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AIBU to be annoyed that my nanny's phone was off all day so DS was not collected from school when he was sick

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naughtymummy · 11/12/2008 20:37

I was on night shift last night it was really busy so i was looking forward a nice bath and sleep when i got back. On the way home school called to say could he be picked up ? I then called nanny-no answear so assumed she was driving so sent a text.Thinking that she would pick it up and go and get him. She called me at 330 to say she had just got the message and had I got him ? Was and to think he had been ill at school all day.

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luckylady74 · 11/12/2008 20:40

I think you should have checked - sorry.

saadia · 11/12/2008 20:40

Well I think YABU and YANBU. Nanny should have been reachable if she was in loco parentis for that time, but, you should have checked that she got the message. I'm surprised the school didn't call you back at any point during the day.

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 11/12/2008 20:43

I don't think you should have relied on a text. I'm afraid I think you should have checked as well.

Why was her phone off? Is she expected to have it on during the day?

rubyslippersisappearinginpanto · 11/12/2008 20:44

Why do people rely on text for soemthing so important?

i have read a few threads about texts recently - it is just not a reliable form of communication

no, I don't think you should have assumed she had done it

her phone being off IF it should be on in the day is a different issue

ssd · 11/12/2008 20:45

you're his mum, you should have checked nanny had picked him up or went yourself

slayerette · 11/12/2008 20:49

i think YABU. To rely on a text and not even to check with the school that he had been picked up? TBH, I don't really understand why you didn't go and get him yourself.

And if you were driving home at the time, how did you not notice that your nanny and your DS hadn't arrived home themselves at some point during the day?

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naughtymummy · 11/12/2008 20:52

She left phone at home this morning. I have previously sent her texts she dosen't always reply but usually she just sort of gets on with it. TBH I thought by the time I could get there she would be at school anyway. But yes should have checked am surprised school didn't call.Apparently he slept most of the afternoon.

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ingles2 · 11/12/2008 21:05

ok, so it's really odd that you didn't just go and get your son, but I assume that's because Nanny was working and being paid for the day?
If that's the case I'd probably be giving written warnings for not being available during working hours.
but still think it's odd you didn't just go and get him.

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naughtymummy · 11/12/2008 21:11

The nanny had the car so wasn't that straightforward to go and get him. Would you all still feel I should have got him had I been at work rather than asleep after a night shift ?

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NCRedBreastedBirdy · 11/12/2008 21:15

Yes, your first priority is your child! It would be reasonable to take disciplinary action against the nanny for not being available but it is not ok to leave a child at school sick!

It is great if you can pay someone to stop you having to take time off work for these things but, if it goes wrong, then it is, ultimatly, down to you - his parent!

ingles2 · 11/12/2008 21:23

yes,..ultimately he's your responsibility. That's the joy of being a mum. and you weren't asleep you were driving home.
As for the nanny, so she's working, out in the car and non contactable?

ingles2 · 11/12/2008 21:24

sorry, you were on the way home, you thought she was driving.

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naughtymummy · 11/12/2008 21:29

Just to clarify, I was n't driving I was on the train. I was at least 1.5 hours from the school ,the car was with the nanny. Who was a maximum of 1/2 hour from the school. So he would get home much more quickly with her. by the time I got home I would havegot there about 1/2 hour before he was due to be collected anyway.

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naughtymummy · 11/12/2008 21:31

Yes I thought she wasn't answearing the phone because she was driving`

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Blondeshavemorefun · 11/12/2008 21:35

basically the nanny is in the wrong for not having her phone with her IF she was meant to be working and sole charge

but texts do go astray, and agree IF something is important then you RING and not text!!

did the school ring her, if she is loco parent

my school rings me if it is a day i am working, but if they didnt get hold of me assume they would call my mb or leave a message at home

moondog · 11/12/2008 21:37

Was nanny in charge of another kid?

chloemegjess · 11/12/2008 21:38

Was the Nanny actually working/being paid?

thisisyesterday · 11/12/2008 21:41

i definitely think the nanny should be contactable at all times if she is responsible for the child.
I am really surprised the school didn't call your house though, they surely know you have a nanny? or not?

tbh I would have followed the text up though and given her another ring. but would be cross that you weren't able to contact her

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naughtymummy · 11/12/2008 21:41

Yes I did try to call several times

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naughtymummy · 11/12/2008 21:44

Absolutely she was on duty and being paid. She had DD with her, playgroup then a lunch date

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lisad123 · 11/12/2008 21:47

I think YANU for thinking the nanny should have collected but you really should have checked tbh. I would have called and called until she answered or i would have rang the school to check once home.

Mincepiewater · 11/12/2008 21:49

YANBU to be annoyed. YWBU not to check she'd got the message. Texts get delayed/go astray. It is not reliable for important communication.

wheresthehamster · 11/12/2008 21:49

Crikey! Do people rely on texts? Texts between me and dp sometimes take 12 hours from sending to receiving!

ingles2 · 11/12/2008 21:53

So what are you going to say to Nanny?
If she had her phone with her, surely she would have seen missed calls from you as well as the text?
As I said at the outset, I'd be giving a warning.

moondog · 11/12/2008 21:54

Well I think it's really off that her phone was off. That is her job, to be on duty at times she is paid.

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