Blimey, quite the own goal

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Apologies it's a Fail link but I saw this and immediately thought "well you'll have an even more miserable future now because I doubt your daughters will ever talk to you again".

And then I thought, I'm sure using other women's' uteruses to secure your own future was the subject of a book....

What possessed her?!

I'll never be a grandmother because, like so many young women, my twin daughters don't want children - Gen Z are robbing mid-life mothers like me of our future | Daily Mail Online

I never thought of it from this perspective and actually I find myself sympathising.

Interesting.

The self-pity in that article is quite nauseating. Disappointment, yes, that's reasonable but making her daughters' decisions all about her and her needs - not on.

Very little sympathy here, I'm afraid. She has no right to publically guilt trip her daughters for making a sensible decision.
So you won't get o be a granny and keep up with all your mates? Boo hoo. You'll just have to find something else meaningful to do with your life.
Not very kind, I know. Just makes me all the more grateful for my own sensible mum who's never once been anything other than supportive about remaining child-free.

My mother guilt tripped me to have children for years. Now that they're here she has very little interest in them. Can't win em all!

Her daughters are only 26. My biological clock hit me like a freight train at 27 (though thankfully had a mortgage at the time to help it along). If she'd only held a poker face about it for another decade, things might have worked out...

Yes @ElectricMagpie it was 28 for me. I went from not at all wanting children to feeling the maternal urge like a physical ache. No one can foresee the future.

Poor woman, that first photograph is taken at such an unflattering angle.

I am not photogenic, but you can tell from the other photos, it’s a terrible shot.

Cant be bothered to read the article, as the Daily Mail, are getting worse than ever with their articles, they are barely ever public interest.

Im too busy at work to worry if my children will have children of their own, and have told my own children not to 🤣 ( nicely of course) it’s so much work, and so bad for your finances.

Most of the articles in the DM come from Tik Tok and Reddit, or is the same gossip spouted by four different columnists, on the same subject.

They barely ever update with breaking news, and you have to look to the BBC, Sky, and anyone else.

If she'd waited her daughters might have changed their minds in time, or they might not, but either way I expect they're both furious now. You have a DC but that doesn't mean your DC will do the same and she has no right to whinge to a daily paper about it- if she wanted to turn her DDs against her this was the perfect way

Her daughters are 26. I don’t know many 26 year olds who want to be parents.

Her daughters are only 26 and citing cost as a major factor in their decision - not 'don't want to' but 'can't'. So if she wanted to change their minds, her best bet would have been giving them each a hefty house deposit rather that sobbing to the papers.

And she was daft to plan her life based on a assumption of what her daughters might want.

Apologies it's a Fail link but I saw this and immediately thought "well you'll have an even more miserable future now because I doubt your daughters will ever talk to you again".

While I personally would hate this, there are several photographs of the daughters in the article, including posed ones. I doubt the pictures were used without permission, so the daughters must know this was their mother’s plan.

Well I hope she was well paid for the article. I also have daughters in their 20s, I doubt they will have children because of cost and other factors, it’s their decision and I keep my thoughts to myself.

She’s a journalist. They probably write articles for each other for filler in the Daily Mail.

“Oy Linda, let me write about your young daughters who obviously haven’t thought about kids yet, and I’ll let you write about my xyz.”

The whole "I wanna be a granny, it's not faiiiir" , tone of that article is nauseating. As for the (paraphrasing here), "she said "I want to be a mummy when she was little" ", well my DD wanted to be an astronaut, maybe I should complain that she didn't end up doing that.

Edit due to dodgy keyboard.

The Fail would have gone straight to social meja for pictures as they do for anyone of interest. Standard practice.

Really appalling and stupid article, but it does seem like it was a family decision to create a pantomime version of parenting/grandparenting-related angst in order to generate column inches.

I don't normally post in the MNers without children topic because I am an MNer with children, but I can't be alone in my own attitude, which is that the notional, hypothetical children of my actual existing son have no purchase on my feelings at all. All I care about is the happiness and wellbeing of my actually existing son. If he has children I will love them to bits. If he doesn't, well perhaps I'll get another dog.

No sympathy. Some of us didn’t even get to have children but we don’t go around bleating g that we’ve had our future taken from us.

I hope it's okay to comment as a parent. My children are grown and I don't think I'll have grandchildren. I have only been supportive of them. I want them to be happy and make the right decisions for them. I've told them that having children to make someone a grandmother would be the wrong thing to do, and they should only have children if they want them. Maybe a child will change their mind, maybe they won't. My job is to live my own full life regardless of whether I have grandchildren or not. I can't agree with the statement in the article that they should think of the knock on effects of their decision to not have children on other members of the family. The extended family doesn't have the responsibility and no-one is owed you having a child.

I haven't taken time to think about whether I'm disappointed I'll probably never have grandchildren. At the moment I'm not. I have a lot of other things I fill my life with and enjoy my relationship with my adult children.

For me, I can't imagine not having children myself, but I would think twice about bringing them into the world now myself.

Maybe they all agreed it as a way to get some cash.

She expresses her miserable thoughts in a national newspaper, then adds, “I would never be miserable around them and I keep those thoughts to myself.”

Right….

What a selfish person. Does she not realise that she has a family- she has two daughters - that’s a hell of a lot more than a lot of people have. If she didn’t have her daughters blessing for the article and permission to publish photos from childhood to adulthood in a national newspaper then I hope her daughters and the rest of the family have a serious conversation with her on why this isn’t okay.
she has no right to dictate how they live their lives- they are adults and she need to respect their wishes.

A really upsetting article in so many ways. Very hurtful to those who are childless not by choice too. Can't she be grateful that she has her two daughters? Some people don't appreciate how lucky they are.

Tough shit, lady. You shouldn't have assumed your daughters would risk their lives and health having children at all, let alone because you fancy being a grandmother. I'm so grateful my mother was never like this.

I had an aunt who lectured me (kindly) about my mum wanting to be a grandmother.

I told my mum about it and explained that we'd had no success - I was desperate to be a mother. My mum was upset that her sister had interfered.

The irony is that my aunt's younger son was childless for many years and then he and his wife lost their first child to a still birth before having a second live birth. I should have thought that she would have understood, particularly since my mum had had three miscarriages after having me.

If a family member had gone to the press with their dissatisfaction, I'd have been finished with them.

Diddums