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crace · 21/02/2008 08:10

Morning girls and boys

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MaureenMLove · 21/02/2008 23:26

I have apologied to Hercules, she was just the most recent post at the time of me looking and she bore the brunt of it. No need to esculate it any further.

fletchaaarr · 21/02/2008 23:26

I have often read threads on here and thought how appallingly CMs can be treated by their employers, like you are not doing a proper job. That stinks. Most of you do a fantastic job.

But I think what tory posted is shit stinks too - don't allow people to be at work and away from their children and then criticise them.

hercules1 · 21/02/2008 23:27

thanks maureen

MaureenMLove · 21/02/2008 23:28

No, I know you didn't. It was a collection of what I read briefly. I was wrong to tar you with all of it. I can do no more than apologise for my post. It wasn't in the spirit of MN and I'm sorry.

fletchaaarr · 21/02/2008 23:30

But Maureen - if she had posted that it was unreasonable to "don't pay on time, are habitually late, don't sent the right equipment, clothes, nappies, SHOES! (I kid you not!) and I would imagine that this was the straw that broke the camels back"

then she would have had sympathy - read what she said in her first post - she said that it is unreasonable to leave your child with the childminder you have paid for while you pop to tescos or have your hair cut!

If her problems were the ones you listed then she should have listed them rather than sounding off about some thing completely different???

hercules1 · 21/02/2008 23:30

No need to apologise anymore.

MaureenMLove · 21/02/2008 23:32

That's the thing. We see it from a CM point of view and you see it from a parent point of view. I bet there are times when you wish you were the one at home, making cakes and doing hand prints and feeding the ducks! You do, don't you? The OP was badly phrased, but there are still aspects of it that I can empathize with.

fletchaaarr · 21/02/2008 23:36

NO - none of the things you quoted are in her OP. Do you think that the OP is reasonable. Just the words and the question that is in it. Nothing else. No thoughts about no shoes or no nappies

(I used to have a CM who got my DS to school late 50% of the time, but he was happy there!)

MaureenMLove · 21/02/2008 23:43

fletchaar, I'm not really sure why you are getting so upset about this. Hercules and I had a spat, it was dealt with - end of.

fletchaaarr · 21/02/2008 23:44

And this is MN, so you can see things from a CM point of view, but really everybody should look at it from a parent point of view?

I am sorry - I did have a huge amount of respect for these posters and these threads, but the "she is a childminder so you have to forgive her completely stupid post, because she probably meant all of these things that she didn't put in the post and you were all being mean to her" attitude has kind of put me off

MaureenMLove · 21/02/2008 23:49

Its over, leave it. The thread has finished amicably. There's no need to go on. The nature of a forum is that everyone has different POV. They have been aired, argued about and put to bed. Nothing more needs to be said. And I didn't say 'forgive her complete stupid thread', you did!

vInTaGeVioLeT · 21/02/2008 23:49

now then NOW THEN . . .
what the heck's going on here then?

i only popped away to watch ER and all hell broke lose

TRESPASSERS in the staffroom

MaureenMLove · 21/02/2008 23:51

Vi - don't do it! Don't even post about it. It was a thread that you can find and read , if you wish, but its all been said. Its been a fraight night, partly my doing, but hopefully (fletchaarr) we are all friends again now!

MaureenMLove · 21/02/2008 23:55

Just in case you come back Fletchaaarr (have I got the right amount of a's and r's this time! ) I'm not ignoring you, I need to sleep. Sorry if I offended you at all, I don't think I did. We have to agree to disagree and move on. I look forward to pleasant banter with you on a more agreeable thread!

fletchaaarr · 22/02/2008 00:12

I need sleep too - it just disappointed me that you took the attitude that she is a CM therefore she is right, and if what she said wasn't right, then what she actually meant was something else that was right.

The thread is now lighthearted because loads of other people have piled in and are making fun, though there is still some argument - I would not describe it as amicable. You did not say forgive her her stupid thread, but you did say

"I would hazzard a guess that Tori has probably had problems with this partular parent. Most parents are wonderful and have every right to do other things without their children, when they are in paid care. However, sometimes, we do get parents who don't pay on time, are habitually late, don't sent the right equipment, clothes, nappies, SHOES! (I kid you not!) and I would imagine that this was the straw that broke the camels back.

I really wish it hadn't degenerated into a massive row, over there, Tori needed to sound off. Her only fault was probably not posting somewhere, where others have been there.
"

which I read as forgive her for posting something general when she means something specific that is completely different and in the wrong section - so when I said her stupid thread I was paraphrasing

Of course I will banter with you all elsewhere, it just disappointed me that you couldn't see when one of your own was BU

vInTaGeVioLeT · 22/02/2008 00:25

one of your own?

what are we "the clan of the childminders"

BTW i was just being lighthearted

fletchaaarr · 22/02/2008 00:31

hehehe - I don't see you as a clan .

It was just that I really did thing that she was unreasonable, I really did (on t'other thread) and ppl on this thread kept coming up with reasons why she wasn't, that had nothing to do with anything that she had posted.

When ppl I "know" or "hang out with" or "like " on here post something shit, I tell them that they have just posted something shit

Just done it akcherlee

vInTaGeVioLeT · 22/02/2008 00:42

goodnight fletchaaarr

BTW as a c/m i don't really care what parents are doing while i mind their kids as long as i'm being paid and i love it when ds is at pre-school and i'm not working , i love to just "mooch" about the shops without a small child wanting to go for a poo or being hungry or bored or TIRED

TotalChaos · 22/02/2008 08:45

belated thanks to KM for answering my question, didn't mean to post and run, had a banging headache come on.

shoshe · 22/02/2008 08:55

Can i just say, I know Tori personally, she is a great Cm, she puts her heart and soul into her job, her own and DD and her mindees have a great time with her, they are loved cared for stimulated, and just generally looked after so well.

and I know this shouldn't be relevant, but Tori is doing this job, at 8 months PG, today she goes onto Maternity leave, I just hope this argument does not put her off coming back after, Cm's of her caliber are hard to find.

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