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we had to sack our nanny!

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SindyW · 28/06/2007 19:03

Hi everybody. This is my first post (sorry long). I am hoping to get some advice on hiring a new nanny as we sacked ours today. I was a SAHM for 12 years have 4 lovely daughters aged 14, 12, 10 and 8. The 10 year old is severely autistic. All are home educated. They are lovely, polite and well behaved girls (apart from the usual problems with the autistic child who is quite demanding). Our nanny had been with us for 18 months and I thought everthing was fine till last night. I work away from home most of the time, spend a quarter of my time abroad but my husband is off work on long term sick so is around most of the time. Until recently, nanny had sole care of children 8am - 5pm but the last few months my husband has been renovating a house so we can move and has been away as well for 3 days a week. The nanny had to work 4 days, 3 nights. She had her own room and bathroom. On her days off she stays with friends in London. Yesterday evening we rang the children and asked in passing what they had eaten. It turned out after much stalling that my youngest had cereal in the morning (made herself) and a frozen pizza in the evening, made by 12 year old. The nanny has been refusing to cook for them and only cooking for the disabled child. We came home last night and sacked the nanny this morning. I just cant believe that she didnt feed my children. I feel so angry and upset. I just couldnt even talk to her or look at her. We paid her until the end of the week and told her she had 2 weeks to remove her things. I just dont understand why the children didnt tell us. They are very upset at losing their nanny. How can you tell if your children are covering for a bad nanny?

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annh · 28/06/2007 19:42

Morning paper, you ARE making me laugh! Honestly, I am trying to give the OP the benefit of the doubt here but this whole thing is sounding more preposterous every minute!

newlifenewname · 28/06/2007 19:43

That is a pathetic salary and a ridiculous job spec. Good God.

foxinsocks · 28/06/2007 19:43

I do admire your husband's multi tasking skills

Rubyslippers · 28/06/2007 19:44

minimum wage

Quattrocento · 28/06/2007 19:44

Gosh. If this is for real (which I doubt) I would really think twice about rehiring a nanny. There are employment law consequences to hiring a nanny. You have obligations. Nannies have rights, you know.

annh · 28/06/2007 19:45

Rubyslippers, minimum wage doesn't apply to live-in positions but £250 a week (hopefully at least net with all her tax and NI paid?) is still way too little for this position.

SindyW · 28/06/2007 19:45

It turns out the nanny hasnt cooked for them in weeks. The children were cooking themselves and lying about it because they didnt want her to go. They will have to move into an unfinished house now and leave their friends behind early.

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Rubyslippers · 28/06/2007 19:46

thanks annh - just was at the low wage the nanny was being paid

NoodleStroodle · 28/06/2007 19:46

SindyW - how had you not noticed this? Where was all the food going? Or was the nanny having to do the shopping too?

newlifenewname · 28/06/2007 19:46

Shit, life and kids does get in the way doesn't it.

SindyW · 28/06/2007 19:46

Husband off on sick with stress. lol

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lulumama · 28/06/2007 19:47

sorry, you are talking rubbish

why do you suddenly have to leave and move into an unfinished house because you sacked a nanny, that the children clearly wanted to stay

you are seeing this from your point of view only ,not your children or your nanny's

lulumama · 28/06/2007 19:47

off sick with stress

why LOL?

quint · 28/06/2007 19:47

£250 a week for a live in nanny working those hours is terrible - I'm surprised she didn;t walk before you fired her.

I was a nanny (a life time ago now) and have also worked in a nanny agency, if you had called any one of the agencies that I worked at we wouldn;t have been able to help you.

I would suggest you talk to an agency and ask about the average salary in your area.

Not being funny but can I ask why you home tutor your girls, was there a problem at school?

newlifenewname · 28/06/2007 19:47

I'm not surprised. Sounds like everyone's stressed apart from you who has been blissfully unaware for weeks!

morningpaper · 28/06/2007 19:48
annh · 28/06/2007 19:48

This still doesn't add up. How long has your husband been off sick? Years? Who was educating the girls before that? If the girls didn't want her to go, perhaps sitting down with her and working out a more realistic schedule for her might be have been a better idea.

morningpaper · 28/06/2007 19:48

(Only joking Sindy, I just wanted to show off)

lulumama · 28/06/2007 19:49

and award for best icon goes to ....

MORNINGPAPER!

foxinsocks · 28/06/2007 19:49

at least when you are all in the new house, you can put the children to work and get them to help build it.

Cheapest form of labour. You won't even need a nanny.

SindyW · 28/06/2007 19:50

The nanny didn't do the shopping. She couldn't go out with the autistic child. (needs 2 people she runs away a lot and refuses to walk.)

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quint · 28/06/2007 19:50

So the children had a nanny that they loved and didn;t want to leave, she put up with those hours, duties and salary and you just sacked her - good luck finding a replacement!

annh · 28/06/2007 19:50

If your husband is off work with stress, did you not think that perhaps renovating a house (at some distance away?) and home educating 4 children (inc one with SN) might not be the way to go about recovering?

themildmanneredjanitor · 28/06/2007 19:50

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morningpaper · 28/06/2007 19:51

The home ed is obviously working v well because your children are v. bright realising the implications of you knowing that the nanny is not cooking for them sufficiently for them all to be keeping a huge conspiracy going for weeks