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Is it ok to get my godson a present but not his sibling

62 replies

Fabiantheking · 30/11/2016 20:25

I always get my godson a Christmas present. This year he now has a little brother. Is it ok to continue to get my godson a present but not get one for his brother?
The brother will be too young to notice for a few years, but the parents will notice and what I do this year will set the standard for future years.

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wowwee123 · 30/11/2016 20:46

I buy token gifts for godson and his db or get them something to share although i dont buy hi db on his dbs birthday but do take him something on godsons birthday.

eyebrowsonfleek · 30/11/2016 20:46

If you are likely to hand the gift over when the younger brother is there, I think you need to have a token gift so yoiu don't feel mean and the younger brother doesn't tantrum/cry.

girlygirlgirly · 30/11/2016 20:49

Growing up my godparents were my uncle and auntie my youngest brothers were my parents best friends, they only bought for him (he obviously also got a present from my godparents because he was their nephew!)

It never bothered me.

IJustWantABrew · 30/11/2016 20:50

As a child my god parents bought for me and then a small token gift for my brother and his did the same for me. There was only 2 years between us, so I guess it would be difficult to explain to a 4 year old when so and so bought for my brother and not me. We were both very close to both his god parents and mine so maybe that's why they did it?
You don't need to buy something big, you could buy a small toy or a book in the sale.

RavioliOnToast · 30/11/2016 20:51

One DD has been christened the other one hasn't. DDs godparents buy her a gift and not her sibling, I'd actually rather they didn't at all. It's so unfair. Especially when DD gets older and realises

PurpleDaisies · 30/11/2016 20:52

How is it unfair ravioli? When you chose godparents you were asking them to have a special relationship with your daughter, not your other child.

Sunshine59 · 30/11/2016 21:05

Oh if they don't buy for your DC, I'd probably just then buy a small gift for your godchild

Blue2014 · 30/11/2016 21:08

If they don't buy for yours I wouldn't buy for theirs to be honest.

Buying as a godparent can become a nightmare - I'm godmother to 4 children who are the oldest in their families. When younger siblings were born I bought for them too - I now buy xmas presents for 12 children just from the godparent group!

NerrSnerr · 30/11/2016 21:12

I would get something for all of them. Surely the point of being a god parent is to teach about god and not buy presents? If you're a god parent it must mean you're a close family friend so it would be odd to exclude a sibling.

We spend equally to god child and his sister as we love them equally.

wobblywonderwoman · 30/11/2016 21:12

You could just do birthdays for godchild .. To be honest though I would just get very small gifts for both children

Bragadocia · 30/11/2016 21:12

When I was little, my godparents only bought gifts for me, and my sisters' godparents only bought gifts for them. It wouldn't have occurred to me that anyone would think it mean not to buy gifts for all the children. Surely the baby will be getting his own GPs anyway.

ChocoChou · 30/11/2016 21:13

I would definitely get s token gift for the younger sibling. If you are close enough to be godparent then I would assume you were close enough to buy gifts for any of the children?

ChimpyChops · 30/11/2016 21:14

I couldn't hand over a present for my godchild and not their sibling but I completely see where you are coming from. My godson is one of two brothers and their mum is one of my best friends, have known her for 25 years now. I buy for both of them, but would even if one of them wasn't my godson. You may be asked to be godmother again, is that a possibility?

I would add in a small gift, something like a book, blanket or soft toy for the new baby, assuming you are good friends with the parents as you are godmother then it should be fairly easy to see what others have done. Not that that would matter to me, i would buy anyway :)

IrenetheQuaint · 30/11/2016 21:14

While the brother is tiny there is absolutely no point buying a present for him. If he is upset about it when he gets older then maybe reconsider then.

My goddaughter is one of 4 and I don't buy presents for the other 3 unless I come across something that really suits one of them.

OrangeTrousers · 30/11/2016 21:15

I'm a godmother and I get presents for the other siblings of my godchildren.

Upanddownroundandround · 30/11/2016 21:15

No it's not ok. It's a bit rude and very mean.

mootime · 30/11/2016 21:17

We have 7 god children between us and only but for the god children. Our 3 DC have 5 godparents each and most of their godparents only buy for their god child except two of my closest friends.

ChimpyChops · 30/11/2016 21:19

Oh, just saw your reply about them not buying for your children. Now I am completely undecided and no help at all.

PunkrockerGirl · 30/11/2016 21:25

I never expected godparents to buy for both children, can't get why anyone would, tbh.
The other child has its own godparents, surely.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 30/11/2016 21:28

My godparents always bought for me, not for my DB. Likewise, his godparents would buy only for him and not for me. It literally never occurred to me that this was any kind of issue. It is, imho, certainly not mean...

Ilovewillow · 30/11/2016 21:33

I'm a godparent to one of four and buy for all four! However my daughter is good friends with the eldest two, I'm godparent to no. 3 and no. 4 is my sons age so maybe a bit different. My children don't have godparents so can't help but I don't think I would be bothered if someone only brought for one of them!

WhoKnowsWhereTheT1meG0es · 30/11/2016 21:34

We only buy for the actual godchildren and our childrens godparents only buy for them. We don't exchange presents with friends or their children generally and we never see any of the godparents at Christmas so presents are sent in advance and added to the tree presents, no one is handing over a gift to one sibling and not the other.

PunkrockerGirl · 30/11/2016 21:41

Quite right, LadyMonica
If someone has quite a few godchildren, it can get completely out of hand if you're expected to buy for siblings as well.
Of course it's not mean, ffs. The relationship is meant to be special between godparent/godchild surely, not associated siblings Confused

Scoopmuckdizzy · 30/11/2016 21:54

If the brother is just a baby I wouldn't bother. He won't notice.

PippaFawcett · 30/11/2016 22:03

My friend's godmother didn't have children and really spoilt her through her childhood and contributed £££ to her first car and gave her thousands towards her wedding. Her poor DBro's godparents didnt even remember his birthday! I give my goddaughter and her brother the same, but that is because I am v close to them as a family.

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