Outraged
I watched the 'naughty' one, not the one that the OP sent. I realised after I posted the first reply that I know the OP (sorry, love - I forgot your namechange!) but it wouldn't have changed my response.
I think that combining a behaviour message with Santa is troubling.
Barf
until a few years ago, I would have said that my mum was great while we were growing up, but have come to realise some of the things she did were crap. Not proper abusive, but discouraging and bad for self-confidence. I didn't suffer so badly from it, but my brother did. He was always more sensitive.
I now notice when I react like my mum would, and 'correct' myself. I have a decent relationship with my mum, but my brother doesn't, and she doesn't understand why he is sometimes cold and distant with her. She would be devastated if I were to tell her. I would hate to think that my kids would grow up to feel about me the way my brother feels about my mother.
One thing that she told me that fits well with this situation was 'never send a child to bed as a punishment as bedtime should be comforting and nice'.
This is how I feel about this video. It is using a pleasant and fun childhood event and it is being used to discipline a child. Whether it is the 'naughty' or the 'you could do better' version, it has the potential to be very upsetting.
I am glad that today was better, and I think that keeping talking, keeping that trust is more important. You are a great mum, and you just need to believe in yourself, and do what you think is right.