Am I being tightfisted and old fashioned

[Inthedarkaboutfashion]

I have just been to a pre Christmas event at school and was involved in a conversation with a group of mums about Xmas presents. It seems that quite a few are buying iPhone 5 or iPhone 6 for the children and several are buying x box one or the latest iPad. These are presents for 9, 10 and 11 year olds. I was a bit and didn't share what presents I am buying. My child in the same age group will get what I think is a reasonable amount of presents but it will be games, DVDs, books etc and will probably total £150. I have bought most things on his list and a few extras. I now think he only put things on his list that he thinks he has a reasonable chance of getting. He hinted at an Xbox but I wasn't prepared to spend that much when previous consoles (wii and DS) didn't get much use. He knows there is no chance of a phone until high school and even then not a mega expensive phone.
I am now worried that he goes back to school after Xmas and feels like the kid who got very little compared to everyone else (I was that kid).
Please mumsnetters tell me that iPhone 6 and x box ones are not the norm for 9 and 10 year olds or tell me I am out of touch and need to join the 21st century.

And in response to a PP about the reality for many children, yes, there are many who have a lot less. We know we are very lucky to have what we have (although we both work very hard for it).

One thing that we like to do every year is bring DD to the toyshop or another shop if she has a specific idea - and let her buy a present that she would like (or one that she knows her friends would like). THis is then wrapped and given to the local toy appeal, usually DD very proudly handing it over. (We usually have another few things for older teenagers as well).

We also do a "family weekly stores shop" for all the basics, lots of stores items, toiletries (including toothbrushes), nappies, cleaning stuff etc, and a few seasonal treats, that we give to the local foodbank-type appeal. I basically fill a trolley, but concentrate on things that I don't see filling the general collection trollies at the supermarket.

I am not saying that to make myself out to be an angel or anything, I am far from it. But different families have different standards. And while it is not nice to see others who have less than you, I think it is still ok to treat your own family well, within your own means to do so and your own family values, but I really feel that you should do something to help those who are in greater need as well. But not feeling guilty about enjoying the fruits of your labours at the same time.