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I dont want to work today want to sit in front of the TV eating chocs

Do you think the parnets would mind if I just shut the kids in the playroom and chudk them a few crusts ?

LT - wow you are some c/m! Babies who can write, colour me impressed

I expected you to be nosy!! I was ready to cut and paste the thread for you!!

I've posted an apology and I know shes on, but she's not having it. As I said somewhere, something written can sound very different to different people.

post a link then i've just finished (early ) but got to go and drop dh somewhere but will be back for a nose myself

dmo - ofsted won't touch contractual issues with a barge pole (have been in similar situation with parent myself). they would not have told her anything about you doing a letter. they are only interested in the national standards and whether you keep to them. they would be on your side 100% if they knew your reason for having to take the time off. she has not spoken to them and is just bluffing, i am pretty sure. her employer must be some kind of evil bastard to almost sack her over such a thing, so i guess she has been having some problems at work and they are getting annoyed with her for their own reasons (have also had experience of a parent being sacked because of me taking one day sick, but turned out she was crap at her job and that's why they ditched her).
anyway, if she doesn't agree to pay you the money owed, pass it onto the NCMA legal team. they are currently about to take the parent of an ex-mindee of mine to court for 2 months wages and have been very helpful, although slow.

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MML - sounds like she is p'd off with someone else - not you. Things just can get taken out of context sometimes, but this is looking like a not you thing.

PS - I hate offending people, I loathe it actually - one of those things that keep me up at night, so with you on that one x

You see what I mean though. It only takes one comment and someone on here will do something silly to cause a problem on the other site. I wasn't around when Ginagate started, but I gather it was a silly comment that started it.

Yes, totally.. strange

she has sent me a letter
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the first issue is the fact that you fail to give adequate notice when you are ill.the first time this year was when i came back from hoilday and you texted me on the sunday to say you couldnt have xx on the monday my work place unfortunatly wasnt impressed. the second instant was last friday when you called me before 12.30pm to advise me you were unable to pick x up from school.

i have also seen the way you punish the younger children when they have misbehaved which i dont really like, i really wonder what the parents think of that.
i think i have made my point and its very clear there are a few other instances but arent as important as these

sent the letter to NCMA to see what they say, cant remember punishing the children but my freind who works for childrens information services says this happens all the time when parents owe money as ofsted arnt intrested in contract disputes so she would have to add a bit od spice for them to listen
just really cross at mo

what you need is a crystal ball so you can look into the future when youre going to be ill!

I get moaned at when I'm off all the time!

I had a breast lump removed last year, and was advised to take 3 wks off to recover- should have seen their faces when i told them.

I only took off a week, and went back feeling very rough,sore and not appreciated at all!

Grrrrrrrrrrr!

DMO - this woman sounds like a nightmare!!! would she prefer you to lok after children when you are physically unable to?!??! I'm sure she would soon be wanting your registration removed if you had picked up her child and something had happened to them while you had fainted - I'm sure then it would have been 'why didn't you tell me you weren't feeling well?'

grrrrrr!!! good riddance to bad rubbish is all I can say! I'm sure she will soon pay up if you ask her if her work will let her have a day off to attend court to pay the money she owes you!!

i know one one hand she is saying dont work if ill
but she is one of the reasons i rush back to work when i am ill as i know she cant have time off work
cant win

there is nothing worse than feeling so ill, but knowing you are letting people down. However, Ive now learnt that if you rush back before you are well, you get ten times worse and end up taking even more time off.

parents will always complain about illness, but at the end of the day there is nothing you can do about being ill.

grrrrrrrr.......... and grrrrr again!

she should thank her lucky stars that you were ill on a friday afternoon (and were able to recover over the weekend) and not a monday morning!!!

i know just worried bout ofsted and what they will do as they will have to follow up the childrens punishment
anyway i have 15 sets of parents that will back me up

dont worry about the letter. if you have all the other parents to back you, there is nothing to worry about.

stuuuupid horrid smelly woman she is. ( i added smelly because its horrid to be called smelly) poo to her i say.

you sound like a great childminder, and shes lucky to have had you. some people you just cant please, dont worry about it, her problem not yours.

Silly,silly woman. Why are people so awful?

dmo, you still there?

sorry nally went to bed but didnt sleep have a sick feeling all the time
diet is going fab as i cant eat
but got a fab day planned tomorrow at the mo dont feel like going but i will get my act together

dmo - you ok? why sick?

got a gievence about me from a parent who has wrote to ofted with a whole tail of fibs so i'm upset and angry and just feel sick all the time

how you coping crace? hope your feeling a little better each day, took my friend a long time to get over

Oh DMO! Only just caught up on your problems. You poor thing! Thank god you've got the support of your other parents. I know its hard, but try not to worry, its going to be clear to NCMA or OFSTED or whoever she wants to tell, that this is about her not wanted to pay you. So, has she never phoned in sick, when she's due at work? The woman is clearly insane! I have to say, I did have a similar problem years ago. I had an ectopic which came to light at a most inconvenient time to one of my parents! And do you know, she phoned my dh EVERY day for the week after to see when I would be working again! In the end, my dh was quite rude to her and told her where to go. She did owe me money, but tbh in the grand sceme of things, we'd lost worst!
I hope you can have a nice day tomorrow, whatcha got planned then?

Oh I missed that somewhere - I bet you are feeling awful about that. Bless you, I know there is nothing I can say, if someone told me not to worry about it, nothing you can do blah blah I would still be extremely worried. You've got all those parents though, that will back you up. Hang in there x

I am ok, I have my other two children so I have to get on with it don't I? I am a bit sad today, it was a week ago this morning that it all started but I know Monday will be the worst and I am dreading it. It's so surreal this even happened, but I am coping better than I thought I would.

Dh is already talking about leaving a cycle and trying again. He's mad

MML - we do so inconvenience them don't we? Even when I give a months notice for an appointment they STILL forgot and STILL gave me crap for it.

gald your coping crace it will be hard for a while

i'm going to radio 1's big weekend tomorrow its about 5 mis walk from my house and they have some fab bands on, just cant get myself motivated

Get yourself out there girl - you will have a good time when you get there. You deserve some down time and relaxation.