Toddler friends, and how to have the tactful conversation about whether we're doing christmas presents?

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DD is 2, and over the last year we've become closer friends with a small group of her friends/their mums - we see each other most weeks for coffee/play. We didn't do presents last year, but as I say those friendships have really meshed this year, and have extended to siblings etc, and we have done birthday presents for kids and mums.

My dilemma is, should I expect that we're doing christmas presents for toddlers / siblings / mums? What would your expectation be? I don't want to buy and embarass anyone or set a precedent if they don't want to, but also don't want to be left without presents for anyone who gives. I could buy and wait and see, but potentially would be left with spare gifts for 3 toddlers, 2 siblings, and 3 mums.

The sensible answer seems to be to talk to the mums, but I don't know how to raise it without sounding grabby/mean . Does anyone have any suggestions on how to broach it please?

I'm in a similar situation! I'm hoping someone else brings it up first...not helpful I know!

Could you suggest doing a secret Santa between you all?? Everyone buys one child present and one adult present then all are exchanged at a coffee morning near Xmas???

Agree with Fusion. Although my group of mum friends have agreed we're just doing cards.

When mine were little I said to our group of friends:
Instead of giving any presents to each other this year shall we all go to X for a mini party (play area that served food, booked it as a party)
Everyone jumped at the idea as it suspect they were all trying to think of a way to bring are we doing presents into conversation!
Problem is with presents is that once you start it becomes very difficult to stop!

Oh Wow, I wasn't expecting answers so soon, thank you!

The secret santa and soft play party ideas are inspired, thank you. I really would prefer not to start with the whole presents thing if I can help it. Just cards would be even better.... Foxes, I'm hoping you're one of my friends group and will leap into the discussion when I get the opportunity to raise it!