clearly not on his mind. which makes me feel utterly mean as we're the better off ones. (or utterly patronising). mum's been nagging me for a couple of years now to suggest it and now I feel like crap for doing it! I've got nothing right this Christmas, invited t'other db and family - resulting in them doing some ludicrous round trip to try to see us and his dp's family too. first db has declined the invite and is coming Boxing Day instead. again I just feel crappy - only wanted to try to get us all together and now I feel like lady muck commanding an audience and that their lives would be easier without the invites. bugger