Hi
hoping someone may be able to help.
my almost 4 year old isn’t yet toilet trained, we have tried absolutely everything, nursery are involved and also have seen the health visitor a couple of times for extra support.
he will not try to go toilet on the potty or toilet, point blank refuses and just lashes out screaming etc
the last time I saw the health visitor we discussed his stools and I explained how they are loose as his norm (note that as a baby around 9-18 months) he was on the sachets as he used to struggle to go. Since then, all okay in terms of not struggling/distressed but generally loose.
she reccomended seeing the doctor which I have done so and upon showing a picture, advised she thought it was normal.
he has been refererred for a blood test to check there isn’t any underlying issues, but my gut is telling me he is constipated still but with different symptoms.
he can go anywhere between 1-4 times a day, usually small each time ranging from a 5p sized smear to perhaps the size of a child’s fist but again loose in consistency (but not wet like diahreah)
he usually says ‘I’m still trying’ when we say we need to change his nappy, which admittedly we put down to him just not wanting to be distracted from playing, but now I am thinking it’s related to him not feeling empty.
does this sound like constipation? He doesn’t ever complain of being in pain or that it hurts. But I think he’s struggling to empty himself each time properly.
has anyone else ever experienced a similar link between this and toilet training?
he starts school in September so I really want to get him on the right track, I don’t agree with the doctor dismissing it as quite normal so wanted to see if anyone has had a similar Experience etc?
thank you