A disappointing Xmas day ............... any one else have one?

[doglover]

To cut a long story short, today has been a bit rubbish. Not awful, not a disaster but just rather bleurgh ............

My mil (and bil) were meant to be coming to us but we had a call at 8:30 this morning to say that she couldn't make it. The reason was that her daughter - aged 52!!! - had had a power cut so she was going to help her out. I quite understand that having a powercut on Xmas morning is HORRIBLE but it lasted a couple of hours and really wasn't a big deal. (We invited them all to us soon after her call).

We'd happily arranged the day around their visit, eating at a different time etc, and my mil didn't even say sorry or merry Christmas. I appreciate it's a stressful time of year but some polite acknowledgment of our feelings would have been nice.

We're seeing her tomorrow and I just feel annoyed with her lack of thought to our situation.

[shopgirlwithadream]

Also I know what you mean OP.
My brother and SIL and family are supposed to be visiting. We keep asking them when but they said "oh not sure when, but it will be before new year". Umm we'll just stay in and wait for you to turn up then.

[spanky2]

The amount of upset a person can feel is only comparable to the other upset they have felt in their life . My idea of disappointing is probably different to someone else's .

[anns1111]

Separated for three years, ex is being very unreasonable financially and it is very tense between us. Children in teens/early twenties. Ex has a new partner, I do not. The first two years we split Christmas equally, alternating Christmas eve and Christmas day, and splitting Boxing day. This year I had them on Christmas eve, they then spent the entire Christmas day at their father's arriving back here at 10pm (the last two years there has been an earlier switchover on Christmas evening, which I was expecting, so without warning I found myself for the first time in my life essentially alone on all of Christmas day), whereupon they announced they were leaving again at 9am Boxing day to take a walk with their father and then travel an hour with him to lunch with a friend. I was upset but tried not to show it. They've just arrived back from 'lunch' at 10pm, laughing and animated...since nothing was decided ahead of time I didn't even have a chance to make plans for myself with others...I'm in bed and don't even want to speak to them and feel like saying that was the last time I am doing Christmas.

[princesscupcakemummyb]

another not great xmas day here only bit that was nice was watching my kids faces that santa had been

the circumstances in my christmas day where nobodys fault my poor dh is ill not as in a cold as in he has problems doing much and gets out of breath very easily this is on top of heart problems all is being controlled by medication anyway he was very tired yesterday and found it hard to enjoy the day i cried and cried because my dh was in pain and tired he tried to play with the kids but it got to much anyway as i say no ones fault but it made the day hard the kids where hyper as expected and wanted daddy to build everything and he couldnt non the less we tried and the kids managed to enjoy it

[foxy6]

yep had a crap christmas day. we are total skint and didnt get the kids hardly anything but i felt worse about that than they did . they were happy with what they had.
our cat has been in the vets for 2 days and they phone christmas day to tell us that their is no hope for him and we went to have him put to sleep :(. it broke everyones hearts and runied our day. then i had to work a night shift and the car broke down after my husband dropped me off.