Nanny playing radio loud during day

[thehuntress]

I want to know if my DH is being unreasonable. Our nanny is generally great with DD (2.6 years old). The issue is that he has come home two times recently while she was feeding her in the kitchen to find pop music blaring loudly on the radio. He doesn't think that our daughter should be listening to pop music on the radio at her age, particularly because of the DJ chatter which is usually mindless.

I don't feel as strongly about it, but think the music shouldn't be too loud as I generally want the nanny to be chatting, interacting with DD during dinner.

I think my DH's dislike also stems from the fact that he doesn't like pop music himself.

Do you think nanny would think we are overreacting and being strange if we ask her to not listen to the radio with DD around? That's really what we want, but I don't want to make nanny unhappy as in the whole scheme of things this is probably a small issue.

what the fuck are you talking about Athene?

I have given advice many times to working mums and currently i am one too. And many have thank me. Including Maria2007 i think.

I had clush with you on previous thread but had nothing to do with woking mums. You know very well what had to do with.

Well, anyone who wants to search the archives can. I'll leave it at that.

Do you really work full time now? And your kids go to childminder/nanny/relative? Perhaps you have changed. But, the evidence on this thread suggests otherwise frankly.

To be honest though Athene, it's really not very nice to be referring to what Laquitar has or hasn't said in other threads. I never like it when people do that on MN. People, after all, are allowed to change their opinions; or indeed their circumstances may change.

Laquitar, not sure though what you're referring to when you say you've helped me with some ideas? What thread are you referring to? (anyway, maybe it's me being daft here!)

i didnt say full time Athene. You keep guessing and assuming and accusing.

As for my kids, no i lock them in the cupboardd until i come back.

Blonde- point taken. I understand where you're coming from I just personally am a bit paranoid about our wonderful nanny leaving, so I tend to jump at mentions of things such as 'I'd leave if i was asked not to play the radio'. But sure, if it were one more thing after many, of course it might make sense to consider leaving.

Maria - I wouldn't leave a job over something petty like turning off the radio, but lots of petty things can add up to feeling controlled and micromanaged and do breed resentment. Lots of nannies move out of nurseries and into nanni#ying because they like being able to run the day themselves rather than being told by someone else what to do when and how to do it!

ok, maybe it's not. But when a posted comes to section just to make parents feel bad about being working parents that too is not very nice. I did bite my tongue for ahile, but then she got a bit shirty with me. And I thought the OP should know some history. But the history is old enough that is no longer searchable.

I am trying to be supportive to the OP, whose thread is winding it's ugly neck out of control.

i thought Laquitar was a nanny/ex nanny from threads we have been on together

but im blonde though do have an idea what thread athene means

either way glad we have helped you huntress, and hope we havent scared you too much

though have to say getting fed up with EVERY radio station that seems to play his songs non stop

I said full time, and then you said yes I do, and so I was clarifying if you really meant full time, which I see now you didn't. The reason I asked is becaue I think that the parenting / childcare issues are different for parents who both work full time than someone who is there part time and works part time. So, your experience of part time frelancing / locking kids in cupboard is not really comparable to those of us who either are nannies or employ nannies.

So, what exactly qualifies you to get up on your soapbox and preach on this subject?

I don't really hang out on say the sllergy threads because we don't really have allergies in my house. So I haven't got much to say.

Why do you come here? Not that you can't come here. It is a free board and everyone is welcome. But,I'm trying to understand your intent, if it is not stir things up.

sBlondes i wasn't going to replly anymore but i will for you. Yes, ex-nanny for nearly 20 years. Have given advice to working mums on hiring nanny or arranging nannyshares many times

meant objecting to the noise LEVELS obviously
as in rather than the content/nanny's taste