016 20:25

I always get my godson a Christmas present. This year he now has a little brother. Is it ok to continue to get my godson a present but not get one for his brother?
The brother will be too young to notice for a few years, but the parents will notice and what I do this year will set the standard for future years.

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Strawclutching · 01/12/2016 05:22

My siblings had the same godparent who only bought for them. It used to really upset me.

Bobsmum02 · 01/12/2016 09:09

I have a god-daughter who has an older sister, I always buy her a gift too but then again their parents always buy for my two children too...the fact that they don't buy your kids puts a different spin on it for me!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 01/12/2016 09:13

We only buy for godchildren. And stop aged 21.

We would be buying about 12 additional presents if bought for siblings too.

Tiggles · 01/12/2016 11:38

One of my DSs Godparents buy for all my DSs, one buy just for their godson, and one doesn't buy anything at all. (The others are family so buy for all).
The kids don't appear unduly bothered.
It was the same when I was growing up 2 siblings and I had family so they bought for all. My younger DB had a wealthy GP who just bought for him. We just accepted it.

WhoKnowsWhereTheT1meG0es · 01/12/2016 12:38

My DCs (10 and 12) have got the same thing as you had growing up Tiggles, they are fine about it too. I did used to wonder if the one with family god-parents would get upset about it as he got old enough to realise, but it really hasn't been a problem.

stripes1 · 01/12/2016 13:39

We have 7 godchildren between us, we just buy for the godchildren. Between them they have 10 siblings, token £5 Presents multiplied is a lot of money! As PP have said, as a godparent you are building up a special relationship with that child.

Iris1 · 01/12/2016 21:45

My sons God mothers did this at my younger daughters first Xmas
They just bought him and ignored her. Tbh I cried my eyes out after they'd gone I was so hurt by it as It felt like they didn't care about her. I guess it depends on your relationship.

Chrysanthemum5 · 01/12/2016 21:49

My DS's godmother buys a gift for DD as well, DD's godmother doesn't buy for DS. I think that's fine, I always have a small gift which I let DS have once DD's god mother has given her a gift. Really it's up to the godparent.

Enkopkaffetak · 01/12/2016 22:07

We only give the Godchild the present, However in our case they also have 1 of our children as their Godchild so they return the favour. Means we do not between us buy 7 presents just 2

stopproposingbrad · 01/12/2016 22:20

I would think it very odd to buy for one child and not the other. Even though only one is your godchild they are siblings. Spend £2 on a book.

PurpleDaisies · 01/12/2016 22:21

I would think it very odd to buy for one child and not the other. Even though only one is your godchild they are siblings. Spend £2 on a book.

The other child will have their own godparents. There really isn't any need to buy for both.

Maryann1975 · 01/12/2016 23:19

All 3dc have same god father, will all get present.
Dd1, God mother will only buy for dd. It's fine that she doesn't get for the other 2, I don't buy for her DC.
Ds, other god father and god mother both buy for all 3 DC. We buy for all of their DC (2 families 4 in total, I am God mother to one).
Dd2, God mother sent a voucher to our family last year (lives abroad), so got each DC something. Bit strained with Other God mother who gave dd a birthday present earlier in the year, then after a falling out with me asked for it back
Expensive do if you have you buy for all the siblings too and I would never expect it. (Don't expect God parents to buy but it seems to be the done thing).

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