Nanny starting late, leaving early

[Whatnameisgood]

Family A and Family B have a nanny as a 3 day a week nanny share. Nanny wants to arrive 5 minutes late (9.05) and leave 5 minutes early (6.55) every day as it fits with her trains. Otherwise she’d be waiting 20 minutes at the beginning and end of the day for her trains (if she arrived on time and left on time). Family A doesn’t mind, but Family B thinks if you start at 9.05 you finish at 7.05 (meaning a 20 minute wait for the next train). Who is right?

20 minutes is a bloody long time to wait for the bus or train in this cold AND it's also putting herself and her families more at risk the longer she waits, FivetoFour.🙄

@Whatnameisgood where is the share ? Your house or b ?

Any decent person would not leave her waiting 20 minutes for a train,

Seriously. It's 10 mins and will make her day much easier/more pleasant. I can't believe anyone would quibble about this unless there's some very good reason why she's needed for that 5 minutes.

Some employers really don't get that some flexibility to your employees gets flexibility and loyalty back. Plus it's morally right to treat employees kindly with some consideration that they have lives and need a work/life balance.

She's really asking for very little here.

Family A

Family A sound lovely and how employers should be, flexible. They expect us to be flexible and work extra extra when they need it.

So @Whatnameisgood. What’s the outcome

Will nanny arrive late and leave early

Is share at your or b house

Are you all at work Or working at home

A nanny is not like an office worker at all. This is someone looking after your children, for long periods of time. Unless Family B really need those 10 minutes they are being awful.

@notanotherwalk that's the issue we don't have enough information.

I think it's really simple. If family B have no issue with timings then cut the nanny some slack. If family B must leave at that time to get to where they are going then the nanny has to suck it up!

Hilarious answers!
Take it off her lunch ? Nannies don’t get a lunch hour . It would mean leaving young children alone .
At present when lots of parents working from home would be possible but I don’t know any nannies who get an official break.
I would ask family to dock my pay. I wouldn’t want to be lingering any longer than normal at station at present time.

I would not want to work with or for family B. That style of thinking will be a pain in the arse.

My goodness. Reading these replies has been an eye opener.. I am a professional nanny and have been for over 30 years.. if my working day was 9 am start then 9 am start it should be.. it’s my problem if my train is not a convenient time...
From my side it’s not either of the families that have an issue it’s the nanny...

Family A are more reasonable and worth it for a good nanny.

People's assumptions are revealing. We don't know if the nanny is a good nanny, or if Family A are lovely people and a dream to work for. We don't know if Family B are unreasonable, unfeeling or mean. Perhaps Family B have to commute so have a compelling need to have Nanny at work by a fixed time. Lots of peopie are saying 'it's only 10 minutes!' as though it's just about the money- perhaps it's about making everyone's timetable work. Perhaps Mum B has to wait for an hour for her train if she misses the earlier one, or maybe she isn't free to leave her own work earlier. Perhaps the Nanny share is at Family A's house so it's easy for them to accommodate the request. Perhaps Family B have had prior experience of giving an inch and a yard being taken. Perhaps the families have different attitudes to other aspects of the job such as use of car, paid babysitting, holidays etc. It would be a great thing if they can negotiate a solution that works for everyone, but ultimately there is nothing so unreasonable about wanting to stick to the agreement reached on appointment. I had a great relationship with my children's nanny and we are still friends. But as a professional she understood her role was necessary so I could work, and her hours were set to accommodate mine, not the other way round. There is more than one way to show consideration and respect and to be a good employer.