Panicky single mum needs calming. DS1 has been complaining of pains in his stomach for hours.

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He ate some tea, but took ages to settle to sleep. He is asleep now, but I am feeling a bit panicky. I don't cope great with stomach bugs at the best of times, but now my mind is wandering to other possible things it could be, like his appendix. He is 9, so not a baby, but I hate being alone with them unwell.

Bump. Someone talk to me, even to say "get a grip woman!"

get a grip woman!!

So, he ate some tea? Thats good. Did he keep it down? Thats good? If he is not writhing around in agony, unlikely to be appendix.

Might just have been a poo that needed shifting, might be a tummy bug - make sure he has plenty of fluids. If he has tummy ache in the morning then take him to the doctors.

Dont worry, he will be fine.

when either of my kids are ill and I can't actually see the illness, I put them in my bed and sleep with them for the night so that if they wake up I am there. And because I would wake every hour wanting to check on them it makes it easier for me as well.

Can you lift him out of bed now and slip him yours just for tonight?

It is one of the things I have struggled most with...them being unwell when I am on my own. It is good he is sleeping - I am feeling a tiny bit calmer!

I asked him if he wanted to sleep in my bed, but he said he didn't. Don't think he wanted moving. I will see how he goes in next couple of hours.

Thats good - The best thing you can do is keep checking on him and see how he is in the morning. Have you checked his temperature?

I do keep checking him. He is still quite settled atm thankfully.
Thanks for responding to me. I know I must seem a bit pathetic, but I can be a bit of a panicker when they are ill, especially with tummy things.

You are not pathetic - you are being a normal mum. Anyway, if its any consolation, I panic as well....

Did you ask him if he has had a poo today ?? I always ask mine this as oon as they say they have tummy ache, and 9 times out of 10 they haven't been and thats what it is.

I understand why you feel anxious though, I am the same. I sit there wondering if they will be sick.

Only tonight I heard dd1 get out of bed and go to the bathroom just minutes after she'd just been, and the first thing i thought was 'oh god is she going to be sick'. Totally irrational as she hadn't even said anything about feeling unwell.

Hope your ds is ok and that you have an uneventful night.

its not pathetic.im a panicker.im not a single parent-god knows how id cope if i was!i think if hes eaten and sleeping hes ok.dont take this wrong way but is it back to school after holidays tomorrow(is here)?if so could he be worried about something.

Think it's in our mother job description to worry - I do irrational worrying a lot internally.

If your ds hasn't puked his dinner then I it's unlikely to be appendix and if he's asleep it's probably not too uncomfortable for him. Could always give him a hot water bottle if he wakes disturbed. Hope he's feeling better tomorrow.

Thank you all!

I did ask if he had been to the toilet & he said he had. Don't know if the big chocolate muffin he had earlier, had anything to do with his tummy ache - probably not, but clutching at straws here! He is still sleeping atm, which is quite positive - lets hope he continues to sleep ok. Thank you all for helping to chill me out a bit!