I'm sorry but MIL has forced a Christmas question from me

[hagridthehamster]

We always go to PIL for Christmas (DH, me, 4DC and 2 dogs) plus BIL and SIL. MIL has called 'just checking' that we re going this year too. Apparently she needs to start her 'catering arrangements' now

We loooooove going there, everyone has a wonderful time, but after the palaver at Easter with B/SIL mad PFB stuff here I'm not sure it's going to work. I've said that I'll need to check with DH and I'll call her back but I'm really not sure that everyone will have a nice time. That said I would hate to upset PIL as they are truly wonderful people, also the DC adore going there for Christmas. I tried to ask where everyone was going to sleep, but she sort of brushed the question off. I can't cope with another round of 'DN has to have her own room so your DC will have to sleep on the dining room floor'

Gah it's September FFS

Humph.

I remember your original thread, and can't believe they are still being so selfish!

Christmas at home wouldn't be so bad, would it? Just remember to stock up on some lovely toiletries and yummy treats. Much better than having to deal with BIL/SIL and their bonkers demands.

UPDATE!!!

Had a chat with MIL at the weekend, she has begged us to go to their house and BIL and SIL will have to decide whether DN sleeps with them or with our DC

So pleased it's all sorted.

oh, how great!

Hooray! Common sense has prevailed :)

Yey :)

What a nice outcome! When will you get BIL & SIL's take on it, do you think?

to your MIL. What a sensible woman!!

What OhBugger means is - don't forget to tell us ...

That's brilliant. What a sensible woman your MIL is. I hope you all have a lovely time!

ooh it's all kicked off again. Sainted MIL called BIL to confirm Christmad arrangements and SIL was screeching like a banshee that DN MUST have her own room. MIL said that wasn't possible so they might not be coming now :-o

I think i'll buy her some gin and flower. Poor woman :(

soon it would seem Ohbugger!

well then, your SIL will have to give up her bed and sleep on the floor. There is a room for each couple and a room for the children, if she doesn't want to put her PFB in the room with the other children, she can put PFB in her room, it's up to her if she and her DH are in that room or not.

Well I've seen some PFB threads on here but this tops the lot.

Well done to your MIL.

to you and your MIL, she sounds absolutely lovely!

Well done your MiL!

Your MIL is a long suffering saint of a woman by the sound of it. What got me was that don't want their dd in with them as she will disturb them not the other way round

Glad she is sticking to her guns. I wonder if she would send my dm some tips on dealing with a selfish DIL

ooh and MIL has offered for me to help her decide on methods and menus squee!

ooh and MIL has offered for me to help her decide on methods and menus squee!

Good for MIL, sounds like she's making it as clear as she can what she thinks of the situation.

(Still really want juicy stories of SIL's utterly extraordinary unreasonableness. I do know it's not so jolly when you're the one on the receiveing end though!)

Hahaha! Your SiL sounds HILARIOUS (to me, obviously. Because I never have to actually meet her. I appreciate may not be so funny for you.) Talk about brass bloody neck!

ooh and MIL has offered for me to help her decide on methods and menus squee!

Methods?

No wonder your MiL kicked off the negotiations early. She is clearly a lady of wisdom and foresight. Well done her for being sensible and for getting you involved with the preparations. She sounds lovely actually. The best thing you can do is be sweetness and light to her at all times - she is in a very difficult situation and will surely appreciate your sensitivity.