THURSDAY STAFF ROOM

[crace]

Morning!

Morning

Morning everyone.

It's going to snow DH has given me a card and a jelly rose , I sometimes get a card as an afterthought of being at work but he never buys me anything (What's he after or done ).

Morning!

Dh bought me a small box of chocolates and ever since DD has been going on and on and on about having one! ARRRGGHHHHH! It's getting boring now, lol!

Just printed out some colouring pages for dd and mindees when they arrive to try and keep them amused for a while! Going to make some cards with them later too as they all love sticking!

Hope we don't get any snow here today! Today and tomorrow say it's going to be dull and then nice again after that so hopefully the weekend will be nice!

Well my DH went out on a Team night out last night, so is still in bed snoring, so no Valentine Card for me,

(but this is the guy who said on our first Valentine Day, 'Did you want two cards in one week?' My birthday is Monday)

And he wasn't joking!!!!

he hasn't got a romantic bone in his body!!

I on the other hand have been up since 6 and have baked 30 heart shaped cookies for the mindees to decorate, and God Help DH if he tries to snaffle one!

LOL Shoshe! My poor DH has to do valentines, our wedding anniversary and my birthday all within a week of each other!!

Just need to have a moan too! I have a horrible AF coming I think My back aches and I have stomach cramps. Oh joy. What a good week I'm going to have with AF for valentines, anniversay and my birthday probably too

SB tell her it's big people chocolate

We don't do Valentine's around here, my husband and I just ignore it But that's ok, truly. We do birthdays and anniversaries and that's about it. And sometimes Mothers/Fathers Day but that's if HE remembers, I always have dd make him a card.

But that's ok, we are good!

Happy Valentines Girls!!

Oh, today we are doing hand print hearts for mummies and daddies and then biscuits!

Cut out a hand print
Roll it round a pipecleaner/straw
Curl each finger back

Voila a lily

Going to enjoy my last day of peace as DD got staff training day tomorrow then it's half term.
She then only goes back for 3 weeks and 4 days, then it's Easter!!

hello everyone - i don't have any mindees on a thursday and ds is at pre-school so i could be here all day if i wanted!!!
the only things i'd be neglecting is housework and dp

talking of which i'd better make him a cuppa in bed - oh and i got two cards from ds and one "funny" one from dp ,some thornton's marzipan bars and a big pot of lillies - be quite a while before they are flowers but hey-ho

Thanks Katy! Not sure my blood pressure will take any hand printing, I have mindees 11mos, 21 mos and dd 25 mos and our cards are now drying but I swear it's like printing with a live fish. Hopefully mummy and daddy will appreciate the thought, it sort of looks like a handprint ` The eldest two will then decorate them with stickers and gluing on bits and bobs.

First batch of heart biscuits in oven, I've had to hand cut them as can't find my biscuit cutter. So all very au natural today.

At moment, one in bed for am nap, the other two are playing very nicely. After all that excitement of crafting and baking we all need a rest

So sorry for my disappearance, i join then sod of for 2 weeks ( i haven't been away, not that Lucky) - have been reading the thread but seem to have no time to post at the moment!
Hope we are all having a nice day, i got 2 cards this morning first year ds has got me one so very sweet!

We done cards yesterday, and am having a new kitchen fitted next week so cant really get in there to make anything just being used for the basic's when mindee is here!

Finally, 5 mins! I was up at the crack of dawn this morning, cleaning downstairs before the school run. Everything is sparkly and I've just got 1 mindee til about 2'ish. He's asleep now, so I'm going to wizz round upstairs and then I'll be able to enjoy my whole day off tomorrow! I hope DH has to go out to work tomorrow, otherwise it won't be so much fun!

I bought DH a jar of that Special Edition marmite for Valetines! We don't usually do it, but we needed marmite, so I bought that one! He has now gone off to work, thinking he's got to buy me something! I told him not to bother, but we'll see. Didn't buy cards.

am very today...Dp ran in last night and straight upstairs..so knew hed bought 'something' even if just card..i went straight out in car as i was going food shopping with dd last night...mum goes in boot(she came too) to put bag in and said think theres something in there for you..looked and big bouquet of flowers roses crysants(sp) carnations foliage everything!..dp has never bought me flowers!..me and mam both guess dp has forgot to bring them in before i went out and is now kicking himself..get home and say to dp i think you left something in the boot..he says oh theyre not for you(jokingly)..so thinking he wants to 'give' them to me himself poss in morn, i place then on unit in hall and bring rest of shopping in..get dd ready for bed, back don to help with shopping..dp says hell do it, go sit with dd fora bit..so i go...bit later take dd to bed, sort wages out, pop on facebook, then go downstairs..go in front room ask dpp if he wants some tea as i was doing mine.NO!???..ok, very confused..go into kitchen see flowers sticking out of bin with my valentine card torn into pieces?..go abck in and ask dp why hes done that..he says i know why?, so i tell him if i knew i wouldnt ask..he said he doesnt 'do'' valentines day(which he never has) but he knew i did and thought id like the flowers and seems i couldnt give sh*t so theyre in the bin and he doesnt know why he botherd???????????????????????

i told him FWIW, i thouhgt he was kicking hi mself as i thought hed forgot them and assumed hed want to 'give' me them, not just let me find them, i said i thouhgt they were lovely but the gesture was even better and cant see why he took this whole thing this way???

and thats it, thats how it was left last night and this morning...i gae dd her card and her present and let dd give dp the present i had bought and make sure she said it was 'from dd'(not me)-i couldnt take it back anyway and am not as pg headed to throw it in the bin!
..id even send him e-cards from hallmark at beginning of week to be sent to his email today saying i love you etc..so now feel a fcking fool and really upset that this nice gesture was ruined cos he fcked up and took everything the wrong way

Sorry know its the staff room but baby asleep now and really upset about this

Aww Rose! There is a word for moments when DH's are like this, its F*ckwit! Very effective and very descriptive I find!

I think he is just so cross with himself for forgetting the flowers were in the boot and so cross that he did everything right and ultimately HE f*cked it up. Unfortuately, men don't think the same way as us. As far as he's concerned it's all gone wrong, so lets not bother at all. Its the 'action now and think later' technique! Its very much like a childs reasoning really. Children would rather screw up a picture they've done, then make the most of what they have done.

Try not to worry, he's cross with himself really, not you. Leave him alone til tea time and then hopefully he'll be in a better frame of mind, having been out of the home environment for the day and things will get better. Is he the sort of bloke that will see the error of his ways? DH can sometimes be like this. I have learnt to leave him alone, to stew a bit and let him think.

he knew hed upset me but he can be a hard faced t*at and put a front on..i know he says things/does things and immediatly wishes he hadnt and i tried to show him last night that hes took the whole thing the wrong way without even considering someone could have been thinking differently and said he was doing same as mindees mum last week(blaimng me when there was actually no blame to be layed!)..id bought losts of nice things in for tea tonight when dd had gone to bed..and im so so stupid at the moment that i just cant stop crying about it?, i dont know why im such an idiot

You're not an idiot, don't say that about yourself. I bet you're thinking you're the only woman in the world with a DH like this. You are so wrong! I would be a millionnaire if I had a pound for every time I thought I had the worst DH in the world! He does exactly the same and it just makes you feel like sht all day. He loves you very much and he is pssed with himself. Really. Don't be tempted to txt him or call him, he needs to get it out of his head and bothering him just makes it worse. DH often says to me, after the event, if I would just leave him alone, he'd get over it quicker. Me pestering him, just makes him worse.

Rose, he's upset with himself and taking it out on you Doesn't make it right, but he's reacting so.. so.. MALE . I'd take Mo's advice and give some space, he will calm himself down and feel sheepish.

Hang in there - he probably put a lot of pressure on himself and when it didn't go to plan he got upset.

Ta Mo, i wont ring or text him..i dont know why im so upset about it?, think it was just the first time hed bought me flowers(in 13 years!) and the fact i didnt kiss his feet(as i thought he wanted to 'give' them to me today)..he ripped my card up and shoved flowers in bin..i was about to put bin out when dd saw them (she saw them last night too and said they were beautiful) and asked why they were they!..i said i dont know i guess daddy didnt want me to have them afterall, so she asked if she could have them..so ive salvaged what i can and put them in a vase in her room..was so kicking myself while doing it(taking them out of bin and keeping them instead of chiucking) but dd could see i was upset and i didnt want to say "no theyre staying in the fecking bin"..they look beutiful in her room now, plus she got some off her nana and choclates saying "i HEART you" off me so she'll be hapy

yeah it was the first time hes botherd like i said so i guess it was a big thing, but to shove em in bin and rip card up..all b'cause i thought hed forgot them but hed actually left them in there for me to find??!!!so as i didnt know this i left them on the unit for him to 'do' with what he planned

Could you perhaps just 'borrow' them out of dd's room for when he comes home? Knowing how men think, he might be hacked off that you have completely shunned them and given them away! Pathetic, I know, but that's men for you!

Awww Rose. Men often take things the wrong way and blow things out of all proportion. I know he messed up and ended up being silly with it, but maybe you could take heart that he did 'do' valentines day even though he doesn't do valentines day itms.

We've done colouring, cards and hand flowers (thanks Katy!) this morning! We then rushed out to preschool so dd could have her class photo with everyone and then back again as mindee gets off soon.

Going to start cooking meal for dh later when other mindee is alseep and dd at preschool!

oh my god ROSE - so sorry your dp is being such a tosser - i hope he'll come home tonight and apoligise