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[Mummy201420202022]

Hey can anyone help please I'm looking too hire a virtual baby ( the ones that cry ) my partner is going too be a 1st time dad and I think this would help me with his confidence before we have our little bundle off joy. We don't want too send too much can anyone help? X

@Ginger1982

But you have an 8 month old baby already. Hadn't he had any experience with her?

No he hasn't because she has been in hospital since she has been born so hasn't been able too come home 😭

@FlibbertyGiblets

Oh I see, *@JulesCobb*. You make a good point.

OP I am sorry your husband's disability prevented him from caring for the current baby. Maybe you could start to strengthen your local support network, get family and friends on board with planning for a hospital stay, who will have each of the current children whilst you're in who can drop auppl8es and check on husband, etc. This should help set your mind at rest.

Because she has been in hospital since she was born unfortunately he wouldn't like after her & nor can i all we can do is see her and hope for the best 😭 we don't have much support

What are his worries? What is his disability if you don't mind me asking to get more of an understanding

@bekindandgrateful

What are his worries? What is his disability if you don't mind me asking to get more of an understanding

He has cef & can't read or write & has cerebral palsy & learning difficulties

Can you create a plan so if he needs support you can call someone?

@Dandy0911

He won't be able to practice on a doll.

A doll doesn't have the essential needs a newborn does.

Speak to your midwife or HV when your baby is here, but really? Practicing on a doll?

I don't understand how that would help him at all.

And why 5 nights? This all seems a bit weird. Sorry.

The ones you can get that I'm on about you have too feed change them etc as they actually cry so it is just like a real baby

I am so sorry, I feel like I was prying somewhat.
I do hope your daughter can come home soon.

Best wishes for you all.

@bekindandgrateful

Can you create a plan so if he needs support you can call someone?

We have no one apart from each other

@FlibbertyGiblets

I am so sorry, I feel like I was prying somewhat. I do hope your daughter can come home soon.

Best wishes for you all.

It's ok you wasn't x thank you x

Is there anyone that helps with his disability ever? Or can you ask a friend or family member to be on standby in case he needs it?

@bekindandgrateful

Is there anyone that helps with his disability ever? Or can you ask a friend or family member to be on standby in case he needs it?

Only me and he's learnt to do it on his own unfortunately there isn't no

I'm so sorry your in this position I wish people could help you both ☹️ but for his confidence he will hopefully adapt better than you expect xxx

I would try to get some support OP.
You have a great deal to cope with right now- a baby in hospital long term, a partner with cerebral palsy, another child and you are pregnant.
Can you speak to your HV to see if there are any support services you can access?
I know things are stretched, but there are often local charities or organisations at least to give you respite or help with transport or other needs.

Surely he is doing some care for your baby while she's in hospital? Can't he go and stay overnight with her?

If his disabilities impact on his ability to assume his parenting role, he may be able to access support through social care. I would encourage you to contact adult social care in the council who can assess him and arrange services as appropriate. This is absolutely NOT the same as being involved with children's social care because the child has been identified as being at risk.

The Family Rights Group have some useful information and offer guidance and support.

"Adult physical disabilities or ill-health - Family Rights Group" frg.org.uk/get-help-and-advice/why/adult-physical-disabilities-or-ill-health/

It sounds like he has significant additional needs and you already have a baby who hasn’t yet come home at 8 months? How pregnant are you? I would be involving social care for support.

@Toddlerteaplease

Surely he is doing some care for your baby while she's in hospital? Can't he go and stay overnight with her?

Only the nurses can do the care due too her wires

@TriciaMcMillan

If his disabilities impact on his ability to assume his parenting role, he may be able to access support through social care. I would encourage you to contact adult social care in the council who can assess him and arrange services as appropriate. This is absolutely NOT the same as being involved with children's social care because the child has been identified as being at risk.

I didn't know this, thank you I will give them a call tomorrow. Not many people on my post is helping me right now & feel like I'm being slagged off due too it so I may come off this

@speakout

I would try to get some support OP. You have a great deal to cope with right now- a baby in hospital long term, a partner with cerebral palsy, another child and you are pregnant. Can you speak to your HV to see if there are any support services you can access? I know things are stretched, but there are often local charities or organisations at least to give you respite or help with transport or other needs.

We don't see the HV & won't until our baby is out off hospital thank you though

[quote TriciaMcMillan]The Family Rights Group have some useful information and offer guidance and support.

"Adult physical disabilities or ill-health - Family Rights Group" frg.org.uk/get-help-and-advice/why/adult-physical-disabilities-or-ill-health/[/quote]
I will take a look at this thank you

@ButterflyAway

Maybe having a baby with him isn’t the best decision right now if he can’t currently look after himself. It’s all going to be on you, and from what you’ve said you’ve got a seriously sick baby as it is.

I didn't say anything about him not being a able too look after himself he does a god dam lot for himself

@bekindandgrateful

I'm so sorry your in this position I wish people could help you both ☹️ but for his confidence he will hopefully adapt better than you expect xxx

Thank you xx think it's worried about how he will cope xx