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how do you address christmad cards a to in laws

26 replies

needtomovesomewherewarmer · 19/12/2015 09:28

I'm a bit late writing them I know. And usually I get dh to write cards to his family as I never know how to address them. He wants me to write to mum etc but that feels rather strange. What do you do?

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FlameProofBoots · 19/12/2015 09:29

To Mum and Dad.

CasualJersey · 19/12/2015 09:40

Yes to Mum and Dad.
If it bothers you why don't you just give him the card to write?

ALongTimeComing · 19/12/2015 09:41

Of course to 'mum and dad', if the cards from him too! It's his parents.

EdithWeston · 19/12/2015 09:42

I would write the card to the people by the name I called them.

If he would prefer a Mum and Dad card, and you do not use that for them, then tell him he'll need to write that one.

It gets easier when you have children, because then you can write Granny and Grandad cards and tack the adults names on (so they still get nice family display).

ginmakesitallok · 19/12/2015 09:43

I feel weird writing to mum on a card that isn't for my mum, so dp writes it. (We've been together 21 years, not married but I consider his mum to be my Mil )

RNBrie · 19/12/2015 09:44

Why is he not writing them if that's what you usually do? There is no way I would ever address cards to my inlaws with "mum and dad" if I'm writing them, then it's how I'd usually address them (first names). I think we'd all die of embarrassment if I wrote "mum and dad" to them (especially as there are two sets of them, divorced and remarried)

DelphiniumBlue · 19/12/2015 09:50

I have used all the names the person is known by eg 'to dear Mum/Jane/ Grandma'. Never had a complaint.
But I agree, DH should be writing the card to his own parents.

pictish · 19/12/2015 09:50

Why can't he write 'To mum and dad...Love your son etc' - will it exhaust him somehow?

Hand him the card and a pen ffs.

mmmuffins · 19/12/2015 09:52

To mum and dad. Written by DH of course, he writes the cards to his family.

ceeveebee · 19/12/2015 10:16

I've never written a card to my in laws, that's DHs job!

ChristmasZombie · 19/12/2015 11:30

Mom and Dad (my parents are MUM and Dad, but it's a dialectic thing!)
I always write the cards. DH's handwriting it appalling.

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needtomovesomewherewarmer · 19/12/2015 13:00

Thanks everyone a mix of opinion. And some humbug thrown in. Grin Dh isn't lazy or adverse to doing it. We are just late doing it, he's away and I want to get them writen and sent.

Thanks for your opinions though. Reading the first few posts i thought the wave of opinion would be to write mum and dad but given its fairly mixed I'm obviously not alone so going to stick to writing names or leave it for him.

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mysteryfairy · 19/12/2015 14:10

I actually write separate stuff in; Dad, with love mysteryfairy, Grandpa, love from DC1, 2, 3 etc

MrsJayy · 19/12/2015 14:14

Please just write mum and dad on it you are doing it on your husbands behalf writing to john and Brenda is a bit silly and over thinking it.

soundsystem · 19/12/2015 14:42

I use their first names. But DH's family don't really go in for Christmas cards, so it is more from me than from DH, if that makes sense.

Focusfocus · 19/12/2015 14:46

We do the clumsy Mum and Dad/Name and Name/Nana and Grandad

Hulababy · 19/12/2015 14:53

If for some reason I'm writing a card or label to PILs on Dh's behalf - it happens occasionally for ease/time reasons - I put mum and dad but sign off using Dh's name first.
When o write cards/labels to my parents I sign off using my name first.

TheSecondViola · 19/12/2015 14:56

We write to Nana and grandad rather than names or mam and dad.

BondJayneBond · 19/12/2015 15:00

If I'm writing it then I write their first names.

AdoraBell · 19/12/2015 15:01

I would use whichever name I use when speaking. That means I don't write cards to the ILs.

If your DH wants you to write the cards then he should accept that you write them as you see fit.

But really if he is literate and physically able to write a card then he should write them.

AdoraBell · 19/12/2015 15:04

Sorry, missed that he is away.

Helenluvsrob · 19/12/2015 15:08

To mum/ nanna and dad / grandad

Then sign from all of us

emwithme · 19/12/2015 15:12

Mum and Dad. But I let DH write it, they're his parents.

This year, I forgot to get him to write the tags (PILs live overseas, so their parcel has been gone for a fortnight), and it was WEIRD writing them. But I think that's because I've never written to my own parents together, they split up when I was 3, plus my mum died when I was a teenager, so it's been over 20 years since I had to write a "Mum" tag anyway.

honeyroar · 19/12/2015 16:09

I think to not write mum and dad on a card that is meant to be from their son is a bit awful for them. I just write Mum T or Mum W if I'm feeling awkward about it or if my husband doesn't write it.

TodmordensDog · 19/12/2015 17:42

I would never occur to me not to put mum and dad to my in Laws! I just write mum g, or dad h etc on labels so we know who they're for

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