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To leave Children alone for 30 minutes in the evening

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Flowercat1982 · 25/04/2023 18:30

Just trying to see what people's opinions are. I recently applied for a job I was really interested in. Applied late one evening, got a phone call the next morning to have an interview the next day, so I possibly had quite a good chance of getting the job. Long story short, the job entailed staying till 10pm at night. It's 5/10 minute drive from home. I had to turn it down as my partner works nights and leaves at 9.40/9.45 to get into work. 3 children aged 12, 5 and 3. Would it be really bad of me to have even considered leaving the children at home on there own at night for 30 minutes? They would all be in bed. At the moment my flexibility to work seems really limited. I know some people will say, just wait until the children are in school before changing jobs but the type of I'm looking at does not come up very often. And often will involve evenings.

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SnapDragon5 · 26/04/2023 05:27

No way. You can't have a 3 and 5 year old asleep at home with no adult, that's insane.

You and your partner need to speak to both employers and ask if one or the other will accommodate this. If not, you can't do it. Annoying but simple.

wrinkleintime · 26/04/2023 05:32

Flowercat1982 · 25/04/2023 18:57

Thanks for everyone's opinions. No my DH wouldn't have been flexible with his starting times. He is happy with the job I'm in now as it fits in perfectly with him going out with relatives in his days off/playing football twice a week and I also only need to work every second weekend. So he would be very reluctant to change his working hours to help me out because he wants me to stick with the job I'm in. But I know I would have enjoyed this other job more.

The kids are as much his responsibility as yours.

Sounds like he has a nice life - great for him - but you should be in a job you like as well.

Look at the sacrifices you're making and he very much isn't.

This does not sound equal at all and he sounds very selfish.

GoodChat · 26/04/2023 05:43

Blondeshavemorefun · 25/04/2023 21:51

Course you can't leave children that age alone as in the younger two

Would it be every weekend day night so mon to Fri ?

Can you find 2/3 teenagers and rotate and pay for an hour

Any neighbors with old teens who could babysit

10pm is late on a school night to ask them to babysit to be fair

Okunevo · 26/04/2023 07:24

Freefall212 · 26/04/2023 01:17

Did none of you babysit at 12? I looked after young kids for a lot more than 30 minutes and when they were awake.

My friend babysat her toddler sibling at 11, but only for a short time in the daytime. I babysat a three year old for a whole day on occasion at 14. It's the combination of being only 12, and looking after two young children, one under school age, late at night that means it's a no from me.

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/04/2023 11:20

One last night /revising till 10 should be ok

Hence why several would be a good idea

But also I did ask op how many nights this is a week

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