Ok to make a child clear up their own sick?

[FannyMcAdams]

I’d like some advice from parents out there please.

If your child woke during the night and was suffering bad sickness and diarrhoea and vomited in their bed (top bunk). Would you make them (still feeling very sick) climb back up the ladder with a bin bag and make them strip their bed and clean the mess up?
My next question is: would you expect this to happen to your child in a paid JUNIOR boarding school?
After cleaning the mess up the child was taken to the school medical centre where they continued to suffer more sickness.

I’d appreciate as many views as possible before I take matters further and to ensure I’m not overreacting.

God no, that's awful. If you pay to have the, board you expect a level of care that they'd get at home. Obviously they won't get the same level of love but it's no on yo make them clean up when they're sick. I'd be raging.

That’s awful. The only time i’d ever expect someone to clear up their own sick is if it was from drinking too much which obviously isn’t relevant for a young child

I'd regard that as a basic, basic failure of care. Really serious, yes.

Absolutely dreadful. I would be livid. There is no way that is acceptable. Where is the care and compassion?

NO NO NO

That is appalling

Not ok. Abusive.

I really hope this is a made up because the thought of a sick and miserable child being so far away from home and loving care and having to do that at their most vulnerable is just so upsetting.

That’s awful. Poor child should be being comforted not cleaning. Cruel.

No. That’s just bloody cruel.

No, that’s awful 😢

Agree with pp especially doodle jump.

How sad. It's absolutely not on for this to have happened, and is actually quite cruel.

Won't get into debate but can't help agreeing with anti- boarding school comments. But if you're choosing for someone else to be in loco parentis then you should expect a basic level of care. Poor child.

I'd withdraw my child immediately. If they are unable to attend to the needs of a sick child, they really aren't in a position to charge money to care for any child.

No, this is awful. I would definitely take matters further.... Much further!!

No one in their right mind is going to say this is ok!

So wrong

Obviously not ok, don't know why you even had to ask. :(

Thats just so horrible! Poor child. the only time id make anyone clean up their own sick is if its alcohol induced.

Horrific! I'm a former housemistress and I can honestly say that I cared for children who were sick with as much compassion as I care for my own children. This makes me feel so angry. Complain to the Head of Boarding and copy in the Headteacher. If you din't get a satisfactory response go to the governors and the school's regulator - probably the Boarding Schools Association. I hope your child is ok.

My dad had to do that 60 years ago. I wouldn't expect an adult to do that if there was someone else who wasn't sick who could help them. Definately not acceptable.

If it was an older teen with alcohol induced vomitingnthen I would - but mine’s boarding school didn’t even then, they packed them off to the san to be cosseted.
If they’re ill I’d still sort them out. Poor child at boarding school, unwell and not properly cared for. I’d be moving my child.

I don't have children. Possibly won't ever be a parent, and don't particularly like other people's kids. But I am absolutely horrified reading that, i could never treat a young sick child that way.

To me, that is unkindess bordering on abusive, and totally unacceptable. For someone being paid to look after children in loco parentis, well, to me it would fall into the "dereliction of duty" category.

No bloody way that's fucking horrible the poor kid!

I don't even like clearing up my own sick but of course I mop up after my ill children without question!

No fucking way,that's abusive!

One of our DC, DS19 has been sick tonight(he filled his bin twice)his younger brother DS16 ran to tell me and my DH(not my sons biological Father but every bit his Dad)has cleaned it all up twice and made sure our DS is okay(I'm immunosuppressed)I can't imagine why anyone would think it's okay to make an ill child clean up after themselves,I wouldn't expect an adult that was being sick to clean up after themselves let alone a child.