Childfree and purposefully live alone?

[EightyfirstCat]

I'm about to buy my own home after a couple of long term relationships that ended, leaving me homeless. Approaching 40 years old, this feels like a major milestone! The idea of living with a partner again feels extremely unappealing. I've lived alone in a rented flat for almost 3 years and I've loved every minute of it. Can anyone else relate? There's something so gorgeous about peace, quiet, doing everything at my own pace, arranging things exactly as I like them, no disruptions or distractions. It feels like it's coming from a very similar place for my intention to be childfree. I wonder if anyone else has a similar desire for peace & simplicity which translates into living alone? (I have a partner but we live separately and will continue to do so as he also likes living alone!).

Hobbit!!!!

I've lived on my own for most of the last 20 years.

I love it. My space. My stuff. My mess.

I'm an introverted extrovert so while I love company and have a wide social circle I find socialising exhausting and as I get older I'm more careful about ensuring I book in down time at home as well as fun stuff out and about.

That is my perfect life!

I love it. Considering a move out of my very expensive area too in order to buy my own place.

How do people get out and about and how often? I am looking forward to buying a car and going for drives alone again, both to see new places and meet people.

Love the idea of cooperative women's housing when I'm older, it's something I talk and think about a lot.

I'm living on my own for the first time after my marriage broke down. I'm desperately lonely at times but at others I am celebrating being able to do what I want without criticism or concern for a very fragile ego. It's early days but I think I'm going to be quite happy on my own.

Good luck with your healing @Itisallgoingtobeok

Creating a sanctuary has always felt really important to me; there's liberation in having somewhere you can come back to as your gentle nest for dealing with whatever the world is throwing at you. I've just bought my own house (previously renting) and although I've felt quite low at times I've been doing little things today to make it homely like lighting candles and putting my books out. It's a chance to design your own little piece of the world exactly as you'd like it.

@EightyfirstCat - thank you! Your description of doing little things for yourself was lovely. I'm trying to focus on the same thing. It's hard, but I know it will get easier as time goes on.