DH thinks I’ve wasted money on DD5 glasses

[Jellyfroglet]

DD is 5 and has been short sighted since the age of 4 and her prescription was a -1.00 in both eyes. In march I took her back and her eyes had deteriorated to a -1.75 and -2.00. During this appointment the optician brought up the idea of trying myopia control glasses for DD and told us to think it over and come back in 3 months. I took her back today and her eyes have now deteriorated to a -2.50 in both eyes and she now has astigmatism. Due to the rapid change I decided to go with the stellest myopia control lenses. It ended up costing quite a lot of money but we could afford it without putting any strain on us financially. DH seems quite mad and thinks it’s ridiculous to spend all that money on a pair of glasses for a child.
Am I wrong here? I think DD prescription at her age warrants the cost. It’s her eyesight ffs.

You've made the right decision. Her eyesight seems to have got worse quickly and at a young age. The myopic lenses will help and hopefully stop further deterioration. Why not send you DH to the opticians to have a chat with the person who suggested them and maybe he will be reassured.

yanbu
treating it now will help dd in the long term.
ideally the health service would pay for it as leaving things like this without treatment is shortsighted (sorry for the pun).

In what possible way could he justify allowing her eyesight to deteriorate if it's possible to stop it?! He sounds like a peach!

YANBU

Dose he not understand your daughters eyesight is deteriorating at quite a significant rate or does he just not care?

YANBU - done the same and it really stopped the rapid deterioration,

Yanbu I recently got myopia control lenses for my son too. DH thought they sounded like a croc of shit but I do think they will slow down the deterioration

Your DH sounds irresponsible and quite frankly awful.
How can he put a price on his child's eyesight?

If you have any other children, you need to make sure their eyesight is tested as its a genetic condition.

I'd also suggest going to an ophthalmologist instead of an optician as your child's eyesight is deteriorating rapidly.

This ^^

Is he genuinely saying his child's eye sight should be left to decline just because the glasses were expensive. I suspect if it were his eyes he would be spending what ever it took to help.

If one of her legs was rapidly shrinking causing a limp needing walking aids and the orthopaedic dept offered a special leg splint that research showed could help slow down the shrinkage or possibly halt it but it would cost more than a set of crutches, would he think it was a waste of money?

Just because he can't see what's going on with her eyeballs (and ironically as time goes by SHE can literally see less and less!) doesn't mean its not worth spending money if you can to help slow the progression.

I wish I had known about these lenses. We progressed very rapidly from perfect eyesight to -4 both eyes. Optician said it was to do with a very rapid growth spurt bringing the changes on rapidly (DD would have been short sighted anyway, but it progressed quickly due to the growth spurt) Had we known about the lenses sooner I'd have bought them.

I agree with your decision. But can’t help wondering if the incessant creepy ads on here also influenced you to do it.

That's an awful attitude , how can he put a price on his little girls eyesight I find that quite sad

YANBU, there is loads of scientific evidence that these lenses are very effective at slowing sightsightness progression. If you can afford it, why wouldn't you do it for your daughter?!

They have been great for my son. His eyes were getting worse every 6 months, but after 6 months with the lenses he actually improved from -2.5 to -2! And as it was a large enough change, the company changed the lenses for free.

I just wish they had existed when we were young! (I was -8 before laser surgery and DH is -10)

What? Surely even if you couldn’t afford it, this is the sort of thing most parents would be willing to get into debt for? I can’t think of many things more important than your child’s sight.

I fail to see how you could possibly be unreasonable!

He is being unreasonable.

These lenses seemed to have helped immensely with my DS- first time no change in prescription.

Apparently, if they don’t work and the vision deteriorates in the first 6mo or so, the company will replace the lenses with the new script at their cost.

You are investing in your child’s vision!

My DH is an optician and thinks your DH is being a dick!

I had the exact same thought😅 OP you know you did the right thing, it's a shame your husband isn't as caring about your child's eyesight 😔

YADNBU.

We have just got these lenses for DD9 as she's shortsighted and it's getting worse. I was shocked at the cost but ultimately it was a no brainer.

Have you been guaranteed a refund if it doesn't work? That was the clincher for me. We were recommended to get 2 pairs in case she breaks one as they need to be worn all the time but she's careful with them so I just got one pair.

She's around a month in and getting on well with them so far.

@Jellyfroglet

WTAF, he thinks spending money on specialist glasses for a child is a waste of money??

What is he thinking???

Especially whe you can afford it & don't have to get a loan for it.

i would be seriously rethinking my relationship.

He's being awful. It's her eyesight!

I take it he isn't shortsighted? I am. You've definitely done the right thing.

So he would prefer her to not be able to see? Nice guy

Definitely the right thing.
if she gets to over -6D she has a significantly higher risk of lots of eye conditions - retinal detachment, glaucoma, early cataracts, myopic retinal degeneration. All of which can cause your daughter to lose vision.

That is a very quick deterioration in a short time and you should also be limiting close work and making sure she’s spending at least 1 hour outside every day. Basically she should never be watching anything on a smart phone for more than a few minutes.

You're right. He doesn't know anything about children's eyesight. The eyes are still developing up to about age 8. In that window you can actually change the course of their future eye health with the right support.
If my DD didn't have the right (expensive) glasses she would have totally lost the sight in her left eye by now as it's so much worse than the right that her brain stops listening to it at all when she's not wearing corrective lenses (and so it wanders). She would have basically gone blind in that eye if left.

You are NBU. I really wish they had been an option when I (-8.5) and DS (-5) were children. It is miserable being very short sighted.

Your husband really is an asshole!