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[Mummy201420202022]

Hey can anyone help please I'm looking too hire a virtual baby ( the ones that cry ) my partner is going too be a 1st time dad and I think this would help me with his confidence before we have our little bundle off joy. We don't want too send too much can anyone help? X

Help him or help you? You refer to helping you with his confidence.

Do you mean like a doll which you have to look after? I've never heard of anyone doing this in real life. Wouldn't it be better to spend some time with an actual baby? Do you know anyone with a young baby? This seems an unusual approach to take.

@TriciaMcMillan

Help him or help you? You refer to helping you with his confidence.

Do you mean like a doll which you have to look after? I've never heard of anyone doing this in real life. Wouldn't it be better to spend some time with an actual baby? Do you know anyone with a young baby? This seems an unusual approach to take.

I had one in school that is like a real baby he will not be comfortable with someone's else's baby over night for 5 nights and wants newborn

@TriciaMcMillan

Help him or help you? You refer to helping you with his confidence.

Do you mean like a doll which you have to look after? I've never heard of anyone doing this in real life. Wouldn't it be better to spend some time with an actual baby? Do you know anyone with a young baby? This seems an unusual approach to take.

And he looks at me for help with his confidence

Speak with your midwife about your concerns, she can help with advice.

I have heard of virtual babies used by schools with teenage pupils but not by members of the public.

Well no, I wasn't suggesting anyone would lend you their baby, certainly not for 5 nights!? People don't usually have the opportunity to 'practice' on newborns.

It's not something I've seen in the UK for prospective parents, only in the US and largely for schools to try and combat teen pregnancy.

But I'll bow out and let someone else suggest something if they have more experience.

I've never heard of this in general, sadly babies don't come with manuals and there's not much you can do - it's a very much learn on the job situation.

He'll get it's pretty quickly.

Are you a first time mum too OP?

he will not be comfortable with someone's else's baby over night for 5 nights and wants newborn

Well no, I can’t imagine anyone will lend you their newborn for 5 nights even if he did feel comfortable with it

Why 5 nights?!

Is this really possible? I'm not sure anything can give you the experience of the real thing.

The dolls are in short supply sadly as lots of schools are struggling to get hold of them.

I think it's likely more helpful that you ask your midwife of health visiting team if there are any classes he can take part in.

@FlibbertyGiblets

Speak with your midwife about your concerns, she can help with advice.

I have heard of virtual babies used by schools with teenage pupils but not by members of the public.

Unfortunately she's not really helpful

@YumBroadBeans

Are you a first time mum too OP?

No I have 2 girls but after my youngest & oldest I was very poorly that I had too stay in hospital for 4 weeks

@Howshouldibehave

he will not be comfortable with someone's else's baby over night for 5 nights and wants newborn

Well no, I can’t imagine anyone will lend you their newborn for 5 nights even if he did feel comfortable with it

Why 5 nights?!

Due to his disability it will take at least 5 nights for him too feel comfortable

@SofaSpuds

Is this really possible? I'm not sure anything can give you the experience of the real thing.

Yeah it is

@Clammyclam

The dolls are in short supply sadly as lots of schools are struggling to get hold of them.

I think it's likely more helpful that you ask your midwife of health visiting team if there are any classes he can take part in.

Unfortunately there isn't due to COVID and he isn't good with working in classes due to his disability

Why can’t he look after your 8 month old baby? Surely, since youre pregnant, he has experience of her?

Sorry, but a doll like that is not much more different than a tamagotchi.

Although he is your partner and you will be parenting in partnership, it’s his responsibility as much as yours to prepare himself.

He could be a bit more proactive and pragmatic rather than asking you to get him a doll!

Perhaps he could research some parenting books or classes to help his confidence, or together you could do a baby first aid course like this-

www.nct.org.uk/local-activities-meet-ups/baby-first-aid

But you have an 8 month old baby already. Hadn't he had any experience with her?

@JulesCobb

Why can’t he look after your 8 month old baby? Surely, since youre pregnant, he has experience of her?

Good point

He won't be able to practice on a doll.

A doll doesn't have the essential needs a newborn does.

Speak to your midwife or HV when your baby is here, but really? Practicing on a doll?

I don't understand how that would help him at all.

And why 5 nights? This all seems a bit weird. Sorry.

Oh I see, @JulesCobb. You make a good point.

OP I am sorry your husband's disability prevented him from caring for the current baby. Maybe you could start to strengthen your local support network, get family and friends on board with planning for a hospital stay, who will have each of the current children whilst you're in who can drop auppl8es and check on husband, etc. This should help set your mind at rest.

• supplies not auppl8es, stupid phone

@JulesCobb

Why can’t he look after your 8 month old baby? Surely, since youre pregnant, he has experience of her?

Because she has been in hospital since she has been born and hasn't been able too come home 😭

[quote CreamCabbages]Sorry, but a doll like that is not much more different than a tamagotchi.

Although he is your partner and you will be parenting in partnership, it’s his responsibility as much as yours to prepare himself.

He could be a bit more proactive and pragmatic rather than asking you to get him a doll!

Perhaps he could research some parenting books or classes to help his confidence, or together you could do a baby first aid course like this-

www.nct.org.uk/local-activities-meet-ups/baby-first-aid[/quote]
He didn't ask me too do anything. And he can't read & he can't do classes plus there isn't any going on atm