I'm sorry if my thread was one of the ones that upset you Floss, and I'm really sorry you're having such a difficult time atm.
To explain, I dislike spending xmas with my inlaws because they rarely mention my first son, who died around xmas 5 years ago, and in my own home on xmas day I think I should be able to mention him.
I hope you manage to have an ok xmas, depsite everything you will have to sort out