Normal for a night nanny to be heavily asleep (not hear baby being sick etc)?

[newmummy100]

I've just employed a night nanny, her first night was last night for my 3 day old baby.

I was awake and heard my baby start crying (only just started) so I popped into her to check how things were going and she was getting out of bed and looked at baby as I was approaching and said 'oh, your baby has been sick'. He had been sick in his moses basket and she hadn't heard as she had been asleep. [I think he had been sick as we had agreed that she give him one formula feed in the night and I would do breastfeed at other times and she had given him 100ml of forumla - double what he has had so far - is this a bit much for a 3 day old?].

She was due to leave at 7am this morning, it was 7:15 and she hadn't gone to get me and I went in and she was fast asleep and I called her name about 10 times (loudly) before she woke up.

My question - do all night nannies sleep when the baby sleeps? i.e. is this just part of the role... I sort of thought that they may stay awake/watch tv etc or just doze.. not sleep and out for the count.

Thanks for your help.

am very pleased you have got things sorted

has your milk come in yet? If not, things will settle

my lifesaver was learning to feed laying down so DD would feed and sleep and so would i

best of luck ...

try not to let your toddler bother you too much(easier said then done)

my daughter did this and what worked for us was saying "your baby" instead of the baby, so i used to say, would you like tochoose what your baby will wear today, what blanket does your baby want etc

Sorry you had a bad night but fantastic news that you saw several ladies and have got help sorted and that dh has got extra time off

kwym about snuffly/snoring babies. Baby I had 2 nights last week was 4 weeks and made a right racket when stirring. Mummy said it was fab having baby in with me and was thinking about putting in own room each night

my 3rd charge was in her own room at 6 weeks as snores at night and MB said she didn't get any sleep as either baby on right or dh on left were snoring and she didn't get a wink if sleep lol

newmummy How great for you that you've sorted things so quickly!!

Just to let you know, I do night nannying as well (have had several newborns including twins) and am not far from you at all. My e-mail is [email protected] if you'd like to have a chat - I'm not particularly 'on the market' for work but would love to help you out even for a couple of nights if you need.

It sounds like you have found a really good solution, newmummy - and the nights will get better, I assure you. If your nanny can do the odd night, and let you get some sleep as well - even better!

It might be worth ignoring the baby a bit when the toddler is around - he might be feeling that he's having to play second fiddle to the baby all the time - ie when you are feeding the baby and invite him to sit with you, he is sitting by you whilst the baby is actually getting a cuddle.

If, between feeds, your dh or the nanny can take the baby for a while so that your ds feels he has your whole attention, that might help - you could offer a walk to the park to feed the ducks, or nipping out for an icelolly, or doing some activity that the baby won't be able to join in with - such as painting/gluing/colouring etc.

I know that earlier on in the thread I said to try to entice your ds into activities by appearing absorbed in them yourself, and appearing unconcerned whether or not he joins in - but if the baby is elsewhere with your dh or the nanny, your ds will still see that he is having 1-2-1 time with you, without the baby, and you can still use this technique to entice him into playing with you - if you see what I mean - I'm not sure I'm expressing it too well.

Hi Newmummy - I'm the poster looking for a night nanny. Could you message me just to let me know who I should be avoiding? Thanks.

congrats on your new arrival

agree with what's been said aboug the night nanny! she is worse than useless and costing you money!

A mothers help who oculd help with both children and a few househols chores would be much better IMO

I have done this kind of role lots of times,and it works really well

sometimes I take the baby off for a feed,settle etc while Mum spent time with the toddler

and other times I took the toddler to groups,activities,the park etc to give Mum bonding time / sleeping with the baby etc

I also tidied up and would pop out and get something from the shops / put away an online shop

You have had a c section,you should be trying to rest as much as poss,and a Mothers Help would be the best,I think so you have help during the day

If your hubby isn't home until late,you could even have someone stay and help with the bath / bedtime routine

advertise / look on gumtree,netmums etc
good luck

xx

Hi newmummy100

Congratulations on the birth of your newborn.

Sorry to hear about your problems. I wonder if you are in my area as I would love to help.

I am a professional nanny who, as of next week will be working only part time for my current employer which frees up 4 mornings a week Monday-Thursday.

I am in the Chichester area, if by chance you are near me and I can help please do get in touch

Nikki x