Would you buy nephew a little extra xmas prezzie?

[ifonly4]

We've always spent about £10 on nieces/nephews and the same has been spent on our DC. Only exception is sister-in-law whose spent approx. £23 on our DD every xmas and birthday. They don't buy for us, but we've always given them a bottle of wine/nice biscuits. Sister-in-law now has her first child and we've spend £10 on him and we've got them some wine. I feel we sound buy a little extra as they're so generous with DD, but that means we've spent more on one than the others. DH doesn't think we need to bother as they disposable income is about the same as our income.

So would you buy nephew a little extra?

Sounds like your SIL is nice and therefore wouldn't want you worrying about this its not about matching £ (we may as well just swap money if that's the case) its about putting thought in and buying something he would like.

Be aware that whatever you do this year will basically become what you do, so if you are worrying about spending different amounts it will bother you every year and you may end up evening it up just to stop the guilt! If you spend £10 you don't have that problem, you could always add a box of chocolate or biscuits to the wine if that helps, sort of even things up with the family rather than the child?

I think I'd be tempted to buy a small extra, maybe something for £2ish. If you're still conscious SIL is spending more but don't want other nieces/nephews to feel you're spending more, you could always buy your nephew tiny extras when you see him throughout the year.

If not, could one of her explain the position to SIL and say you want to treat all nieces & nephews the same. For this reason, if she'd like to spend a bit less on your DC that'd be fine.

It's a tough one. With both sides of the family we spend between £10 and £20 but we all have 2 children, except my dsis who only has one so I feel like she is getting the rough end of the deal. I've spent similar one him as others but I'm tempted to get him a little something extra. I think if you're getting them something though it's fair and it is their choice how much to spend, if they aren't happy they will change how much they spend next year any way

As it's your SIL's first child, I'd be tempted to match what she spends for this first Christmas, and then have a conversation between this Christmas and next to agree on what you spend. You could tell her what you usually spend on nieces and nephews and that you don't expect her to therefore spend more than you would. You may find she won't anyway now she has her own child.