I do have bad health anxiety and OCD so I need to know what "normal" parents would think or feel in this situation. I need to know if my worries are valid or just my OCD speaking. What would 95% of parents think?
Daughter is 17 months old.
My daughter was born healthy at 39 weeks. I accidentally gave her HSV1 (cold sore virus) when she was 3.5 months. I regret it everyday. Very stressful for me at the time because she was so young but she was fine. Had quite a few sores around her mouth but no fever and was acting well throughout. Went away in a couple weeks. Looked scary but was uncomplicated and considered mild.
She had a few months without cold sores. But now gets frequent recurrences. At 7 months she got her first recurrence. It was really bad and she spread it to her hands because her hands were ALWAYS in her mouth at the time. No fever or anything and she still acted fine but it looked physically bad. Went away in a couple weeks.
Her recurrences in the first year of her life got milder though still physically looked large. She gets them now on her hands and her face.
Now recently, her recurrences over the past 6 months have been incredibly mild. She does start acyclovir on the first day we see blisters, but even before she starts the drug the outbreaks start out much milder. They now only last 3-5 days and are very small and superficial (on her fingers and mouth). They honestly started going away after 2 days now. Colds are big triggers (and she started daycare this year which is a germ fest). Her eczema/dry skin is also a trigger.
The cold sores themselves don't really bug me right now. They appear to be really mild.
But of course, I am worried about rare dangerous genetic immunodeficiencies that could be CAUSING her frequent recurrences. I looked into GATA2 deficiency, DOCK8 deficiency, etc. My biggest current worry is GATA2. I am worried my husband has it and is undiagnosed. Why did she get a symptomatic infection at 3 months old? apparently that's rare. Why do they occur so often?
She also may have a few very tiny Molluscum Contagiosum bumps right now (apparently a very common viral infection in toddlers?). Otherwise she is healthy. Has only had a few minor daycare colds, one roseola and one norovirus in her life (she got a very mild version of norovirus which completely wiped out me and her dad). Growing great, active, crazy toddler. Only had 3 mild short-lived fevers in her life (1 with a cold, 1 with roseola and 1 with norovirus).
Me and my husband are healthy. Rarely get sick apart from a couple minor colds a year. Haven't been on antibiotics in like 15+ years. But this summer my husband had a skin boil on his leg from a hair follicle (popped on its own after a week) and right now he has a skin infection around the nail bed of his thumb. And I am very worried this is an immune system issue that he passed down to my daughter.
Also, I analyze her skin so much. I notice the occasional teeny tiny pinpoint (usually isolated and one-off) petechiae (broken blood vessel). Usually it's just a one off singular pinpoint dot. Earlier this week though when I picked her up from her new daycare she had a cluster under her eyes, though it faded a lot by the next morning. And then I analyze her skin for more of them. A couple days later I find a single tiny pinpoint petechiae in the spot where her cold sore recently healed 2 weeks ago. So I think about immunodeficiencies that can also cause petechiae. Or maybe it's leukemia?
Am I being crazy? Is the worry about immune problems just my anxiety speaking? What would you think as a normal parent lol